I Need help :(

[Brokeandbetrayed]

My best friend is gone now and i had feelings for her..deep feelings. She started dating someone and it just crushed me. She was the only one i had to go to and stuff. Now I have no one..it seems. Occasionally i just take the knife and press it against my skin until it imprints in my skin and hurts and leaves a mark. I'm afraid it's going to get worse now that she's gone. Please leave any suggestions on what to do or any advice.

[Travis Is Losing It]

Eric you can't let a girl have that effect on you. Yes shes your best friend but its not like shes really going to flat out leave you. And hey odds are shes not gunna stay with who shes dating cause well thats life. You will have alot of chances at her probably and many other women. Cutting and self mutilation are horrible things to start even though it feels like it will help. The feelings will just come back and eventually people WILL catch on. You'll get ridiculed by people who don't understand the emotions and people who just want to feel better about themselves. I guarentee everyone here is here for you. Talk to a cousilor a teacher you trust or maybe even your parents... feelings like this shouldnt be left undelt.

[Brokeandbetrayed]

My friend knows i harm. She wants me to go to a counselor for that and my anger. Im afraid to though.

[Travis Is Losing It]

All counselors like school counselors and therapists and stuff are not allowed to disclose any information to anyone else without your complete and full permission. Meaning if you say dont tell anyone they cant. There job is to help you and talking to them is one of the best things you can do. Most couselors even know the exact thing your going through because they were our ages once too and experienced all of it if not more. It's always hard to talk to someone you dont know in person but if you do it will help. + if its a school counselor go down durring a class you hate ^.^ and defently bring your friend since most counselors in a school dont mind

[Brokeandbetrayed]

Someone went to a school counselor at my school and said they harmed. The counselor then told the police he was a suicidal threat even though he wasnt. Thats my reason for not going

[Travis Is Losing It]

Well if a counselor feels there is a strong suicidal threat then they have to. but that kid most likely was in it deep. And the police are not who they are going to tell. They are going to contact a psychiatric hospital for therapy or something and thats only in extreme cases. Odds are that was probably only a rumor because a counselor can lose there liscense and be sued for disclosing information like that without extreme causes

[Brokeandbetrayed]

True.

it's just getting worse :(

Please don't double post, use the edit button instead. ~georgiamay.

[iamlauren]

Whatever you do, don't tell. Trust me, I've been in both ends of the situation; the friend who knows, and the one who cut. If they find out you cut, they either toss you in the phsyco ward or heavily drug you with Zoloft or Prozac. Don't let them. You can get through this. I started cutting last Friday because the person I reallllly liked told me she didn't like me back and we couldn't be friends because I was gay. Then I told my best friend on Monday that I started cutting and if the scratches didn't heal by this friday that she'll tell. That's why I'm putting a band-aid on at the moment while typing. Don't let anyone know. Just stop and you'll be fine. Trust me, therapists are horrible. So are counsellors. All they try to do is get info out of you and promise not to tell and then turn around and cal you parents. Don't let anyone find out and don't cut. Message me if you want to talk more about this.

[Brokeandbetrayed]

Thanks lauren :)

[anonymous53]

She's not worth it. You're young you'll have plenty more chances at this girl. As Travis said. Counselors aren't allowed to tell anyone unless they believe you are in lifely danger to yourself or others. The only people I believe they can tell in the US are your legal guardian's. That way you can get some real psychiatric help and get a little bit better :) Bring a friend you trust to the school counselor to give you support when you go to tell

[georgiamay]

Whatever you do, don't tell. Trust me, I've been in both ends of the situation; the friend who knows, and the one who cut. If they find out you cut, they either toss you in the phsyco ward or heavily drug you with Zoloft or Prozac. Don't let them. You can get through this. I started cutting last Friday because the person I reallllly liked told me she didn't like me back and we couldn't be friends because I was gay. Then I told my best friend on Monday that I started cutting and if the scratches didn't heal by this friday that she'll tell. That's why I'm putting a band-aid on at the moment while typing. Don't let anyone know. Just stop and you'll be fine. Trust me, therapists are horrible. So are counsellors. All they try to do is get info out of you and promise not to tell and then turn around and cal you parents. Don't let anyone find out and don't cut. Message me if you want to talk more about this.

Honestly? This is completely not true, in any way whatsoever.

School counsellors may be useless, but therapists aren't, they're trained professionals. I've been seeing a therapist for a few months now, and I've told her on more than one occassion that I was feeling suicidal, and she never told my parents. School counsellors have to tell your parents, so talking to them might not be a good idea, but they can refer you to an counselling service outside of school, and if it's worse than that, maybe you'll be refered to a psychiatrist.

You won't be thrown into a psych ward, I've seen a psychiatrist, he offered me Zoloft and said it'd help, but I said I didn't want it. It's that simple. He refered me to a therapist, and I've been there ever since. I've never been thrown into a psych ward, and I've never been forced onto psychiatric medication. And I've said some pretty serious things to my therapist. I've told her that I'm scared I'll go too deep one day, and that I sometimes get really suicidal, and I'm scared I might do it one day. She's never told my parents. She's actually helped me a lot. I might not have stopped cutting yet, and I might still have a lot of mental problems, but I've got so much better, you wouldn't believe it.

If you talk to someone, anyone, they'll be able to help you. And if you're scared that they'll tell your parents, don't be. 9 out of 10 parents find out in the end anyway.

I've seen counsellors, psychiatrists and therapists, and I don't regret either. Sure, the counsellor was crap and didn't help me, and she does interfere in school more than I'd like, but I don't care, because if she hadn't spoken to my parents, I never would have gotten help.

I'm always here if you need to talk, just PM me. :hug3:

[Brokeandbetrayed]

thanks georgia...I know i shouldn't be afraid to go to counseling if they have to tell my parents but i am :/