Quite the Dilemma

[Wolfy B]

Ok here is the situation. I've been crushing on this girl for a long time (like half a semester, maybe longer I don't remember). I've only summoned the courage to talk to her like twice. Once in school (juniors) and another through message on facebook.

Prom is the 14th. I want to ask her before its too late (I know for sure she doesn't have a date, as of now). Although I didn't think she would go to prom with someone she barely knew so I planned on talking to her more this week and then asking her to the movies saturday. However, I never talked to her because I'm so shy.

So now I've got few choices:
1. I can ask her out to the movies as an almost complete stranger.

2. I can just focus on talking to her more over the time between now and prom. Problem with this is someone could ask her or even if she said yes we would then be rushing to get prom stuff such as tickets (I'm pretty sure she already has a dress since she planned on going with girlfriends anyway) and I'd need a tuxedo, etc.

3. I had another idea but I forgot haha. Instead this spot will be for any ideas you guys have, or I'll edit in the idea if I remember.

PLEASE HELP. I need to decide this by tomorrow afternoon so if no one has responded by then I will probably just decide by myself. Any and ALL help is appreciated. Sorry for the long read.

[FainAgain]

Ok here is the situation. I've been crushing on this girl for a long time (like half a semester, maybe longer I don't remember). I've only summoned the courage to talk to her like twice. Once in school (juniors) and another through message on facebook.

Prom is the 14th. I want to ask her before its too late (I know for sure she doesn't have a date, as of now). Although I didn't think she would go to prom with someone she barely knew so I planned on talking to her more this week and then asking her to the movies saturday. However, I never talked to her because I'm so shy.

So now I've got few choices:
1. I can ask her out to the movies as an almost complete stranger.

2. I can just focus on talking to her more over the time between now and prom. Problem with this is someone could ask her or even if she said yes we would then be rushing to get prom stuff such as tickets (I'm pretty sure she already has a dress since she planned on going with girlfriends anyway) and I'd need a tuxedo, etc.

3. I had another idea but I forgot haha. Instead this spot will be for any ideas you guys have, or I'll edit in the idea if I remember.

PLEASE HELP. I need to decide this by tomorrow afternoon so if no one has responded by then I will probably just decide by myself. Any and ALL help is appreciated. Sorry for the long read.


Yeah... not number one. Seriously not number 1.

you cant just ask a stranger to go to the movies with you. I say be straight forward. Try and talk to her more, but make it obvious you like her. Otherwise she will think you are a stalker.

And ask her to the prom asap. Like within the next week.

Gotta get a move on buddy.

GOOD LUCK! :)

[Blue63]

Okay, this is quite the dilemma. But hey, it's prom seasons, the season of risk-taking! So I have a few ideas. First of all, number 1 might just get you labeled as a creeper. This is not a good label to have. I would say talk to her on Facebook. Seriously, we don't even realize how much easier Facebook makes our social lives. Surely you have common ground, start there. You clearly like her, you clearly know a lot about her (even if she doesn't about you) so you know what she would like to talk about. Start there. It's tricky, because you have to act quickly, but you can't act too quickly. Sorry, that was probably confusing. Normally I would say don't talk to her everyday. But with prom so close, I say you don't have too much of a choice. Talk to her frequently, maybe not everyday, maybe everyday. I guess it's up to you. After a few days of talking to her, casually bring up the subject of prom. This is going to be sink or swim, I'm sorry, but it WILL be a risk. Not great for a shy person, I know, but you just have to try and suck it up! Anyway, casually bring up prom. Mention that you don't have a date, ask her if she has one (even though you know she doesn't) and then, very coyly, very breezily, ask her, since you both have no dates, if she would like to go to prom with you. Don't freak out, don't make it a big deal, make it simple. I think, THINK, her answer will simply come down to how interested she is in you/the idea of going to prom. She may like you but still say no. Just go for it. You've liked for a while, take a shot. If you don't, you'll always wonder. Good luck!! Let us know how it goes!!