So, try this one on for size.

[BHS10]

Over the past few months, me and this girl (let's call her Sarah) have gotten really close. Texting non-stop, flirting at school all the time, gone to a couple movies, and I've even been over to her house 3 or 4 times. She's never been to my house, just fwiw (this matters, I promise).

Okay, so now that we've been talking and hanging out for almost 3 months, I'm going to ask her out. The next time we are hanging out, outside of school, I'm going to ask her out.

But, I have a huge problem. Recently, my mom has decided that she wanted to be a lesbian and has a girlfriend. She's been with this girl for almost a year. Now, this wouldn't be the terrible problem that it is, if it wasn't for this - Sarah's dad is a missionary baptist preacher.

So, do I tell Sarah before I ask her out? Or do I keep hiding it for a while, until I know she wouldn't break up with me because of it? I really don't know what to do. ANY help is apprecaited! Thanks so much guys! :)

[green]

if the girl dumps you because of your mums sexual prefference shes not worth it. she is just another indoctrinated child who has been taken by a religion which was built on equality but is now based on god has his chosen people and everyone else can piss up a rope.

[Spook]

Agreed. She's not somebody you want to be with if she would drop you just because of your mom's sexuality.

Ask her out and tell her, and see how she responds to it. ^_^

[BHS10]

Ask her out and tell her, and see how she responds to it. ^_^

In which order? :P

Part of me wants to tell her beforehand, because I don't want to basically lie to her right off the bat.

The other part of me wants to wait a while, that way it would be hard for her to break up with me.

I just don't know.. I really think I'm going to tell her beforehand. But yeah, y'all are right. If she doesn't date me because of it, then she wasn't worth my time from the beginning. I'm just trying to figure out the easiest way to tell her..? Any advice?

[anonymous53]

Ask her her views on homosexuality.
Then if she hasn't started quoting bible verses at you screaming hell. Then you can tell her.
If she doesn't want to go out with you because of your mother's sexual preference then is she worth your time?

[WonderChild]

I think it should be the kids choice, not the parents. If she really likes you, I think it would work out fine. But just try, it never hurts to try.

[Great Perhaps]

honesty is the best policy here. I would tell her beforehand, but whichever is better for you. i would tell her either before or RIGHT after you ask her out