Big Decision to make

[Chopperjr]

So heres the Situation.

My dad and my Step - Mom want me to come live with them in there custody instead of under my moms roof. I can't decide between parents, its nerve wrecking. Truthfully, my Dad may need me there more but between him and my step moms occasional arguments pretty much sends me into a mental relapse of when my dad and my mom used to argue when they were getting divorced. My dad just had an epidural done on his back and physically he needs me there. My mom would need me there to take care of my younger brother and my dad doesn't want to separate me and by brother. My dad can teach me much more, hes more strict and school - focused and may be what I need to get me back on track again. I want to join the marines apon release out of highschool. I want to pursue a job during highschool. My mom has bought me practically everything i've wanted but my dad teaches me everything. It would have been perfect if they were still married, but thats not happening. I need help. Please.

[Dimitri]

Man, I am sorry but I honestly do not know what to say. I have never had to go through this and I cannot imagine what this must be like for you. I would suggest talking to a best friend or a school councilor or an aunt or uncle you really trust.

I know this is off topic but, I know that when I have something that is weighing this much on my mind I talk to my grandma and I pray and I normally have my decision when I am done. Maybe it could work for you. PM or e-mail if you need me.

[Chopperjr]

My closest Uncle died in a jeep wreck about 1.5 years ago, No trollin'. Shits been hectic for me lately, i need to write the court letter this week if i want to go live with my dad.

[Dimitri]

Is there anyone else you could talk to?

[Chopperjr]

Not in my family that i would want to talk to. I can't trust anyone in my family to keep their mouths shut, it always finds its way back to bite me in the ass when i say something in this family.

[Dimitri]

So you do not have any friends that you trust?

[Chopperjr]

I suppose, i don't see how they could help though. i'll try and figure something out, drown myself in music for a while and ill come up with something hopefully

[Dimitri]

Music is a great escape,do you have a pastor that you could talk to?

[Chopperjr]

I'm Not religious, I Don't believe much in it and i kind of form my own belief...so not really. I've never had one.

[Dimitri]

School councilors, it's what they do?

[Chopperjr]

Ill try something, i hate repeatedly rejecting your ideas, I hate my school and the counselor is probably just going to be the same as my family but with a doctors title infront of it. Im headed to bed, ill check this first thing tommorow. Thanks Robert

~Kenny

[Dimitri]

No problem man, e-mail if you need it.

[Chopperjr]

Bump?

[Contra]

Can't your parents have joint custody? That way you would be living with both of them... I don't know if it can be done, but it's a suggestion.

If that can't be done, then I'd suggest you would weigh the pros and cons like you did up in your first post and think about where you'd prefer to live. Think about it carefully.

I suppose, i don't see how they could help though.

Here you're talking about your friends, I think that even if they can't help you, you could share your situation with them, perhaps they can help you in other ways. Maybe a few of them were in the situation, but even if they weren't, give it a thought. Friends are always helpful.

Good luck :)

[Chopperjr]

Sorry Contra i wasent clear on that, my mom has dominant custody 5 days a week and my dad wants that, they have joint.

[Contra]

Sorry Contra i wasent clear on that, my mom has dominant custody 5 days a week and my dad wants that, they have joint.

It's okay. And yes, I see what you're saying. That way I'd suggest you do what I told on my previous post. I hope everything turns out the best for you. :)

[music is my soul]

hey my parents and split and remarried to. and i know the remarrying part really tares all the thoughts of them get back together but what i can say is that im willing to talk if you need it. anyway i think you should do wat your heart says. dont let anyone else cloud your thoughts. just do wat your heart says.