illumino
May 28th, 2011, 09:20 AM
Hi. :)
I'm new to this forum. I'm a guy who's turning 17 in a few months and I'm not the best when it comes to handling these sorts of situations.
I'll explain this situation to you as best as possible.
There's this new girl at my school. I think she's a year younger than me.
The first time I saw her, I felt absolutely attracted towards her. I know I shouldn't feel this way without even knowing someone deeply, and yet I did. And ever since, I've been thinking about her all day long. I've never gotten the chance to talk to her or ask her name or anything. I don't know if I should. She's friends with this chick that my friend rejected and I've been noticing how that chick that my friend rejected along with another friend of her's have been eyeing me strangely. I don't like the girl he rejected either because I don't know her, but I have a strange attraction to her friend that I've got this crush on, and I'm confused about all this.
The thing with me is.. I've always been conflicted about how I view relationships. Sometimes I think they're the best thing in life and the entire world. Sometimes I view them as a waste of time, money and effort. I've been thinking about these sorts of things before I had a gf and also after I got dumped by my ex. I've been through a lot, especially having to deal with such negative thoughts and feelings and a lot of negative consequences that arise after the end of a relationship and I never want to have to go through that ever again. That's why I'm somewhat trying to avoid relationships nowadays. I'm always conflicted as to how I feel about these things.
I'd also like to point out that I've got a year and a half left before I finish high school. And because of this, my studies should be my absolute priority. I need to focus on getting good grades so I can get into a good University course.
So.. because of my absolute commitment to my education as well as my conflicted views about relationships, does anyone have any advice as to what I could do to clear my mind about this girl I'm crushing on?
What should I do?
Is it possible to stop having a crush on her?
I'm new to this forum. I'm a guy who's turning 17 in a few months and I'm not the best when it comes to handling these sorts of situations.
I'll explain this situation to you as best as possible.
There's this new girl at my school. I think she's a year younger than me.
The first time I saw her, I felt absolutely attracted towards her. I know I shouldn't feel this way without even knowing someone deeply, and yet I did. And ever since, I've been thinking about her all day long. I've never gotten the chance to talk to her or ask her name or anything. I don't know if I should. She's friends with this chick that my friend rejected and I've been noticing how that chick that my friend rejected along with another friend of her's have been eyeing me strangely. I don't like the girl he rejected either because I don't know her, but I have a strange attraction to her friend that I've got this crush on, and I'm confused about all this.
The thing with me is.. I've always been conflicted about how I view relationships. Sometimes I think they're the best thing in life and the entire world. Sometimes I view them as a waste of time, money and effort. I've been thinking about these sorts of things before I had a gf and also after I got dumped by my ex. I've been through a lot, especially having to deal with such negative thoughts and feelings and a lot of negative consequences that arise after the end of a relationship and I never want to have to go through that ever again. That's why I'm somewhat trying to avoid relationships nowadays. I'm always conflicted as to how I feel about these things.
I'd also like to point out that I've got a year and a half left before I finish high school. And because of this, my studies should be my absolute priority. I need to focus on getting good grades so I can get into a good University course.
So.. because of my absolute commitment to my education as well as my conflicted views about relationships, does anyone have any advice as to what I could do to clear my mind about this girl I'm crushing on?
What should I do?
Is it possible to stop having a crush on her?