life

[Silentsilver]

life...i guess it has its ups and downs. I walked in the door this evening to find my parents canceled my phone and were extremely mad at the fact i was home 30 mins after curfue. i got the whole lecture on how i should be more curtious and check in every 15 mins so they can make sure im ok. Then we got into a talk on how im going nowhere with my life and how i should be trying harder. keep in mind im taking college classes full time and i start working as a diesel tech the 1st of july. i honestly dont know why i care anymore...my college is no longer supporting the degree i need for my computer networking degree and i have pretty much lost all motivation...im depressed...i just dont know why im going through all of this now and not later in my life. i already have a stress ulser as it is and i just want a little time to cool down and not have people jumping down my throat and asking for free help. I just really need a hug and someone to talk to...thanks for reading my rant


-Trevor

[Scarface]

Hey buddy, first of all :hug3:

Well let's talk about your parents. shall we? They sound like they are certainly adding a lot of stress. And it you're in college and are 18+ there are a few options for you to choose from, especially now that your college is not supporting your degree. You can get a job and move out of the house, the only thing is, is that you do have a lot more freedom, but with that freedom comes a lot of responsibility with the bills, but if you're prepared for that, and to get away from your parents, that's definitely a good option to consider. Especially as you said you had an ulcer. Those aren't anything to mess with and you definitely don't want that thing getting any worse than it already is.

Secondly, I'm sure you're doing a fine job, your parents are just trying to grind you down or "motivate" you, but (as I can completely agree and understand this) they aren't motivating you in the most efficient and effective way. They do want to see the best for you, but the pressure that they have down on you is pretty unnecessary if I'm honest.

You just have to take a lot of those lectures with a grain of salt. If you know what I mean? The lectures, especially someone like me who really doesn't give a shit about what they have to say and since you are on the right track it sounds like with your education, I'd try and forget them. If you know you're doing the right thing in school, why are you going to let what they say interfere with that? You shouldn't.

So what? You came home a little later than curfew, it does sound like you're the only child lol. You just have to take a deep breath as soon as you hear them talking then a great technique I like to use for people that sit there and nag and nag and nag is the "Okay" trick. Basically what this is, is; as soon as they start going on, you just (not with attitude or smart ass way) just go "Okay mom, okay dad, Okay." just so they think you're listening and they will end it, and you will have directed your brain to a better place, so it's not on your mind. I know parents can be a real big stress causer, but you can't let them interfere with you or your future plans. I'm sure if you got a small part time job and found another school to take your courses and were legitimately not home, and came home to sleep and study. I'm sure they would have nothing to complain about, or you simply save money and move out. I'm sure you'll make the right decision, but as for right now, cool down, I'm glad you decided to come to Virtual Teen for help and I hope that my message has helped you and if you need anymore help, that I will gladly help you through PM or this thread.

I wish you the best of luck for your future man.

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