let go?

[rissa-_-]

okey, so it would be three months today (yesterday actually) since my father past away. today it didn't seem like my mom nor my sister didn't even care about the date. they were both laughing, having a great time. it seems different now that he's not in my life. everyone's happier. is this a good thing? anyway, my family thinks i'm suicidal now. ( i wrote stuff on facebook that made them think that, like meaningful sayings)....

[SilenceForSilence]

I'm very sorry to hear about your father. I'm not so surprised that your family is seeming to move on quite quickly. When my sister passed away, my family seemed to be back to normal pretty quickly. It could be a good thing that everyone seems happier, but I don't know how your family situation was before he passed away. I understand why you are putting meaningful sayings on facebook. I did it too. Maybe it has to do with feelings of content and peace seem more real when others can see them in word form, but I don't know. Are they making a big deal about you being suicidal? Are you feeling that way?

[Love.Hate]

Im sorry to hear about your father. Maybe they deal with their greif through laughter.. everyone is different. Inside they were probably fully aware of the date and the time that has passed but they want to keep their spirits up and remember the good things about him. They may seem happier but be breaking down inside, so never judge a book by its cover. I know how easy it is to hide how your actually feeling with a smile. They are just worried about you, they dont want to loose another close family member and they want you to be okay. Stay strong<3

[FullyAlive]

I know exactly how you feel, my uncle died, but he was like a father to me, a lot more than my own is we were very close. And every single month the date of his death is there and I spend the day depressed, but this date doesn't affect anyone else. Not even on the 6 months. No one mentioned it. I was really angry but the thing is everyone deals with grief in their own way. They will miss your father just as much as you. The only thing you can do is talk about it, tell them how that date made you feel, you never know they might have felt exactly like you.
:hug:

[Fiction]

I know that I deal with death in a different way to most people. I laugh and joke about it, and pretend it never happened. It's not that I don't care, it's just that's the easiest way for me to deal with it. Maybe it's the same with the rest of your family? Maybe they're just dealing with it how they find best?

Anyway i'm really sorry to hear about your father :( :hug:

[rissa-_-]

before he past my life was like hell. they aren't really doing any thing about it. and no i'm not planning to be suicidal

[Weeping]

Well, a lot of people are trying to hide their actual feelings and such, so they can, for example laugh instead of crying. It may be that they're not sure about how they should react etc.

And.. I'm sorry about your loss, and I'm here if you need someone to talk to.

:hug:

[Extreme586]

When my uncle died (quite a while ago now) I remember most of my family around me crying and I was even asked by one of my cousins why I wasn't crying. Truth is whenever someone dies I go kind of numb inside, like it's almost completely unbelievable, as if it didn't actually happen. I guess I'm just not all that sad, because whenever I think of my uncle, I just remember the good times we had. I also believe that there is a "better place" so I guess I don't have too much of a reason to feel sad other than not getting to be around them anymore. I'm not sure how I would act if someone really really close to me died, probably the same. Everyone deals with death differently, just depends on the situation I guess.