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Forest Rose
June 4th, 2011, 08:52 AM
I don't have an eating disorder, but I suppose that quite a few times I've been leaning towards disordered eating. When I was eleven I wasn't obsessed about food or calories or weight, but I remember skipping meals because I was upset and because it made me feel better and more in control of everything, and myself. When I was 12 I started "dieting" throwing away lunches at school and so on. I still never even weighed myself but started to truly hate myself, my personality and appearance at times.

When I was 13 I completely stopped eating in front of people. Now I still can't bring myself to eat with others. I started eating less, counting calories and weighing myself, but truthfully I never lost more than about 8lbs at a time, and always ended up gaining it back by going back to "normal" and eating more. It made me feel out of control, and I did make myself sick a few times but never regularly. I started self-harming by cutting, and in the autumn/winter 2010 again lost half a stone. I was underweight though, at the time. Eventually I yet again started eating more and gained weight until recently when I've started to lose again. I know it sounds incredibly silly, me here losing and then gaining, eating less and then eating normally. Not too long ago I overdosed several times and I don't feel in control of my mind or body or life without eating less and losing weight. I feel as if it's the only way to manage things. I'm not underweight now, 3lbs above "underweight". I've been eating less and exercising more, for instance I haven't eaten anything today or yesterday and probably won't for longer.

I'll be seeing CAMHS (Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services) soon because of self-harm, suicide attempts and eating problems, although I don't really even think they are that. I'm tempted to just tell them that I'm eating completely normally now, and that there's no problem anymore, and that wouldn't even exactly be a lie. My inconsistency drives me crazy. I know that this time will be different, after everything that happened, suicide attempts, self-harm, and just the uncontrollable way that I generally feel.

I suppose I just want to ask your opinions although I don't have an eating disorder or even disordered eating, probably. I'm scared to post this, in a way, because I think that people will probably think I'm just stupid reading this. What do you think I should say to CAMHS?

Love.Hate
June 4th, 2011, 11:58 AM
Well to start off with your not stupid, you need to tell CAMHS the truth.. how your eating patterns are irregular.. How you loose the weight then gain it back again.. Because they cant help you if you arent being honest. Im glad your going to see them, hopefully they will bring your self confidence back up, because it sounds like you need it.

Go and eat something, putting your body into starvation mode isnt going to solve or do anything. It just means that everything you eat will be conserve as fat, thats why they reccomend eating little and often.

There are other ways to manage things, not eating and self harming are not them. Hopefully the people at CAMHS will be able to give you different techniques to cope with things. New stratiges :)

My eating patterns are up and down too, but it gets easier to deal with over time.

Im always here if you need help, or just want to talk. Tell them the truth, remember they only want is in your best interest.