How can I ask?

[RadiantBlood]

so my mom knows i'm a cutter, and has offered to get me help. But how should i go up to her and ask her to get me help? like i don't think i should just go up to her and be like.. hey mom, i need help, see? i just cut again.

[Syvelocin]

Help as in a professional or something? I would just say that you'd really like someone to talk to now, you know. That you're a bit tense and would like to get a lot off your chest maybe. Something a little more subtle than "I just cut again, I need help." So that she'll know it's important, but won't worry as much.

[RadiantBlood]

yes, a professional or something. so basically just ask to speak to someone now to get some stuff off my chest?

[Syvelocin]

Yeah, pretty much. If she says you can talk to her, I would mention something about getting a knowledgeable person's advice, someone who does this for a living and has gone to school about it, who usually know just what they're talking about. You know, with a PhD in psychology to show off on the wall of their office. XD But yeah, I think a subtle approach would be the most beneficial.

[December]

I agree. You even could bring up her offer before- like saying "remember when you said if I ever needed help [to tell you, to ask, etc]? Well I think I need to talk to someone because...". It sounds like she is understanding, which helps too. Good luck :)

[anonymous53]

Also if you can't handle walking up to her and asking her for the help. Write her a letter and have her read it. That way you can get it all out on paper.

[FullyAlive]

I had to do this, my mum said a similar thing but I had to tell her I was open to the doctors and make me an appointment. But it was fine I worried about nothing.

Just tell her you want the help because you can't deal with stuff alone you don't have to elaborate any further. Good luck though! :)

[Love.Hate]

Just tell her you want the help because you can't deal with stuff alone you don't have to elaborate any further.

This basically.

Tell her that you think its time to talk to someone, who knows what they are talking about. Because you want to get better.

I think the "i want to get better" line convinced my mum it was the right thing to do.

[Fiction]

Basically what everyone else said.

Maybe you could send her an email or a text if it's awkward to talk to her? Or a letter like Rob said.

[Sith Lord 13]

Avoiding saying it to her face is usually a good idea, as you can get nervous and chicken out. A text or a letter would probably be easier.

As to what to say, just remind her that she offered and say you'd like to take her up on that offer. Something like "Hey mom, remember when you suggested getting help? I think I'm ready to start seeing someone"

[RadiantBlood]

great! thanks guys :) when she gets back from her trip i'll write her a letter :)

we used to write letters a lot. and thank you everyone for you help :) i'll let you guys know how it goes.. she gets back in 3 weeks, so.. fingers crossed!