Meeting Others?

[FullyAlive]

Ok, so my school found out i planned to kill myself, although that's a whole other story. But basically they want to help me and shit. Anyway my teacher said that there was a girl in year 13 with similar issue's or rather similar ways of coping, as it is highly unlikely that we share the same "problems". She offered to contact her and let us meet or whatever. So i agreed.

But i don't know what she honestly thinks will happen. Does she this girl will tell me cutting is a horrible way to cope, so i'll stop. She'll tell me suicide isn't the answer, so i won't try it. Yeah... cause i've not been told this before. I've been cutting for almost 18 months, and been getting more and more suicidal for 7 months. Why does she think the words of this girl are going to change anything?

I want to talk to this girl if only because it was suggested by this teacher who gives up a lot of time to speak to me. I feel i owe it to her to at least try what she suggests. If not just to make up for been such a brat when she phoned my mum about recent developments, she wouldn't let me go home by myself so i was pissed off. Understandably of course...

Sorry this was more of a rant than anything, i just wondered if you'd met/spoken to anyone else purely on the basis you have self harm in common? Or if you would meet someone because of that? And what do you think i can honestly hope to achieve from this?

[MadManWithaBox]

Perhaps thats not what she's thinking. She's probably thinking it'll be easier for you to talk to, and relate to, someone of a similar age and similar experiences, than a counsellor or whatever. I never have met anyone who shares this. But i don't know, you might enjoy talking to someone who's shared your experiences.

[FullyAlive]

Ahh i suppose i don't know. I could get out of it, but i may aswell go and see.

[MadManWithaBox]

I'd go. You might enjoy yourself. She might be a nice girl and all that, you get on, you can relate.

[anonymous53]

She might just feel you'd be more open to talking about it with a girl that shares the same feelings and problems as you do Louise. Pretty much like on here, but in real life.
Who knows, she might be a completely epic person you can have a good time with and feel a little better :)
You've gotta admit Louise. It's better than the alternative....Mental hospital T.T

[georgiamay]

I've already told you, but I think it's a really good idea. Sometimes, knowing people who are going through a similar thing to you on an internet forum isn't the same as having someone in real life that you can talk to that actually understands how you're feeling.

You might even end up getting along really well, and end up becoming friends or something, you never know. And if not, you'll still have someone to go to that knows what you're going through, and will be able to say other things instead of "there are other ways of coping etc."

[moon_lit_angel]

Its always worth a try darling.. I've tried counselling doesnt work, tried telling my doctor a few weeks ago didnt work..
but talking to someone who experiences the same thing sometimes helps :)
im always here to listen tho dont forget that
x

[FullyAlive]

Ok, I suppose you are all right, having someone in real life who actually understands properly could be really helpful. My friends and teachers try their best but at the end of the day reading something about self harm on the Internet won't make them properly understand.

But I have two concerns the first is what if she isn't/wasn't addicted, then she won't fully understand she'll know why, but she won't understand the addiction aspect of it, why is a pretty big part of it.

The second concern is just that this girl will know about me too. At the moment several people know about my cutting they've seen, or someone has told them. However I'm pretty sure a lot more people know than I realise. However only 3 people know about the suicide plan. But now I'll have someone else know. Someone else to judge me, and she doesn't even know me.

[Love.Hate]

I doubt she will judge you if she has been in a similar situation herself. Why not go and try it, it will be good to be able to relate to someone face to face.. Its all well and good over the internet but if you have someone there physically then it might help a lot more. Personally i think its a really good idea, what have you got to loose?

What if she was addicted just like you? You never know until you meet her.