Physical vs. Emotional

[IanMilo]

So, until recently (last night) I was always very sure about being gay. However, last night I had band banquet. So I went with one of my newer friends Mallory. Anyways, Mallory had become a really good friend this year. And at banquet I realized I really like her, more than just a friend. So I really want to ask her out. Basically my problem is simple: I'm physically attracted to males more often than females. On the other hand, I have never had an emotional attachment to a male. So my question is, to anyone who has ever faced this situation, did you ever grow out of the physical attraction to men?

[EarthToBryan]

Well, you can be attracted to whoever you want. Most of the time sexuality isn't black and white. I have the same conundrum, I am attracted to both but mostly emotionally to women. Oh well, I'm just going to go with my bodies flow and see where I end up.

[ackmedsgirl666]

same here
i am physically and mentally attached to women but sexually attracted to men
i mean don't get me wrong. i enjoy sex with women but i don't enjoy it as much and find myself more attracted to men

[Trickster]

The age old questions. Look honestly I think everyone is bi not gay or straight. Because I like boys, but When i see a girl in heels and a tight dress with boobs and a nice butt I will look. World isnt painted with one stroke of the brush. If you think you like her, go for it. I mean if it doesnt work out, its something you will learn that you like boys better. Your young so you should see what the world is not just what people paint it to be

[Mewp]

same here
i am physically and mentally attached to women but sexually attracted to men
i mean don't get me wrong. i enjoy sex with women but i don't enjoy it as much and find myself more attracted to men

This is pretty much my feelings in a nutshell. I don't think you so much as grow out of physical attraction as grow into emotional attachment to men (who, in many cultures, have issues expressing their emotions and feelings and have had minimal practice at doing so).

[Nelson]

Everyone is bisexual to an extent, Gay and straight are silly.
You gotta try all the grapes on the bunch, One day you might have an emotional attraction to a guy, but in the meantime, keep your options open.

[Syvelocin]

I don't agree that everyone is bisexual. Bisexual implies you have a significant attraction to both sexes. I do, however, think that nobody is 100% their sexuality. I think everyone has the capacity to be attracted to someone of either sex, and if they've never met someone of one sex that they are attracted to, then they just haven't met the right person.

You may grow out of it, you may not. At a very young age, I had this idea that I liked girls and not guys, before I even knew about sexual orientation. Until I was about fourteen, I exclusively had crushes on guys. Then I had a crush on a girl, and crushes on girls continued to come like tidal waves, that they outnumbered the few guy crushes I've had.

I do now identify as lesbian though, as I've realized I'm only actually capable of emotional attraction to men, but I'm attracted in every way to girls. And I think it's safe to say at 19, I haven't grown out of it.

Don't get too hung up about it. If you like the girl, go for it. If you meet a guy you want to be with, do that. Don't think about it too much, especially as a teenager.