My boyfriend smokes weed.

[Indecision]

So, I just want to say before I start, I'm not the most knowledgeable person on drugs, i've smoked weed once before, can't say it was my best experience ever, but it was a while ago, so I can't really remember.

Me and my boyfriend, we've known each other for 6 months, we've been going out for three days? Yeh, I know, not long. But we know each other like the back of our hands, so eh.

I know he's smoked tobacco before, and didn't particularly like it (probably would try it again thoughh...), but he told me today he's been doing weed. He asked me if I wanted him to stop.

The thing is, I'm worrying about him a lot, worrying if he gets addicted to worse drugs, worried something will go wrong. Should I be worried?
What should I say to him about it? I don't want to be that nagging girlfriend that holds him back from everything, but I need to talk to him 'bout it.~

*Btw, he's not the kind of person who would get me into drugs, ever ever ever.
He's probably one of the kindest people I knoww, so, eh.

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[Airfan]

You shouldn't tell him to stop but you should talk to him tell him you are concerned. If he really cares he will stop.

[staying_alive]

So, I just want to say before I start, I'm not the most knowledgeable person on drugs, i've smoked weed once before, can't say it was my best experience ever, but it was a while ago, so I can't really remember.

Me and my boyfriend, we've known each other for 6 months, we've been going out for three days? Yeh, I know, not long. But we know each other like the back of our hands, so eh.

I know he's smoked tobacco before, and didn't particularly like it (probably would try it again thoughh...), but he told me today he's been doing weed. He asked me if I wanted him to stop.

The thing is, I'm worrying about him a lot, worrying if he gets addicted to worse drugs, worried something will go wrong. Should I be worried?
What should I say to him about it? I don't want to be that nagging girlfriend that holds him back from everything, but I need to talk to him 'bout it.~

Well...I'm slightly confused by the way you're approaching this. Typically its "My significant other does drugs, and I really hate drugs so I want he/she to stop". However you seem to approaching it much more open-mindedly.

Honestly, I think you're worried about him because of your own lack of experience on the subject - I mean no offense by this, and I only say it because you seem to acknowledge this in your post. You really have no reason to be worried unless it's damaging his life or your relationship. Seeing as your relationship is 3 days old, it might take some time for any effects to become prominent.

If, however, you're truly concerned for his health or for a reason other than just not understanding marijuana, talk about it with him. Tell him, in a non-nagging way, of your feelings on it and see what he says. It seems to me that he's very willing to stop using it if you say so.

Good luck.

[Sith Lord 13]

So, I just want to say before I start, I'm not the most knowledgeable person on drugs, i've smoked weed once before, can't say it was my best experience ever, but it was a while ago, so I can't really remember.

Me and my boyfriend, we've known each other for 6 months, we've been going out for three days? Yeh, I know, not long. But we know each other like the back of our hands, so eh.

I know he's smoked tobacco before, and didn't particularly like it (probably would try it again thoughh...), but he told me today he's been doing weed. He asked me if I wanted him to stop.

The thing is, I'm worrying about him a lot, worrying if he gets addicted to worse drugs, worried something will go wrong. Should I be worried?
What should I say to him about it? I don't want to be that nagging girlfriend that holds him back from everything, but I need to talk to him 'bout it.~

Ask him if he wants to stop. If he wants to stop, agree to be his reason to stop. If he doesn't want to stop, then I suggest relaxing. Weed isn't nearly as likely as people think to lead to harder drugs, and you can always make it clear to him that if he move on to harder drugs you'll be finished with him.

[ShatteredWings]

Alex, she shouldn't lower her views for her boyfriend, if pot is a dealbreaker it's a dealbreaker

That said, weed isn't the gateway drug the media makes it out to be. You do need to talk to him about it, because it's obviously conserning you, but your fears aren't fully founded. Good luck

[ImNicole]

Don't piss him off, if hes high he'll probably hurt you without meaning it, just break up with him, hes not gonna get anywhere in life.

[ShatteredWings]

Don't piss him off, if hes high he'll probably hurt you without meaning it, just break up with him, hes not gonna get anywhere in life.

You're thinking of hard drugs. Weed is known to mellow people out

[snowblinded]

I think if you have a problem with it then maybe talk to him about stopping. If not it'll probably all be fine as long as he's ok with it and you are aswell. My (now ex) boyfriend used to do weed occasionally and we were fine as he didn't pressure me into anything although both of us were very open minded about it. It was never a problem as we both understood that it's not as bad as it can sometimes be made out to be. Since we broke up I know that he smokes it more or less all the time (as we are still very good friends) and I can see that this is the point where it might become a bit of a problem...

Anyway, sorry for not making sense and rambling :) But in short: if you don't mind him doing it and it doesn't get in the way of your relationship then it should be fine :D

[Zach420]

It is HIS life after all but if you are that much against it tell him to stop, it's really not a big deal though

[shamsher21]

So, I just want to say before I start, I'm not the most knowledgeable person on drugs, i've smoked weed once before, can't say it was my best experience ever, but it was a while ago, so I can't really remember.

Me and my boyfriend, we've known each other for 6 months, we've been going out for three days? Yeh, I know, not long. But we know each other like the back of our hands, so eh.

I know he's smoked tobacco before, and didn't particularly like it (probably would try it again thoughh...), but he told me today he's been doing weed. He asked me if I wanted him to stop.

The thing is, I'm worrying about him a lot, worrying if he gets addicted to worse drugs, worried something will go wrong. Should I be worried?
What should I say to him about it? I don't want to be that nagging girlfriend that holds him back from everything, but I need to talk to him 'bout it.~

the boi actually cares about your opinions... my gf told me a lonnng time ago to quit and i did...

ex now... :/

[staying_alive]

Don't piss him off, if hes high he'll probably hurt you without meaning it, just break up with him, hes not gonna get anywhere in life.

Yeah...this never happens. Maybe on Meth or Cocaine, which are stimulants. You could even be thinking of alcohol (a depressant) causing violence, but this is a rarity and is typically seen once someone has serious alcoholism.

And for all you know, her boyfriend is a 4.0 student going to Harvard next year. Don't make assumptions with no evidence or experience, it only makes you look stupid.

[Cheri J]

I think you should let him do it, but only to a point. Every now and then is okay, but when he starts doing it weekly and if he goes to school high, then you should tell him to stop. Even though weed is not technically considered a drug, i dont care what anyone says it is highly addictive. Me and my boyfriend went through some hard times when he was smoking pot. But that was because he was doing it every day all day long. Weed being used as a recreational "once in a while" kind of thing is okay. So i would say let him, but just watch to make sure it doesn't become a problem.

As for the "gateway into drugs" assumption, the only gateway into drugs is knowing people that do them. So if your boyfriend stays away from the people that are doing meth coke or hard drugs like that he shouldn't be tempted to do them.

Hope I helped :]

[Hailstorm]

u shouldent be worried about it but if u would like him to stop just tell him straight out and if he cared about you he would.

[Tango]

Just tell him exactly what you told us.

If you want him to stop because you don't like it, and he doesn't, I would break up with him. But he seems to be nice about (asking if you want him to stop.)

[Cap'nCrunch]

So, I just want to say before I start, I'm not the most knowledgeable person on drugs, i've smoked weed once before, can't say it was my best experience ever, but it was a while ago, so I can't really remember.

Me and my boyfriend, we've known each other for 6 months, we've been going out for three days? Yeh, I know, not long. But we know each other like the back of our hands, so eh.

I know he's smoked tobacco before, and didn't particularly like it (probably would try it again thoughh...), but he told me today he's been doing weed. He asked me if I wanted him to stop.

The thing is, I'm worrying about him a lot, worrying if he gets addicted to worse drugs, worried something will go wrong. Should I be worried?
What should I say to him about it? I don't want to be that nagging girlfriend that holds him back from everything, but I need to talk to him 'bout it.~

If he's the type of bloke who would smoke weed regularly and start using more 'dangerous' drugs, then he is not a good guy for you to be around. You do NOT want to be pulled into his drug use! Tell him you don't like the idea of him smoking all the time and if he doesn't alter his behavior then ditch him. Seriously.

[Skankster]

No, it should be fine. As long as he does not get addicted to it. I'd say if he's smoking a bowl/blunt more twice a month you should tell him you're concerned. If he starts smoking ciggs stop him. Weed is no where near as bad as ciggs. Ciggs are filled with shit that will end up badly and have NO good affect or high or anything. Just make sure he doesn't get addicted.