Shes going to try pot

[xhelgrindx]

My gf is going to visit her friend in her hometown and her and her friend are going to do pot. I don't want her to do it I think it's bad and I thought she was better than that it kind of disappoints me that she's going to do it. Her friend is a bad influence. I trust that my gf won't do anything stupid while she's there besides the pot smoking which I think is very stupid! I feel like I should message her friend asking her what her problem is. I'm just angry idk what to do.

[Sage]

I'm going to be completely honest here, kiddo. You seem to post a new thread on this girl every week. I really don't think this is a healthy relationship that you're cut out for. You're not always going to be able to ask other people for advice on how to solve your relationship problems. There are only so many times you can fumble a ball before you have to just catch the bloody thing.

[xhelgrindx]

So you're saying I should break it off? It's not like i don't face my problems myself I talk to her but I like to get other people's opinions. I could never break it off I love her so much she's my best friend one of my only friends.

[anonymous53]

Let's just say this. If it bothers you that much, break it off. I've found it best if you're straightedge to find another person that is straightedge. You've tried talking to her about it and she knows how much it bothers you. She's a teenager she wants to experiment so let her.

Like Sage says, this doesn't seem like a healthy relationship. You don't trust her and you don't trust her friends. Without trust there cannot be a relationship.

[Spook]

Tell her that when somebody starts something like smoking pot or marijuana, it can become a habit...and addiction.

Probably not the closest comparison...but have you seen those meth commercials where the people say: "I'll only try it once?" That's a problem. If it really bothers you, I think that you should talk it over with her. Tell her that you love her and don't want her to get hurt. If she really loves you, she will understand your feelings.

Good Luck, ~Caitlin (Animal Luverrr)

[Dunce]

Well firstly, I think you should tell her how you feel about pot. You didn't mention that you actually confronted her about it. A friend of mine said she'd "Try it just once" and she's now two years smoking it. Apparently you can't get physically addicted to it but you definitely can become mentally dependant on it.

And secondly, you obviously don't trust this girl. I've seen you post threads on her before, and you seem to be monitoring and analysing everything she does.
You won't be able to come on VT and ask us why does she want to take the pill, or why is the romance gone. You need to start figuring things out by yourself and going with how you feel. You need to be honest with her.

[Zazu]

Z0mg, CANNABIS!!!!!!!




Seriously, she could do much worse. The biggest problem she would face would be making sure what she smokes is pure (not been buggered about with).

Plus what everyone else said.

[Dimitri]

I'm going to be completely honest here, kiddo. You seem to post a new thread on this girl every week. I really don't think this is a healthy relationship that you're cut out for. You're not always going to be able to ask other people for advice on how to solve your relationship problems. There are only so many times you can fumble a ball before you have to just catch the bloody thing.
I totally have to agree, personally i would drop this chick's ass and say to hell with it....

[xhelgrindx]

Why do you guys think we should split?

[anonymous53]

Why?
To sugarcoat it

You two seem to be incompatible and this relationship has seemed to upset you multiple times.
To be harsh

You don't trust her. It's very obvious that you do not.
You don't like her hanging with her friends.
She's obviously willing to try something that she knows bothers you.
You two have absolutely no communication on important matters in your relationship.

If you want it to work:

You two need to communicate
You need to trust her
and she needs to at least respect your feelings on things.

[xhelgrindx]

Ya I get what you guys are saying but I'm not going to break it off. I do trust her and I really do think that something is wrong I really do think she is bipolar and she can't control it when you love someone you don't just break it off you need to solve your problems and it's very hard sometimes but its worth it it =) I love her with all my heart and we will make this relationship work and I do believe after she starts going to see a therapist and she is put on meds I believe she will be better. And who said I don't like her hanging out with her friends? We do have trouble communicating sometimes but do you know what its like to be in a relationship with a bipolar person who thinks that every little thing you say is stupid and she gets angry over the littlest things. You'd watch what you said as well. You don't know the circumstance I'm in

[Sage]

I still don't think you're in a healthy relationship if you have to seek out help on the internet from teenagers as often as you do.

[restricted NA]

Tell her that your concerned for her health, tell her that if she smokes pot that you will break up with her. She needs to know your ceral. Good luck man :)

[xhelgrindx]

Ya but I also don't have many friends to talk to and I need to talk to someone sometime I could be fine without seeking help your guyses help doesn't help much anyway most of the time I'm ranting/