Possible Problem?

[KillerKing]

Hiya Guys,

OK so it's embarassing enough so I'll just jump straight into it. I've been with my girlfriend for a few months now and we really both want to have sex but the first time we went to, we didn't have much time and it was really off putting because it was more of a 'quick, as fast as you can 'situation, and so i got nervous and couldn't get it up. After a few weeks we went to try a secon time, we had plenty more time this time except i was finding it hard to stay turned on (maintain erection) like at first i got really hard, but then it went away for a bit then when it came back it wasn't as hard as the first time.. Basically If you can't see where this is going I'm having problems keeping or gettin it up. I figured this was the best place seen as there are so many guys out there who hopefully can help. Just what the hell do I do? Also, I find that when we're just having fun, like nothing serious maybe just kissing and "exploring" I may get really hard the first time then when i focus on turning her on, mine goes away then it'll come back and the more this happens the weaker it gets each time...

Any help guys? Pleaseeeeee this is so infuriating!

[JMEE]

It just sounds like nerves to me, if it is theres not much you can do about it apart from calm down and remember she's probably just as scared as you are. If you don't think its nerves then you might benefit by speaking to your Doctor about it.

[mytmouse]

Yeah, I bet it's nerves and maybe it's your body's way of saying you're not ready yet so dont rush it.

[KillerKing]

I don't feel like my nerves are higher than anyone else for their first time, although shes not a virgin but I am.

[cwwdr95]

Maybe your not ready for it. I would try again in few months if I was you

[FlyingPanda]

First of all. Be safe. use protection. Second, its probably being nervous. I would try fooling around first. Get her off with your hand then ask her for a hand job? Then you will be more comfortable moving on later.

[IAMWILL]

Just take some deep breaths and don't be worried at all or feel embarrassed. Your girlfriend will still like you even if you can't perform so to speak.

[Jawbreaker]

It's probably a combination of nerves and not enough foreplay. Try and take it slow and to your pace.

[janthem]

yea like everyone else said its your nerves. You just need to calm your nerves. Shes your girlfriend so i'm sure she'll be loving and understanding bout your anxiety over sex. Just try to be comfortable around each other.

[buddha123]

It sounds like u might not be ready for sex...i know the few times it happened to me it was because i wasnt ready and i was worried about sinning so it was hard to get and stay hard...

[TrackKid29]

just try to do more foreplay so youll get into and as you do it more youll get less nervous and youll be good

[Lil Ill]

sounds like you thinking about it too much, it's okay to be nervous just tried to let it come naturally, don't think about if she has more experience than you or if you have less experience than her just relax

[Calex]

Your are just nervous that's all. Just calm down a bit and don't think that much about it, just do it haha