Overweight girlfriend

[gleeguy]

So, I have been dating a overweight girl for about 2 weeks, she is really nice and cute :wub: but she's obese, we get along great and stuff but when we go to a dance or something I get made fun of because next to me she looks huge, so my question is what do I do i mean I like and can handle a relationship with her, I mean dancing with a large girl is different but I get used to it, and we really like each other and we have the same interests and junk but the strain I feel from society is strong and it's hard to be with her because of it, so what do I do, any advice is welcome! :confused:

[Sage]

Either build the nerve to tell her to lose weight or dump her. You clearly don't like this about her and it's putting a strain on the relationship that you will have to deal with sooner or later.

[gleeguy]

Either build the nerve to tell her to lose weight or dump her. You clearly don't like this about her and it's putting a strain on the relationship that you will have to deal with sooner or later.

I understand that but I really don't wanna hurt her

[Sterling26]

i went through the same thing, i ended up just drifting apart from her until she ended it, but i feel bad that i did that, especially since she had such an amazing personality. i felt like when i was with her i was so happy but when i wasn't i wanted to break up with her. what i should've done, and what i think you should do, is tell her u wanna be friends with her that way u still get to hang out with her but she isnt your girlfriend

[Church]

Weight shouldn't really matter if you like her. You shouldn't care what people say as long as your happy with her.

[DerBear]

if u really like her you will like her for who she is and you will ignore the people who make comments

[Fairy]

Hi Austin!

It seems like the issue here is that you are worrying about people their opinion too much.
You say you find this girl really special and sweet, despites her physical appearance.
I think that should say enough, despites what other people think.

These days there is SO much pressure on being the ideal 'view' of the perfect girl/boy.
Needing to be this slim/big and all of those things.
I am sure you get my point.

I've always been taught to fight for what I love.
Just like I think anyone else should, don't let what people think-
Ruin what you have or ruin your happiness as I would put it.

Have you tried talking to her about this 'issue'?
I mean, perhaps there is a reason she is bigger than average!
Some people have Thryoid issues or have an illness.
It seems like people don't consider this, before judging and making rude comments.

Good luck with whicever you decide to do.
Just know that if you are happy, it's all that matters.
And aswell if she is happy, of course.:)

*Hug*

[gleeguy]

Thanks everyone, I will take all of your advice into consideration! :)

[macbox84]

Deal w it honestly. Ur kinda being rude and shallow no offense

[Iron Man]

So, I have been dating a overweight girl for about 2 weeks, she is really nice and cute :wub: but she's obese, we get along great and stuff but when we go to a dance or something I get made fun of because next to me she looks huge, so my question is what do I do i mean I like and can handle a relationship with her, I mean dancing with a large girl is different but I get used to it, and we really like each other and we have the same interests and junk but the strain I feel from society is strong and it's hard to be with her because of it, so what do I do, any advice is welcome! :confused:

Why let her weight affect your relationship? If you like her, nothing else matters.

[smithy94]

Just ignore what everyone says, if you like her then thats all that matters, i had a girlfriend that everyone else said was ugly and everything after a few weeks of comments i ended it just to avoid them, and i regretted it for months :/ it is kind of shallow the way your thinking. but good luck anyhows

[BrokenXPaperXDolls]

Hi Austin!

It seems like the issue here is that you are worrying about people their opinion too much.
You say you find this girl really special and sweet, despites her physical appearance.
I think that should say enough, despites what other people think.

These days there is SO much pressure on being the ideal 'view' of the perfect girl/boy.
Needing to be this slim/big and all of those things.
I am sure you get my point.

I've always been taught to fight for what I love.
Just like I think anyone else should, don't let what people think-
Ruin what you have or ruin your happiness as I would put it.

Have you tried talking to her about this 'issue'?
I mean, perhaps there is a reason she is bigger than average!
Some people have Thryoid issues or have an illness.
It seems like people don't consider this, before judging and making rude comments.

Good luck with whicever you decide to do.
Just know that if you are happy, it's all that matters.
And aswell if she is happy, of course.:)

*Hug*


Agreed :) and anyway love is love and it comes in many shapes and sizes

Just be honest with her

[Magus]

I love fat chicks. Fuck dancing.

[anonymous53]

If you're that bothered by her weight tell her. Seriously though, as everyone else said. If you really loved her other peoples snide comments wouldn't bother you.

[Ambrosia]

Because of the fact that you even posted this, and that you even let peoples opinions get to you about her, you obviously aren't comfortable enough dating her. If you let peoples opinions effect how you feel about her then you should just dump her, because it's not fair to her for you to be running around asking people what to do about HER weight because SHE might be COMFORTABLE with it. Or there's another reason she's over weight. It's her problem, not yours.

I'm not obese, but I'm not skinny. I date guys who have the tummy build of toothpicks and next to them I probably DO look obese (And yet, I'm still not). None of them have ever made any kind of comments about my weight, and I've even had guys beg me not to try and lose the weight because they like it. Honestly, if you're going to feel uncomfortable with her weight, you should let her go so she can find someone who likes it.

[Fruit_Tart.]

Why let her weight affect your relationship? If you like her, nothing else matters.
Exactly... If you love her, then none of her characteristics should make you want to split from her. It might be hard, but I'm sure you'll get used to it.

[Donkey]

Being obese is not a characteristic. It's a health problem. If only for her sake, you should get her to lose weight.

[MisterE]

First off, im very happy to hear of a person not judging someone by there appearance (: i think thats great! You like someone for who they are inside and thats they way it should be, if you really like her whats outside dosent matter, stick with her through thick and thin, dont worrie about geting laughed at all those people are jerks that cant see life for what it really is

[Hairy14uk]

Loads of people have said to ignore what other people say and think about you/your relationship but that's very difficult obviously. You could try talking to her and telling her that you love her for who she is and her weight doesn't matter to you, which it seems it doesn't, but then try to put a point across that losing weight would be a good thing; offer her your help and support on the diet. Go jogging or to the gym with her etc.

[SkittleBear]

Yea.... If you love her then stay with her.. It really only matters on what is on the inside. Not the outside. :D