does this make me a bad person

[ackmedsgirl666]

i am just having a very hard time accepting people who are transgender.
does this make me a bad person. i am trying and eventually i will accept but then another person will come up to me and say their trans. my bestfriend is trans, my gf is trans, and my bestfriends gf is possibly trans. idk what it is. like i know that ppl have a right to be happy but it just bugs me. god made u whatever gender you are for a reason. i just don't know what to do. do i just pretend. or suck it up and take it as it is.. so confused

i feel like i am a horrible person for not accepting transmen or women
am i a bad person?

[mrbob360]

no ur not a bad person its just ur personal opinion just as their are some people who don't like black people or people who don't like gays just don't let it get in the way of you living ur life :) such as going on a mad rampage or being nasty to them for who they are

[ackmedsgirl666]

oh ok. i just feel like these ppl are out to get me to try and accept them but its very very hard and i find it hard to cope with.

[Magenta]

I know what you mean. It's like me and gays. I love gay people and I'm bi but sometimes I'm... wary. I think it's because I swing more towards guys and the whole concept is just new to me. Ask questions. Learn about trans people and you'll feel better. :)

[clr9823]

Before I fell for a guy, I thought that guys and guys together was... yeah, maybe even disgusting. I mean, this was while I was only 14 and I wasn't even interested in having a girlfriend at the time... but I know how it feels.

Quite honestly, if you cannot reconcile in your head a way someone lives then you are not a bad person, unless you act on those thoughts through hurting a certain group of people. If you want to try and feel better about it though, then I don't know if you have already but you should talk to them about it. Just be honest and explain how you feel, and if they're your bestfriend then they should be able to talk about it and explain it to you from their perspective that may help you.

But no, just because you're uncomfortable with something doesn't and never will make you a bad person.

[ackmedsgirl666]

i don't do or say anything to hurt them i just pretend to accept them but on the inside i feel bad knowing i can't accept them and it hurts

[Extreme586]

We all have different dislikes, your not a bad person for that its just your opinion.
Also its good that your not mean to them on the outside, even if you feel different about it inside, putting up a false feeling for it is pretty nice of you actually. :)

[Mewp]

We all have issues with certain groups: I find myself baffled and intellectually condescending towards people who hold religious beliefs, and holding a strong dislike of Islam in particular. My gut reaction is that it's a repressive, totalitarian, militant ideology which threatens everything I believe in.

However, the trick is examining your feelings and addressing why you feel that way. A lot of the time, our prejudices have to do with inaccurate notions and our surroundings; for myself, probably a dose of xenophobia and growing up with several Marxist relatives, respectively.

[ackmedsgirl666]

ahhh ok i see.... like what bugs me the most about it is that i am kinda creeped out by it i mean ur either a girl or boy for a reason and then ppl run out and change it
my friends excuse for why ppl do this is so they feel accepted

[Jawbreaker]

I really suggest you watch this episode of Tyra Banks: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nAOFGSHGJlc

I never really understood how people came to think of themselves as transgender until I watched it.

I'm also going to question your reason for discomfort. What do you mean "born this gender for a reason"? After all, let us consider what we're talking about. Do you really think a penis or a vagina defines a person? If not, then it is very much possible that even if someone has a certain body, they do not feel comfortable with the way they were born. Put this way, transgendered people are just facing the same bodily struggles everyone else does. I mean, it really is no different than people who were born with a propensity to be "fat" to exercise or people who are naturally skinny to gain more weight or work out. When changing our behavior or perception for ourselves, we don't usually say "oh, wait, I shouldn't change because God made me like this for a reason" and I don't see why this should only apply to transgendered people.

I hope this helps in understanding the people around you.