Oh, dear god!

[JunkBondTrader]

Okay, before I begin, let me explain that I can see the funny side to this, but it's worrying nonetheless. So here's what happened last night:

My band were headlining at a club not to far from where I live. A lady friend of mine, to whom I have made my amourous feelings known to in the past, came along and ended up coming home with me.

You can see where this is going. One thing led to another and before long we were in my bed "doing stuff". So then, she reaches for a bag and pulls out a condom and that's when I realise that "it" is totally dead. So, I run to the bathroom for a drink of water, hoping it'll wake him up and when I came back she asked what was wrong and for some reason I decided to tell her the truth.

I made it very clear that it was most certainly not her as I find her extremely attractive and have done for some time now and that it was probably just a side-effect of my pills. I'm on SSRIs which I hear can cause this sort of thing since I'm FAR to young to get ED. This has NEVER happened to me before.

So, my question is, do I EVER stand a chance with this girl again or have I blown this completely?

[Love.Hate]

I think you still stand a chance with her, its not your fault or hers..
if she can see that then im sure it will be okay.. plus if she likes you enough to be "doing stuff" i wouldnt worry at all. :)

[JunkBondTrader]

I think you still stand a chance with her, its not your fault or hers..
if she can see that then im sure it will be okay.. plus if she likes you enough to be "doing stuff" i wouldnt worry at all. :)

Aw, cheers! I needed a little reassurance, I suppose. I managed to speak to her today and she was kind enough not to mention what happened but she didn't sound too pissed off or awkward or anything.

I guess I'll just keep trying. :)

[smithy94]

aww i know how you feel man, happened a few times with my ex gf cos i was really nervous, but i wouldnt worry about it, if she likes you then she probably would probably try again and you never know :)

[Grayeyes]

i'm sure you haven't blown it. I bet she still likes you a lot if you guys were still able to have a decent conversation with eachother.
Next time, try to relax. Don't get too anxious. It's normal to be nervous. But maintain that confidence you have and try to stay relaxed when with her the next time :)

[Kaius]

Tbh if shes put off you because you couldn't have sex then she really isn't worth your time anyway. Maybe its worth giving her a call and see if she wants to go out at some point. That'll give you a chance to talk over things before it leads to anything else.

[JunkBondTrader]

Thanks you guys.

Aaron, you're right! I'll call her tonight, see if she's up for drinks on Friday or something. Much appreciated!

[bleedoutlove]

Love.Hate is right :) she won't mind, she understands you were drunk and other stuff, and she won't mind -- don't worry :) Just make a joke out of it :D

[Spreadingwings]

dude your fine, love will come around again:)