Can't get hard during sex lately and depressed.

[Blake1994]

Ok so this is my first post on this subject and I'm pretty confused and scared about some things.

I'm 17 and I recently went through a really bad breakup with my girlfriend after she cheated on me with some other guy in our school. We were together for a year. We had sex a few times and we never had any problems. Anyway since our breakup I've been going through some pretty dark spots and feeling depressed. I haven't felt the energy or the strength to even play sports and everything. I have always been a big athlete.

Anyway, I was at a party with some people from school the other night and there was one of a girl in one of my classes there. We got to talking and then after a while we went to one of the bedrooms in the house and she gave me a blowjob. Anyway, I had no problem getting hard for that, but afterwards we had actual sex too, or at least tried to. The problem is I lost my boner while we were having sex and I couldn't get hard again. I was so embarrassed, that I just apologized to her and left. I don't know why but I have felt pretty low since. She acted like something was wrong with me and it is. I am only 17 and I can't get hard lately, even to try and jerk off. She wasn't the first girl I lost my boner with too. I was with this other girl shortly after me and my ex broke up and the same thing happened.

I know I should see my doctor about it, but I'm just really embarrassed. I just can't seem to stop thinking about my ex all the time. Even when I was having sex with the other girls, it was like I was still thinking about my ex and couldn't get hard. But now, like I said I can't even get hard to jerk off now. Since I'm 17 am I too young to get Viagra? I have a feeling I may need it. I know I need to get over my ex but it is so damn hard too. I am feeling so down lately too. Any advice at all? Please?

Thanks,
-Blake.

[anonymous53]

How about hold off on meaningless sex until you're over your ex?

[Blake1994]

How about hold off on meaningless sex until you're over your ex?

Yeah I suppose, but sometimes its not that easy.

[anonymous53]

Yes it really is, just say you're not ready.

[Dimitri]

I have to agree with amo here, you don't want to turn into charlie sheene do you? Meaningless sew is no fun at all.

[kyle95]

It sounds like a combo of depression, performance anxiety and guilt. I wouldn't jump into other relationships so fast since you're clearly not over the last. Also, I could be wrong, but I don't think having sex with a total stranger helps matters. Unless you're a sex athlete, things like relationships, breakups, etc will effect you. I think you're normal :)

[Pancakes]

That's kinda odd...

[Blake1994]

guess u just gotta get over it

Trust me I'm trying to.

[Continuum]

That's kinda odd...

Thanks, Captain Obvious.

Like Dmitri said, meaningless sex is, well, meaningless. Just let this pass for a while. Time should fix everything else.

[Wicked_Syn]

Yo, I aint gonna criticize you. This isn't my place to. Anyway, I don't think you have ED...You seem pretty upset over your ex..that could definitely be the source as to why you can keep Jimmy up. In your case, I really don't know what to say. But I definitely believe it's something to do with your ex. The depression and hurt you feel can be the source of your problems.

It's been said that depression can cause all kinds of health problems, so I would suggest talking to your doctor about it. Just tell him that you've been really depressed lately and because of it, it's interfered with you having sex.

[somethingrandom]

I'd just avoid sex until you're in another relationship, because it seems like you probably just have some feelings for your ex and feel guilty about having sex with other girls, as weird as that may seem. Stick with blowjobs, since you dont seem to have much of a problem with those.

And you definitely shouldn't be on viagra or anything like that. Those drugs are bad for you, all they do is lower your blood pressure and make it easier for blood to get into your dick.

[huntingirl2011]

hm.. my advice would be to date (without sex) to get over her... soon enough you will realize there is probably someone way cooler than her. right now you may not think so, but eventually your feelings will change. i am 19 and i still am having trouble getting over my ex. but i go on dates and group dates. not as a whore or anything, but to see what else is out there and broaden my outlook on different types of people there are...

[LuckyLuke]

STOP with the one night stands! You're trying to fill a whole *pun not intended* that you shouldn't fill. Allow the pain to come, deal with it healthily, and move on. You clearly have feelings for your ex but don't let it dictate your life.

[DeEnd]

,,,,,,

[Sith Lord 13]

It sounds like your emotions are getting in the way of your erection. Take a break, and work through your emotions, then you can get right back onto the horse without anymore embarrassing problems.

[tinead]

i had a bad break up to an when i fianly met someone new i had the problem with not being able to last more thank 5 minutes having sex .. first of all thee girl i was seeing was mad that i couldnt keep it up but after a while she understould what was up k with me and she was ok with me only lastin 5mins as she now if she waits about 2hrs i can get it up again as when we have sex the second time i can last about 15mins