My mom..my dad...and my issue. (PLZ READ)

[aryadorable]

Well my mom a nd dad got divorced a while ago...ayear or two mabey, but it all seems to be crashing down on me. i cant decided who to live with, who to belive....what to do its all so confusing and the fact that none of my friends have been thru divorce doesnt help at all. i wish i had someone who knew what was going on.

i meani cant think of the subject without geting a lump in my throught or tearing up....and i really need help deciding who to live with.all of my problems with stuff and now this are biuldingup inside and i swear i cant take it anymore i dont even know how to begin describing whats going on in my head right now.




HELP!

[Hyper]

You live with the one who you think would grow you the best and who you get along with well

[xdeviancex]

My parents are divorced but I cant really understand how you feel since I was 4 at the time, but good luck. It'll work itself out, Who do you want to go with. And don't make the decision in a hurry. I suppose your mom because shes a girl. But a Dad is always good and can be really encouraging, pick someone who wouldnt go into drugs or alchohol, try to make a decision that you know will help you along the way.

[Sapphire]

You don't have to take sides. Stay impartial and keep a good relationship with both of them. Just because they don't get along with each other at the moment doesn't mean you can't get along with both of them.

When it comes to choosing which to live with. Choose the one that you feel you will be happier with. Maybe one will let you out later than the other. Or one will let you have boyfriends over. If they are both going to live fairly near to each other (same town/city) then this choice can be less focused on where you go to school etc and more on which would give you the most freedom. Just reassure them its not because you don't like them.

Divorce is an emotional event and is bound to cause you upset. Given time you will be able to think about it without the emotional reaction you are having at the moment. Trust me, it gets easier. (My parents divorced when I was 13, I had known since 10 and even before my dad. Now my mum and dad get on better with each other than with me! lol)

I hope I have helped a bit. If you would like to chat about this or anything else I'm here x

[nick]

You have to make your own decision and not let either parent put you under pressure or try to use you as a pawn in their power struggle. I've been through this about 5 years ago, it was an easy decision for me though. pm me if you want to talk more.

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

Please don't bump old threads. This one was nearly three years old.
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