deciding if I want to come out

[Wicked_Syn]

I've always known I wasn't straight. I've always had things for guys. I've always been a bit more connected with them and feel a bit more closer to them. In the past, I was always trying stuff out with guys and for a while a thought I may have been gay.
Now I've come to the point where I want to seek out a relationship with another male. It feels as if I have a weight on my chest and I feel like I am holding my self back. I honestly don't really care what anyone thinks but then I kind of do.
I was just wondering how some of your guys experience with coming out have been? Was your family and friends supportive? Where you able to get into the relationship scene?

Oh..yeah I'm bi. Maybe borderline gay lol, forgot to put that.

[wheels777]

I personally am not gay but have friends and relatives that are. Unfortunately one in particular was disowned by his family because of their religion, but all my other gay relatives and friends have 'came out' and been accepted. So yes when you come out there may be a few that cannot accept it due to their beliefs, but if they care for you they will realise your no different just because you won't be with someone of the opposite sex. Good luck!!

[Infidelitas]

This goes in Teen Sexuality.

P101 Questions for Both :arrow: Teen Sexuality

[Nelson]

Each coming out experience varies.
When I came out, My dad kicked me out for a week, and then took me back in, that was in January 2010, it took him until about November last year to fully be accepting (He jokes about it every now and then)

You have to be completly sure you want to come out, It's a major lifestyle change, You may loose some friends when you do it, but you will definitly gain a whole heap of true friends, Family will just have to accept you and deal with it, Your their son, If they don't like it, Don't hide it..

Relationships will be hard to come by in the first couple of months, it may take longer, and also it depends where you live, if you live in a generally LGBTQ-accepting town, you should be fine :)
If you ever want to talk about the whole coming out thing, just send me a PM or a VM or ask for an addy :)
Hope I helped a bit :)

[OneTwo]

well you need to figure out if your family is supportive. are they homophobic. do they make anti gay remarks. if they do then why would you want to tell them. it would just make your home life difficult, and being gay\bi has enough problems attached to it. so you prolly have some close friends that you could start off coming out to just to make things easier on urself. but it sounds like you've still got some thinking to do you said 'you were holding yourself back' so think things over and come out to yourself first. if that makes sense. good luck

[PAfarmerkid]

Coming out can be quite hard, and a challenge. I came out to my 2 best friends back in January, best thing I have ever done, I feel like Im not keeping anythign in anymore. It has caused some issues with my one friend but at the same time making the friendship better. My other friend was very very supportive though, and asked some questions and I also asked him questions bout some stuff too (hes straight but curious I found out) Like I said it felt like a whole lot of weigt off my shoulders.

[Starlight Blaze]

I've always known I wasn't straight. I've always had things for guys. I've always been a bit more connected with them and feel a bit more closer to them. In the past, I was always trying stuff out with guys and for a while a thought I may have been gay.
Now I've come to the point where I want to seek out a relationship with another male. It feels as if I have a weight on my chest and I feel like I am holding my self back. I honestly don't really care what anyone thinks but then I kind of do.
I was just wondering how some of your guys experience with coming out have been? Was your family and friends supportive? Where you able to get into the relationship scene?

Well mine was actually great! Almost everyone has been supportive, I mean one "friend" hates me now but I already didn't like him :P And another one of my friends and I fought about it, but then his mom gave him a stern talking to :D Apparently now I am a lot happier and more confident, so that's always a plus ;)
as far as relationships go, I'm newly out, like almost a month, so I haven't really found anybody though I am looking for someone to date, it's just a problem of looking and waiting

[Wicked_Syn]

Coming out can be quite hard, and a challenge. I came out to my 2 best friends back in January, best thing I have ever done, I feel like Im not keeping anythign in anymore. It has caused some issues with my one friend but at the same time making the friendship better. My other friend was very very supportive though, and asked some questions and I also asked him questions bout some stuff too (hes straight but curious I found out) Like I said it felt like a whole lot of weigt off my shoulders.

Thanks everyone for your answers, sorry I haven't replied to any of these. Internet has been down for a while now. But it is back up.

As for you PAfarmerkid, I totally understand what you mean about telling your best friend. Last year I told my "ex-best friend" and he was totally supportive and understanding of how I felt, it made us closer too.

But anyway, I am deciding that I will be staying in the closet for a while more. I don't find it necessary to tell everyone that I like both genders. I may tell my sister though. I really want her to know.

I just thought I would ask this though because I am starting to develop more feelings and relationship longing with other guys.

Thanks though!

[Mewp]

My experience coming out was pretty good, to be honest. Both my parents were liberal and supportive, though it's not something we talk so much about; maybe if I ever get a serious enough boyfriend to show to the folks :p

I don't believe I lost any friends, actually. People were surprised when I told them, but they reacted either positively or indifferently; they certainly never said anything to my face and/or my friends if they felt otherwise.

If you can, I'd advise at least telling some close friends - it's always stressful to have to be concealing some core aspect of yourself.

[Extreme586]

Honestly its not something I would ever really want people to know. I feel like the only person I would ever want to know is the person I'm attracted to. The last thing I would want is to deal with a bunch of immature people around me. I like where I'm at and if I have to play the straight card then so be it, the only person who needs to know otherwise is the one I care about.

[Parlement]

Coming out to my friends was very easy for me. I just waited for the (jokingly) comment that "You're so gay" and said "I know :D"

I'm pretty sure they took it as a joke though. As for my family, I just live with my mom, and I'm pretty sure she suspects.

I'm going to wait awhile to see if I'm just curious, or actually bisexual though to tell her.

My friends have been completely supportive, nothing really changed.