What can I Do?

[Kaesaj]

One of my best friends has struggled with self harm for a long time. She's even attempted suicide a few times.
Her reasons for her unhappiness leading to cutting are always seemingly unimportant things, like little things her dad says that upset her. She's been diagnosed with Bipolar, which explains a lot about the way she acts, but I'd still like to be able to help.
She recently told me that she plans to kill herself on her 18th birthday so that it won't be her parents' responsibility. She asked me to hang out with her the day before her birthday so that I can be there with her. There's obviously part of her that doesn't want it to happen, since she told me herself that I may be able to make her change her mind. Can anyone lend me any advice?

[Josiah7]

I would strongly, strongly recommend you tell someone about what she is planning to do. Weather this be a teacher, parents - anyone. It is on you as a true friend to let someone know and do your best to stop it.

I would also stick with her and be a true friend. If I were in your shoes I would try and get her to change her mind if possible. But someone does really need to be informed.

Message me if you need any advice or information, happy to help :)

[Kaesaj]

Thanks a lot, man.
Also, I can't tell a teacher because I no longer go to school, so her parents look like the best option here.

[Josiah7]

I agree, you sound like a good friend :) Let me know if you need anything :)

[Spook]

I agree with what Josiah said. Tell her parents or your parents. You can't let her do this to herself. Life is too short to cut it short.

Good luck, ~Animal Luverrr

[Fiction]

Talk to her. Try and figure out how serious she is about it and if she's really serious try and talk her out of it. I wouldn't tell anyone about it straight away, because you'll just push your friend away but use telling someone as a last resort.

[Kaesaj]

Thanks for the support, everyone. I've decided that I'm not only going to hang out with her the day before her birthday, but the day of her birthday, all day.

I think all she needs is a little love. Her friends don't seem to care too much.

[FullyAlive]

A few of my friends recently discovered I plan(ned) to kill myself, and they did the worst thing I could imagine, they told my school, my assistant head. Obviously they were just doing what was right but, I don't trust them anymore. What they've done is effectively isolate me more. Right now I'd say I have two (possibly three) people left to count on. I blocked my friend, don't answer her texts or messages. Told the others I'd do the same if they tried to talk about it.

Maybe staying with her is the right thing to do, I won't tell anyone the date I planned so they can't stay. But if that's what she wants then it's a good thing you are doing. But just remember protect her, but not at the expense of isolating her.

I hope both of you are ok :hug:

[Kaesaj]

Wow, thanks so much Louise, that helped more than anything. It's good that I got a perspective from someone that's been on the other side of this, thank you.

[georgiamay]

When a friend of mine told the school without me knowing, I was so angry with her. It took me about a year to actually trust her with anything again. I knew she was only doing what she thought was right, so I still hung out with her, but I wouldn't talk to her about anything incase she told a teacher again.

I'd say if you are going to tell her parents or your parents or something, you should talk to her about it first, at the very least. The chances are, her parents will find out eventually anyway, so for now it'd probably be best if you were just there for her to talk to, like a shoulder to cry on.

Good luck! :hug:

[FullyAlive]

Wow, thanks so much Louise, that helped more than anything. It's good that I got a perspective from someone that's been on the other side of this, thank you.

It's nothing, I just hope you work something out. Knowing someone plans to kill themselves is a lot for anyone to handle but someone so young. Don't forget to make sure you have support for yourself too.

[Love.Hate]

I think you need to sit down and talk to her about it.. she is probably just as scared as you are. Try and put her off and try everything. I like that your going to dtay with her all that day.. but be careful as she might move the date.

If nothing you say can change her mind thats when you need to ask her to get help. Or get help for her. Good luck :)

[Kaesaj]

If anyone remembers, I made a post about a friend that wanted to kill herself on her 18th birthday. I've been spending more and more time with her lately, and she's stopped talking and thinking about it. She isn't even cutting. It's really cool.

That's all. Just thought it'd be good to update.

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[Love.Hate]

Thats really good news, but continue to keep an eye on her as she may be hiding it from you as she might not want you to worry. :)