forapartylessfun
May 18th, 2011, 06:18 PM
To begin, I'll tell you a bit about my relationship.
I've been with my boyfriend on and off for about 4 years.
Up until the last half a year or so, things were really bad.
He would dump me for no reason on a bi-monthly basis, giving me no legitimate reason, and would just not talk to me for weeks.
But, either he would come back, or I would beg him until he agreed to date me.
While we were dating, we would have, and still have, all of these rules concerning who we could talk to, what I could wear, and so forth.
He would always go behind my back and cheat on me, he would ask a bunch of girls for naked pictures, and always take whatever opportunities he got.
He would tell me awful things everytime he would get mad, like that I suck at my instruments(Music is my life), that i'm a whore, and general things about my appearance that I hate.
Well about 9 months ago I became fed up with it and I left him.
He was fine with it.
I started dating someone else.
He flipped.
He would call me crying, obsess over me, and basically did everything I did when he dumped me.
After about 3 months I went back to him, although I had been cheating on the guy I dated, which I shouldn't have, so don't bitch.
Anyway, I'm not sure how to take all of this since i'm pretty sure he hasn't changed. Although it seems different.
We still fight a ton and i'm trying hard not to.
But i'm worried i'll end up getting hurt and I would like to get opinions on it.
We still have a lot of rules, We can't talk to the opposite sex, I can't wear anything tight, revealing, or low cut, I have to check in before leaving my house, etc. But I like it since it makes me feel safer and I don't think other girls deserve to talk to him, he feels the same.
So, how do you feel about controlling relationships, and should I be giving it all another go? It seems kind of helpless, but I really do love him.
And i'm an obsessive, paranoid, creep so I mean, we're kind of right for each other.
I've been with my boyfriend on and off for about 4 years.
Up until the last half a year or so, things were really bad.
He would dump me for no reason on a bi-monthly basis, giving me no legitimate reason, and would just not talk to me for weeks.
But, either he would come back, or I would beg him until he agreed to date me.
While we were dating, we would have, and still have, all of these rules concerning who we could talk to, what I could wear, and so forth.
He would always go behind my back and cheat on me, he would ask a bunch of girls for naked pictures, and always take whatever opportunities he got.
He would tell me awful things everytime he would get mad, like that I suck at my instruments(Music is my life), that i'm a whore, and general things about my appearance that I hate.
Well about 9 months ago I became fed up with it and I left him.
He was fine with it.
I started dating someone else.
He flipped.
He would call me crying, obsess over me, and basically did everything I did when he dumped me.
After about 3 months I went back to him, although I had been cheating on the guy I dated, which I shouldn't have, so don't bitch.
Anyway, I'm not sure how to take all of this since i'm pretty sure he hasn't changed. Although it seems different.
We still fight a ton and i'm trying hard not to.
But i'm worried i'll end up getting hurt and I would like to get opinions on it.
We still have a lot of rules, We can't talk to the opposite sex, I can't wear anything tight, revealing, or low cut, I have to check in before leaving my house, etc. But I like it since it makes me feel safer and I don't think other girls deserve to talk to him, he feels the same.
So, how do you feel about controlling relationships, and should I be giving it all another go? It seems kind of helpless, but I really do love him.
And i'm an obsessive, paranoid, creep so I mean, we're kind of right for each other.