I feel so empty without him but my soul is in pain without him

[DarkNick]

This threat is about a friend of mine.I have posted about this friend several times in the past here in the VT so some of you may know the story...
Anyway I was calling him my best friend but he didn't feel that way.It wasn't his way of treating people (He wanted to count everyone as just friends).Anyway I felt betrayed and I couldn't get close to him enough so we stopped being friends,I even deleted him as a friend from my facebook profile.
Now, some months later I feel depressed because of him.Since we hang out with the same people we see each other.Every time I see him my heart breaks 'cause I loved him and I still do so much!I wanted him to be my friend!I believed that I had finally found someone who could understand me 100% and it was like I could see myself in him.I was so happy and now I still want to be as we were together.But lots of things have been changed.He found a girlfriend and I don't believe that I can be as close with him as I was since she wants to spend lots of time with him and probably he wants that too.Another thing that troubles me is that since he became an adult since last summer (he's two years older than me)and he studies at the university sometimes he treats me and all the others guys who are still in highschool like he is a ''big kid'' who feels that he is someone because he became an adult.I don't want that and it's a reason that I don't want to hang out with him anymore,plus I'm very tired from this friendship.But on the other hand my heart hurts so much.I really want to be friends with him again but all these things confuse me :( What should I do? He send me a mail today (after we hanged out with the others) asking me if there's a chance to accept him as a friend of mine again.I really don't know what should I do. :( :( :(

Thanks for reading all these and sorry that I write that much stuff!! :P
I hope that someone out there will help me!
Please VT's I desperately need your help! :(
(since nobody of my other friends don't have an opinion about the topic!).

Edit:
The title of the topic should be: I feel so empty without him AND my soul is in pain without him! :$

[JunkBondTrader]

Okay, I haven't seen your other posts about this guy but here goes:

He's got a girlfriend now and he is going to want to spend time with her, but that doesn't necessarily mean he can't spend any time hanging out with you, it just means you'll have to divide your time a bit. Can you not hang out with both of them together?

When the first of my friends turned eighteen he did exactly what you're describing. We were sitting with him in the pub with him buying all the drinks since we were all still underage when he starts lecturing us about "how cruel the world really is" and just generally acting like some kind of wise, all knowing old man. This lasted about a month. :P

And you have to ask yourself why you cut him out of your life to begin with. If you miss him so much then hang out with him some more. It doesn't mean you have to dedicate your life to him. But at the same time, if he did something that made you want to disown him so much you have to ask yourself if that problem is still there.

Hope this helped. :)

[DarkNick]

Okay, I haven't seen your other posts about this guy but here goes:

He's got a girlfriend now and he is going to want to spend time with her, but that doesn't necessarily mean he can't spend any time hanging out with you, it just means you'll have to divide your time a bit. Can you not hang out with both of them together?

When the first of my friends turned eighteen he did exactly what you're describing. We were sitting with him in the pub with him buying all the drinks since we were all still underage when he starts lecturing us about "how cruel the world really is" and just generally acting like some kind of wise, all knowing old man. This lasted about a month. :P

And you have to ask yourself why you cut him out of your life to begin with. If you miss him so much then hang out with him some more. It doesn't mean you have to dedicate your life to him. But at the same time, if he did something that made you want to disown him so much you have to ask yourself if that problem is still there.

Hope this helped. :)

First of all I want to thank you your answer really helped me BUT yes I'm kinda jealous of his GF because he is communicating so much better with her than with me and I also get mad with myself about that because I believe that I could be the one who would communicate better than anyone with him.Imagine that at first he was using her and nothing more and now look where they are...Damn it!Anyway I tried hanging out with them both but I just can't...I want him as a friend of mine and not THEM instead -.- The fact is that he is still a child inside and he acts in a very childish way of describing how the life of an adult can be.That drives me nuts!
About your last paragraph I want to say that I can't be neutral.I've spent so many nice moments with him,I was almost ''in love'' with him we were so close and I just can't...And yes these problems still persist (the most of them) unfortunately,but I still want him next to me and I don't know why.After all these things I shouldn't give a damn about him but there are some times that I really want him to be there when I need him :/

[JunkBondTrader]

It sounds like this guy really means a lot to you, but you really have to let him and his girlfriend be. There's no reason that their relationship should stop you two from being as close as you've ever been and people do connect differently with their partners than with their friends.

But relationships go in phases, just because right now they're spending every minute with each other doesn't mean that it'll still be the same in a month or so.

I don't mean to pass judgement on someone I've never met but from what you're saying it sounds like he's not a terribly nice person. He used his girlfriend, he talks down to you and he pisses you off enough to cause you to cut him out of your life altogether. Is he really worth all this worry?

[DarkNick]

It sounds like this guy really means a lot to you, but you really have to let him and his girlfriend be. There's no reason that their relationship should stop you two from being as close as you've ever been and people do connect differently with their partners than with their friends.

But relationships go in phases, just because right now they're spending every minute with each other doesn't mean that it'll still be the same in a month or so.

I don't mean to pass judgement on someone I've never met but from what you're saying it sounds like he's not a terribly nice person. He used his girlfriend, he talks down to you and he pisses you off enough to cause you to cut him out of your life altogether. Is he really worth all this worry?

Ah all of my friends say the same thing and even I say these things to myself.
He is the most meaningless and scared person that I've ever met but I still want him to be a friend of mine.Maybe because I haven't achieved my goal which is him to tell me that I'm he's best friend.It's kinda a dream desire that didn't fulfilled in the past

[JunkBondTrader]

Well, friendships don't always make sense, neither do any relationships for that matter. What you really have to do is try and work out what your ideal outcome from this situation is and see if you can take any steps in that direction. :)

[DarkNick]

Well, friendships don't always make sense, neither do any relationships for that matter. What you really have to do is try and work out what your ideal outcome from this situation is and see if you can take any steps in that direction. :)

I wish I knew what I want to do...seriously...
Thanks for your help anyway!I really appreciated that! :)
Wish me good luck
Take care and if you have something else to add feel free to do it so! :)

[JunkBondTrader]

No probs, bro. Hope everything works out. :)

[Aeroflux17]

:) ! keep Shufflin..

[DarkNick]

:) ! keep Shufflin..

Hah
Thanks a lot mate! :)