The Decision of abortion

[FainAgain]

I promise this is the right thread for this.

I am an only child. I was born out of wedlock (before marriage) and was pretty much an accident. My question is this. I will resent my mother for the rest of my life for having three abortions and murdering three of my siblings. Her reason was that "She is never putting her body through childbirth again". Do i have the right to resent her?

[anonymous53]

You can resent anyone for any reason.

Should you? Probably not. It's her body, look at it from her point of view. I still think your mother should have used better forms of birth control instead of abortion if she knew she didn't want any more kids.
There are some things better kept a secret. Like abortion of siblings to your children.

[kaykay13]

i understand why u would resent her and its ok and i agree abortion should b a secret to others like siblings... im not against abortion but i dnt believe in abusing the power like ur mom has. BUT another thing u need to think about is she loved u enough to have u, therefore remember the hardest part in life is forgiveness and i think thats what she really needs from u. its hard not to resent people especially our parents for their actions but if ppl nvr forgave for others mistakes the whole world would hate each other.
im here if u wanna talk anymore, just send me a message or whatever :)

[Blue63]

Okay, I'm going to be blunt for a minute. It is completely logical, understandable, sane for you to resent her. Her reasons seem selfish, from what you're telling me. Of course that would inspire rage, hatred, resentment in you. I would be too. At some point, I do hope you forgive her. But this is tough, tough on both of you. Forgiveness isn't something you can force, it's something you have to slowly let sink in. In fact, it's probably healthy for you to be angry for a while.

On a brighter note, being an only child has its serious ups. Okay, I'm not gonna talk about a ton of christmas presents or anything. I'm an only child, there have been times that I've wanted siblings, and time when I've been completely grateful that it was just me. Us only children, we learn a lot that I think some sibling-ed children don't. Even though it wasn't your choice, appreciate it. Perhaps fate led you there.

[Jess]

I understand why you resent her but it was her decision to have those abortions, and in MY OPINION, I don't see them as murder.

edit: This is just my opinion. and I agree with Blue63, being an only child has its advantages.

[FainAgain]

Thanks for your responses. It makes me so mad.... Iv'e always wanted a sibiling, and now that i know I could have had three.... It kills me.

[Patchy]

Strange how I've just seen this thread, I found out a few hours ago that last year one of my mates (only got really close recently) had an abortion at 8 weeks.

End of the day its your parents choice whether to abort or not. Having more kids can cause an upset to a family in stress, finances and relationships.

You may of wanted a brother or a sister at the time but if it was gonna put your family/mother under pressure it might not of been best.

I do see your point. I'm very liberal about abortions (As so long as the child is aborted no later than a certain point).

[mbishop94479]

It's her choice if she wants to get an abortion. If she doesn't want to have a child, she shouldn't be forced to have it. You have the right to believe what you will and to really want siblings. But respect your mom's wants and don't hate her for not wanting to give birth to another child. Put yourself in her position. Think about it.

[Roses_Are_Yellow]

I know exactly how you feel. I was actually thinking about this today. My mother got rid of my older brother, and my baby brother, but the one time everyone around her wants to get abortion while pregnant with a certain little girl, she didn't. So, i'll always be grateful for that....even if she did it for selfishness. I still resent her for making me an only child....well..I resent her for A LOT of reasons, but that's not the point...... Well, I guess hating you parents isn't healthy, but you have a right to resent someone. But, because I'm in the same type of position as you, I can't really be a hypocrite and scold you. No one can tell you how to feel.