lost the best friend i ever had

[Sterling26]

to put it simply, i met this incredible guy this year and he grew to be my best friend, until i screwed it up. i became so close to him that i started confusing my feelings of brotherly love towards him with romantic feelings, until i suffocated him with my attention. he basically told me he finds my desire to be such good friends with him weird, and we haven't been the same since. my feelings of attraction have withered away, but i still really miss him as a friend, but i feel like its too late. i want things to be back to the way they were so bad, but idk how to fix things. i fucked up. :(

[Contra]

It's not too late to revive your friendship, it may take a bit of work by both parties and time, but you can still get to the point you were before.
You should talk to him and say you miss having him as a friend, from what it seems, you were very good friends, so I bet he misses having you around too. You'll never know if you don't try it!

[Sterling26]

thanks, ive calmed down a bit since i wrote this, and i think im just going to try to take things back to how they were a couple months ago, as in no discussion of sexual stuff and no relying on him for help with my problems (i got VT for that now :) ), and hopefully thaat will lessen my dependence on him and we can get back to being really good friends

[kittylou]

I agree with Contra - it probably won't be easy but it's probably not too late. If you can, sit down and talk about it. Explain how much you miss the friendship and how things would be different now.

[Bimmerhead]

Well it sounds to me like he just needs some space. Hang out with your other friends and just keep a distance for awile. Eventually it will blow over. But learn to keep some boundaries for the future.

[Forest Rose]

I'm sorry that this has happened, as it can be really upsetting to lose a friend, but like others said,it's not to late to revive the friendship. It will take time and effort and he may need a little space at first, but it would be a shame not to try and keep a friendship that important to you. :)