Fatal Crash

[kdddd]

on sunday a good friend of mine was killed in a motorcycle crash and honestly i dont know what to feel, obviously im sad and miss him but im almost just numb. has anyone else had this experience? does it get better?

[kittylou]

I'm so sorry to hear about your friend! I have been there and all I can suggest is to take it one day at a time - some will be easier than others and in time it will get better. Feeling numb is completely normal following a trauma and it will take some time to come to terms with it.

It might help to have a look at this site on the different stages of grief (http://www.angermanagementresource.com/stages-of-grief.html). It also has links to other pages on tips to manage that stage of grief.

Again, I am sorry to hear about your friend. Take it slow. The memories will always be there but in time it does become less painful.

[Kaius]

Yeah as Kat said, the only way to do this is one step at a time. You're going to be feeling like this for a little while, i guess its your way of coping. Just make sure you done repress all the feelings completely instead of letting them out. If you need to cry, then cry. Don't hold back because if it builds up its going to feel even worse believe me.

I don't believe in stages of grief, It all depends on how you initially handle the grief to be honest as to which order these things happen, if they happen at all. I lost my best friend in a hit and run 4 years ago. Its not been easy, it still affects me today but as long as I take one day at a time I know eventually im going to get there. Some days all i want to do is lay in a corner and cry, other days I can't feel a thing about it- But it doesn't stop me thinking about him.

Just remember this isn't your fault, so never think it is. Try to remember the good times with him. I know that may be painful, but focusing on the good times makes it feel slightly easier than thinking about the accident.

If you need to talk feel free to email or private message me I'd be happy to help.

[kdddd]

thanks guys, means a lot and yea im just taking it one day at a time it still sucks but w.e guess its life

[AutumnDae]

When I was 13, I lost someone pretty close to me. I had a pretty big crush on him at the time, actually. He was hit by a car while he was riding his bike, and he wasn't wearing a helmet.

I understand completely what you're going through, because it was so sudden. I went through so many emotions. I remember crying for days, and then switching to having so much energy I could hardly contain myself. It was a crazy couple of months.

It will be 4 years this August since he's passed away, and it's been eventful. It's been tough. Some days are really hard, and I wonder how I get through them. I realize that I have a number of people that I can talk to, especially people who were also close with him. He's included in a lot of our discussions, which is nice, because not only have I learned more about him through the conversations, it helps me to keep my memories alive of him.

I encourage you to talk to someone, it's hard bottling these feelings up. I tried for a while, and in the end, it was a lot easier when I started opening up.