Is it just me or?

[AussieInfomonger]

Hey all,

Is it just me or even on here does it seem that girls seem to hook up with the guys who are jerks. Who are immature and don't really give a fuck about anyone else but themselves and just use the girl they are with. I noticed this constantly and the guys who actually give a shit don't get any. I changed how I was treating someone I use to know just to see the effect and they seemed more interested and I was being rude to them. And yet movies and shit go on about the fact women wish they could have a guy they could walk along the beach with talking about music, books and art. And yet a guy who is open to talking about whatever they want comes along and instead they couldn't give a shit.

Anyone else find this confusing or odd or has just noticed this. Or maybe its got to do with particular people just being plain stupid and going for the wrong people.

Or they are just the wrong guy in that they are just bloody stupid and do the stupidest of things and think the sun shines out there ass and they are so awesome.

I dunno just know to many people where this is the case maybe it is just me.

[kezyy]

Yep, so true. They always go on how guys treat them like shit, when not every guy would! But it always seems that the nice guys get all the greif for it!

[lilsk8r]

girls only go for those kind of guys because of popularity and make themselves feel important.
hope this helped?

[AussieInfomonger]

^ Not really considering the fact I can be the most popular guy and which I was for a very long time till I stopped giving a shit about particular people and things never went my way. So no not really helpful at all oh and then you get them complaining to you about the guy being a jerk its like err well dump the idiot. And then go along and they find themselves another jerk -.- although some learn.

But they say they are looking for someone intelligent, nice, that they can actually have good conversations with and no they somehow end up with people who aren't like that at all. Btw this is not always the case but seems to happen more times then it happening the other way around.

Probably the reason why at the moment I'm honestly not bothered with getting a girlfriend. I'm not even bothered with most people for the simple fact you can't trust them because they will always make mistakes. Just makes me seem rather anti social at times.

[Horse_girl]

I've noticed that and I still haven't managed to figure it out. A couple of the guys I liked over the first couple years of high school were complete jerks, but I didn't admit it to myself until later. Maybe those girls are like me and they thought they could "change" those guys or they deluded themselves into thinking that those guys loved them even though they treat the girls like dirt.

[AussieInfomonger]

Aynone else notice this and if female actually done such a thing as above but didn't realise at first or is willing to confess? Not that its really confessing its just sharing info.

And any other guys who notice this happens far to often.

[tpzy94]

yeah i dont get it

[Grayeyes]

The girls I know including me, hate being treated badly and trust me, I come from an all girl's school. So, dude, you're just with all the wrong girls.
And yes, that is pretty odd... Maybe those girls who love being with jerks just don't want a serious relationship. Maybe they were in it for the experience. I'm not really sure why they were like that. I'm sure you'll find a decent girl soon enough. Hope, I helped you even a little bit. :P

[Grayeyes]

OR, these girls are going through a rough time in their lives and need someone they don't have to be serious with. Like a distraction.

Or, like I said earlier, they're in it for the experience.

Or, They're sluts and they think sex is better when the guy is a jerk 'cause it can be as rough as she wants it to be. (it can be a possibility... but i think it's unlikely)

Or, they're just really masochists.
Just kidding :)

That's all I can really come up with :/ Sorry man, if i didn't help. but seriously, the girls i know hate jerks and leave them in a snap.

[AussieInfomonger]

^ I need to meet some of those girls then.

AND AN ALL GIRLS SCHOOL WHERE IS THIS jokes jokes...no seriously where is this lol.

Because not to sound up myself but I AM A MAJOR CATCH lol...

And hmm good points there as well maybe its just the people I know the ones that aren't scared to date people are just sluts or just stupid...But the being rough nice guys can do that too WHAT? >.> <.< >.>

[Triceratops]

One Earth, 204 countries, 809 islands, 7 seas, 7 billion people...and I'm STILL single.

^ Facebook group I found the other day - it just seems somewhat relevant to this thread. And OP, yeah, it always seems that way. Most of the girls I know are jerks themselves, and are after nothing more than a superficial relationship. Those girls aren't worth wasting your time on, so go and find yourself someone smart and decent.

[AussieInfomonger]

Yeah the ones I thought were smart and decent are always superficial lying bitches. Ahh the people I know through a CHRISTIAN SCHOOL. Lots of christians there -.- not. And then the ones that are you couldn't fucking say friendship too because they would freak out and be like "eww boys" basically incredibly immature because they hadn't gotten out into the world yet and grown the fuck up.

But I mainly find posts over and over again on facebook of girls realise there bf is a jerk or I just knowing them and knowing they are a jerk. This was like last year got sooo sick of Facebook and the bullshit that goes on there so often fuck sake. My life is so much nicer without it ahhhh.

[Triceratops]

Yeah the ones I thought were smart and decent are always superficial lying bitches. Ahh the people I know through a CHRISTIAN SCHOOL. Lots of christians there -.- not. And then the ones that are you couldn't fucking say friendship too because they would freak out and be like "eww boys" basically incredibly immature because they hadn't gotten out into the world yet and grown the fuck up.

But I mainly find posts over and over again on facebook of girls realise there bf is a jerk or I just knowing them and knowing they are a jerk. This was like last year got sooo sick of Facebook and the bullshit that goes on there so often fuck sake. My life is so much nicer without it ahhhh.

The Christian high school where I live is chockablock with sluts and whores, and it's probably down to the overprotective nature of their Christian parents back in their childhood that makes them want to rebel later on. The others you've mentioned still probably haven't escaped from that little bubble they've been trapped in ever since their parents took them to church every Sunday morning when they were 3 years old.

Girls are usually naive, vulnerable and, well, just plain stupid. Except for me of course, lololol.

[AussieInfomonger]

HAHA except for you of course. Nah the ones that are sluts don't have christian parents they just go there cause its a private school...-.-. The ones that have christian parents are the ones in the over protective bubble.

[Iam.]

It not just you. I see it the same way. I don't understand like, i treat girls with respect, don't treat them like an object, don't swear at them, don't talk about how hot other girls are infront of them, and yea lol iam still single. :eek: Do i need to change??

[Indecision]

Yeh, I guess it's pretty true.
All my friend like the good looking guys, not the ones who really, honestly care.
That's why I love the guy I love.x

[carlitosway]

yup. girls seem to like the guys that their dad will hate. haha

[AutumnDae]

I realize that I have lived an EXTREMELY sheltered life, but I honestly haven't seen this that much at all. Honestly, it's almost been the other way around for most of my observations. I say I've lived a sheltered life because I live in a tiny town, there are around 60 students in each grade here.

I see the nicest guys in my school dating some of the meanest girls I've ever met.

I, for one, do not tolerate meanness. I don't care if a guy is as nice as can be towards me, if he's mean to other people, he can take a hike.

In movies, yeah you see "Oh I want someone I can talk to about all this and walk on the beach with." and stuff. And personally, at least for me, it is true. My boyfriend and I sat in swings at a playground for over 3 hours, talking. Granted, most of the time was silence, as we are both quiet people, but we have real conversations, about actual stuff that matters. Our relationship isn't based around sex, it's based around common interests and enjoying one another's company.

Maybe the girls you're going after aren't the right type of girls for you. Take a look at them, are they actually nice, or are they fake?

[AussieInfomonger]

^ Well maybe where you are from there are some real people which would be nice for once. Most of them haven't grown up will and some will never grow up. But I'm sure as others already have can vouch for the fact this doesn't just happen where I am it is like global.

So maybe you just live in one of those lucky parts of the world where people are real.

[broseph92]

Im a huge jerk/douchebag and girls love hooking up with me. Plenty of girls have told me that my cockiness is a turn on. That's something that most girls like, but won't talk about openly. They secretly love douchebags

[AussieInfomonger]

There is a huge difference between being cocky and being a total fuckhead.

And dare I ask how long these relationships have lasted for?

[broseph92]

^ im talking about hooking up (one night stands, etc) I hardly ever get in relationships. I get bored being with the same girl too long

[AussieInfomonger]

Yeah exactly what I was expecting. Sounds like you've been hooking up with girls that were mentioned earlier.

[Grayeyes]

The private schools here are usually not co-ed. I love it here but, ha, i don't think you'd really wanna go here just to meet girls.
Seriously dude, maybe all you need to do is wait before you get into a relationship...maybe?
Some girls are just really messed up and sorta broken and some are just really in it for the hook up.
And I also agree with carlitosway. That they get guys like that for attention from their parents. Haha. Girls are weird. I should know, I am one haha.
Another advice that i don't know will help, wait for college! People are a bit more mature and you can have a good relationship with a if not great, decent girl. :P

Oh and, if you think you can't get a good relationship with a girl who wants a jerk, don't be one. I'll repeat, do not be a douchebag. You can never get married and have a good life if you become one. The good always prevail ;)

[AussieInfomonger]

^ LOL was joking around about the going there to meet girls hahaa.

Thats another thing I haven't bothered to get in any relationships I'm saying this from the point that I've seen this happen so many times so I don't bother. So I don't need to wait anymore probably need to wait less hahaa....I'm in college...Tech College...hehe kinda school though hahaaa. Probably confused ya there =P

Oh and no I'm not someone who is a jerk around girls or a douchebag, although I tried it on someone I knew and they seemed to find it to be a good thing but she was another one of those people I consider to be the type that thinks they are too cool for everyone but is stupid...

[Grayeyes]

Whutsss? You're in college? And girls are still like that?

Anyway, I can't say anymore than what i already have :/ Don't give up on trying to find a good relationship. And i mean a real relationship. Not just some hook-up. You'll find someone decent soon, promise.

Kay, hope I helped even a bit... or maybe i just made your problem worse. sorry. :|

BTW, waiting is good. No need to rush into anything -__-