I love him but hes emberesing...HELP!

[aryadorable]

okay so basicly im the trendsetter among my friends and i always look my best and keep up with styles.but my boyfriend hes a bit on the geeky style side and i really want him to mabey get some new clothes...not to be mean but its weird for me even though im madly in love with him, to be seen in public with him.

how do i tell him to get with the program and buy some new cloths without making him feel bad?:confused:

[RowanVer.3.0]

You should stop being shallow. You seem like an idiot. How old are you, 13? Pretty soon you won't be the "trend setter"... A lot of things change as you grow up, and HOPEFULLY as you lose mindless followers, you'll realize how dumb you were when you were younger. Who cares how he dresses? This just shows how much growing up you have to do... Have fun on your half-hour of power :)

-Rowan

[Hyper]

She could be older but yeah forget it.. Shallow, useless life and friends dont realy serve ya right

[Mr. Deere]

...not to be mean but its weird for me even though im madly in love with him, to be seen in public with him.
If you are embarresed to be in public with him, he may not be the right man for you.

[schrei jess]

Though it is a tad shallow, I understand what she is saying. But what is important is if you really love him, and you say you do, so you need to forget about his style and focus on what is in his inside! If you cant, then you need to do two things; 1.) Get your priorities fixed and see people for what they are on the inside rather than the outside, and 2.) Let him find someone who will love him dispite his appearence. :yes:

[Mannequin]

You guys are such hypocrites, in the teenage stage of life nearly everyone is self conscious about who they date and who they hangout with. Buy your bf some damn clothes and hell have to wear them because you bought them for him. Done deal. OR, make him go shopping with you. Tell him. Damn, youd look hot with this or this on...etc
easy stuff

[Maverick]

okay so basicly im the trendsetter among my friends and i always look my best and keep up with styles.but my boyfriend hes a bit on the geeky style side and i really want him to mabey get some new clothes...not to be mean but its weird for me even though im madly in love with him, to be seen in public with him.

how do i tell him to get with the program and buy some new cloths without making him feel bad?:confused:
Some guys need a girl's touch with things like that. It doesn't exactly make you a bad person that you want to "tweak" him a bit. In a relationship you should complement each other.

It all depends how you approach it. Don't go and buy him clothes then throw his old ones away then tell him "you're wearing this now." But more like do what Austin said. He'll be less defensive that way.

You are not shallow because you want him to get better clothes. You are actually doing him a favor in the end. ;)

[Glasgow]

You guys are such hypocrites, in the teenage stage of life nearly everyone is self conscious about who they date and who they hangout with. Buy your bf some damn clothes and hell have to wear them because you bought them for him. Done deal. OR, make him go shopping with you. Tell him. Damn, youd look hot with this or this on...etc
easy stuff

Yea, but i wouldnt change my style just so a girl would like me. Nor should anyone else

[RowanVer.3.0]

Jeeze, I don't give a shit who I hang out with. Most of my friends aren't "in" or "cool" with most people anymore.

Fuck, to be hip a now days around where I live you have to smoke pot and pretend you're a gangster. Seriously, I've never judged girls on how they dress or if they're scene, I don't know what you mean Mannequin.

See, I can understand maybe if she isn't attracted to him, but she claims she is. She just doesn't think he's cool enough.

That's shallow. Not being attracted to someone isn't. If a girl ever said she really liked me but she just wished I would "get with the program" or some bullshit like that, I'd laugh at her thinking it was a joke.. Then probably dump her ass.

[football]

well u should try to be a little less self caring why do u care what kind on clothes he wears lol i never knew ppl dated for fashion

[Glasgow]

lol i never knew ppl dated for fashion

Oh trust me, it happens alot.

[Activate]

okay so basicly im the trendsetter among my friends and i always look my best and keep up with styles.but my boyfriend hes a bit on the geeky style side and i really want him to mabey get some new clothes...not to be mean but its weird for me even though im madly in love with him, to be seen in public with him.

how do i tell him to get with the program and buy some new cloths without making him feel bad?:confused:

Trust me hun, if you were truely in love with him, you wouldn't care what he wore or if you were with him in public, you would just be happy your with him.
Thats just how I feel.. I dunno about you, but if you don't. Your well... one bitch...

[aryadorable]

thnks anthony and manniquen.

but jeez people yer a bit on the mean side. and by the way im 16.
and im sorry im so 'shallow'.

[football]

well let me say sry but i mean comon if ur embarresed with him its common sense to break of the relationship...

[greenwise]

Haha; i had a similar problem.
and i asked my aunt about it.

She said she had the same issue in highschool.
She was popular, in with the trends and stuff, but her BESTFRIEND wasnt.

so one day she just said.
"You need to get your shit together, and become popular. you need to change stuff. get it together. now."

haha.
still best friends.
& still trendy.

hah.

[Maverick]

thnks anthony and manniquen.

but jeez people yer a bit on the mean side. and by the way im 16.
and im sorry im so 'shallow'.
You're not shallow. A lot of these people probably haven't been in your situation. They just don't understand. Don't take it to heart. Sometimes people we like have minor flaws and there's nothing wrong with addressing them. :)

[football]

yea u if u talk to him jus say that u wanna take him 2 the mall and show him wut would be nice for him 2 wear

[chelsea714]

hey you know it may be shallow but I totally understand. just go shopping with him and point out some cute clothes but be nice about it