Lead on/ Stood up?

[Maau]

Hey, I need some advice :(

So, the girl i like turned out to like me too. So I asked her out 2-3 weeks ago. She said yes! Come the day of the date, she said her grandpa had a heart attack, yet she went to the carnival the next day, without texting me the next day. I asked her out like 4 days ago and she said yes again. So come the day of the date, she said she couldn't go to help with her lil' bros party. I was like okay.. Maybe tomorrow then. Well, it was tomorrow today, I texted her but no reply...

Granted I haven't had a girlfriend before,(which in my town means i'm a loser since I'm already 14) and frankly don't know if I did something wrong, but i cant get the thought out of my head, that I'm being stood up/ lead on.

Any advice?

[mrbob360]

you jus sit down and talk with her to find out if she really does like or ask her if she is nervous about dating you and try to re-assure her that your intentions and are true and you love her. but the best thing to do is not to push but to talk as i have found out the hard way thst if you push ull loose ( no offence)

[DerBear]

well she could be the type that dont want to have a serious relationship you know i.e dateing and have a more casual sort of relationship where none of you go out with eatch other and u guys dont do to much with eatch other or she may just want the title against her name of saying she is in a realtionship to much

all i can say is talk to her face 2 face and get your cards on the table as they say

also u are not a looser is u are 14 and have not had a girlfriend yet i was 14 (now 15) when i had my first gf and to this day i am still with her

[Hairy14uk]

There's two obvious reasons for what's going on...

1. You're being incredibly unlucky and things are happening to stop her from going out with you each time and that's purely just unlucky.

2. She is nervous about getting into a serious relationship with you/anyone and feels to need to put off going out with you so she's making up excuses not to see you.

I wouldn't think that it's exactly your fault, because if it was you then she wouldn't have said yes the second time. I would recommend just trying again and if another excuse pops up then try talking to her and see what she says. It's possible that she is genuinely having to do other things but it is also possible that she's apprehensive, just ask her about it and see what happens from there.

[EarthToBryan]

I had the same kind of thing happen to me recently, we had been more-than-friends, and then I talked about it with some people, she got embarrassed/Didn'tReallyCareAboutMe, and told me we were just friends in a very public setting in front of my classmates. Ugh...

Edit: I am 15 and have yet to be in a relationship/gone any further than hold hands with a girl in 4th grade...

[Glider]

Big decisions.. I'd say the best way to forward with this is to confront her and just have an old-fashioned sit-down about the matter at hand.