Relationships aren't Relationships anymore

[ASD17]

Is it just me, or are relationships mainly sexual now. I mean every couple hangs out and does stuff but, nearly all of us teenagers seem to be so knowledgable about sex, that we actually do it. I know that most relationships aren't love, c'mon we are teenagers. There's stuff like after a certain amount of tine it's ok to do this blah blah. Most relationships are just strong friendships with a status. That's me anyway.

[emt.Cam]

I think you're partially right. I'm sure a majority of teens are having sex with their boyfriend/girlfriend after a short amount of time. Let's face it, sex is everywhere and certainly isn't on the downfall. I think the media has a huge part in it. Like that show on MTV -16 and pregnant- I love MTV, but I don't think they need to create a show dedicated to that and promoting girls to get pregnant with the opportunity to be famous. Then again, parents need to talk to their kids about -at least- practicing safe sex.

However, I do believe that "sex" plays a significant part within a RELATIONSHIP; not just a teenangers 1 month anniversary and them already saying "I Love You" etc. I do believe that while a majority of teenagers are immature and will learn from their mistakes -hopefully- that they do feel a type "love" relationship that they want to last; not just a high school fling.

I think you're right that some relationships are strong friendships among a particular group of friends that just become a relationship; however, I don't think that they should all be classified as this.

[DerBear]

i feel i would agree and then disagree with your theroy

yes teen relationships are more sexual these days.

but i find the ones that last like over 6 month would be considered love especialy if sex is not involved

like my relationship right now we have been in it for little over 9 months and i am 15 and never had sex and i plan to wait i want my relationship to be built on love as we both agree with this

but u have a point most relationships are built on sex these days

also 16 and pregnant is a show designed to show kids what its like to be preagnant at 16 i think it does its job

[emt.Cam]

i feel i would agree and then disagree with your theroy

yes teen relationships are more sexual these days.

but i find the ones that last like over 6 month would be considered love especialy if sex is not involved

like my relationship right now we have been in it for little over 9 months and i am 15 and never had sex and i plan to wait i want my relationship to be built on love as we both agree with this

but u have a point most relationships are built on sex these days

also 16 and pregnant is a show designed to show kids what its like to be preagnant at 16 i think it does its job

Yes, it shows that being 16 and pregnant can get you fame. It's just one of the many sources contributing to the younger generations that being pregnant is a fairytale. It corrupts the way it looks: in some instances, it looks like all fun and games.These girls haven't even completed high school. I feel that -in a way- it's promoting teen pregnancy. I just don't think that beautiful young females should put themselves through becoming a parent when they need to finish developing a foundation to support their family: especially since a majority of the relationships being shown are not even typical (the guys are lowlifes) which is basically showing that they were able to make it work so everyone else should be fine.

In all honesty, I think we could debate about this all day: it would be a debate on beliefs. I do think that you're right: to some of the population, it may do the job. So, I'll agree yet disagree :yes:

[DerBear]

Yes, it shows that being 16 and pregnant can get you fame. It's just one of the many sources contributing to the younger generations that being pregnant is a fairytale. It corrupts the way it looks: in some instances, it looks like all fun and games.These girls haven't even completed high school. I feel that -in a way- it's promoting teen pregnancy. I just don't think that beautiful young females should put themselves through becoming a parent when they need to finish developing a foundation to support their family: especially since a majority of the relationships being shown are not even typical (the guys are lowlifes) which is basically showing that they were able to make it work so everyone else should be fine.

In all honesty, I think we could debate about this all day: it would be a debate on beliefs. I do think that you're right: to some of the population, it may do the job. So, I'll agree yet disagree :yes:

i disagree about the part that it gives u fame when does it really well think about it people go on that show to show how people deal and cope with being 16 and pregnant and if any girl beleives that becomming pregnant get u famous then to be honest i think they muat be pretty stupid... i am sure whatever company makes the program in the UK it is shown by the BBC are not encourging teenage pregnances

as for the guys being low lifes i agree some dont have an education some dont work and some choose to not be a member of the family

as for teen relationships i feel they are few like myself that are built on love and trust and i agree some relationships use the word love lightly but i do not i feel their has got to be time for proper love to be formed

and as for teen sex well some choose to wait (like myslef and my gf) and some choose to go off and have sex left right and center

but as for overall i would say everyone is diffrent

[emt.Cam]

i disagree about the part that it gives u fame when does it really well think about it people go on that show to show how people deal and cope with being 16 and pregnant and if any girl beleives that becomming pregnant get u famous then to be honest i think they muat be pretty stupid... i am sure whatever company makes the program in the UK it is shown by the BBC are not encourging teenage pregnances

as for the guys being low lifes i agree some dont have an education some dont work and some choose to not be a member of the family

as for teen relationships i feel they are few like myself that are built on love and trust and i agree some relationships use the word love lightly but i do not i feel their has got to be time for proper love to be formed

and as for teen sex well some choose to wait (like myslef and my gf) and some choose to go off and have sex left right and center

but as for overall i would say everyone is diffrent
I certainly didn't say that it gives them fame, but the opportunity is there. There are casting calls for this, it basically says "being 16 and pregnant is okay, take your chance at airing on national tv as we exploit you" It's not all black and white; they make it look good when it's a white lie. Sure, there's some truth behind it; but, it's all about making good tv.

[DerBear]

I certainly didn't say that it gives them fame, but the opportunity is there. There are casting calls for this, it basically says "being 16 and pregnant is okay, take your chance at airing on national tv as we exploit you" It's not all black and white; they make it look good when it's a white lie. Sure, there's some truth behind it; but, it's all about making good tv.

ok i see ur point but their will always be 16 and pregnant girls out their and they shows try to show it what its like but anyway i do see your point

[emt.Cam]

ok i see ur point but their will always be 16 and pregnant girls out their and they shows try to show it what its like but anyway i do see your point
I'm not trying to promote my beliefs onto you and I appreciate that you see my view: as I see yours.

You're right though, there will always be 16 year old pregnancies.

[DerBear]

I'm not trying to promote my beliefs onto you and I appreciate that you see my view: as I see yours.

You're right though, there will always be 16 year old pregnancies.

i understand that you are not trying to push your view onto me plus i think why do be safe and have safe sex.

why choose to mess up your life and not finish ur education then further education or work ect ect

^^^ that i will never understand

[Hairy14uk]

I agree with Cameron's original post. I think that you're partially right, but not for all couples. I know that a lot of couples in my school are together purely for the sexual aspect and everyone knows that, I'd guess that they know everyone knows too, but there are a few that are together because they love each other, some that have had sex together and others that haven't.

However I do see what you're saying though, more relationships do seem to be sexually based but I wouldn't say all. From my experience anyway.

[Syvelocin]

I've been in a completely sexless relationship for two and a half years now. And I can say, while it's not working out and that certainly wasn't the reason, it's been the best of my past relationships.

I do notice that a lot, the relationships where sex is everything. I think the bigger issue is the "trophy girl/boyfriend" however. I think teens are capable of love, I really do. Many don't know what love is though, which is where the issue lies. But as well, I just think they don't take it seriously. They don't have to, but the point of dating is to experience things, and eventually become ready to either marry your high school sweetheart later in life if it works, or be prepared with the experience of what did and didn't work so you know what to look for when you're out in the world searching for the person to spend the rest of your life with. I might be weird or something, but growing up, I wasn't in it to date the popular kids and get a reputation or someone to show off to my friends, I was in it to make a close friend.

[Sage]

Yeah, let's go back to the good old days when wives cost three shekels and a goat. Give me a fucking break. The notion that relationships were at one time considerably more pure and dignified is bullshit and only shows an ignorance to the history of misogyny and cultural/religious understandings of "love."

The truth remains that relationships were never relationships because everybody has a different and skewed expectation of what one should be.

[ASD17]

Well whereabouts I am most relationships don't last longer than 3 months, then there's lots of tension between groups and it is silly. But obviously the ongoing, longer lasting relationships, there is definitely chemistry. It's usually hard to find a strong relationship really.

[Sage]

How old are you, kiddo?

[Starlight Blaze]

I wish I could say differently that relationships between tennagers are not sexual, but most of them are, or at least non romantic...
but also a lot of the kids in these relationshpis are imagining they're in love, and in their own little world. this is the problem, that we are lured into a feeling of love way too easily, its part of being our age, and sometimes (admittedly more often nowadays) it follows us into adulthood.
but I hope we can fix that, along with the other problems we face

I know, I'm a hopeless hopeful :rolleyes:

[ASD17]

How old are you, kiddo?

I'm 16, ahah