Blue63
May 2nd, 2011, 07:43 PM
Hey everyone,
I guess I'll just jump right into it then. A few months ago the clique I was (there were 5 of us) dissolved. There wasn't a dramatic parting of ways or a chaotic argument, we just began to slowly drift apart. Although I'm still friends with these people, we don't hang out outside of school often. So, that being said, around a month-or-so ago I began the search for a new group of friends. Initially, the search went very well. In fact, I was completely surprised. I found a small group of three other guys (I go to an all-boys school, just fyi). They invited me to go to prom with them, and I gratefully accepted. After I was invited to prom, I hung out with them a few times. It was nothing substantial. However, this is where the part of the story get's complicated. I set one of them up, Alex, with my friend Emma. Alex couldn't find a prom date, so I set him up. Well, they ended up falling for each other and Alex is going to ask her out soon. The second time I hung out with this group, it was with Emma, so she could meet Alex. Well we all went to prom and it was awesome, went off without a hitch. We all had a great time, and the guys spent the night at Alex's house. Now that Prom is over, I feel like I'ver serve my purpose. Alex has begun hanging out with Emma on her own and the group of friends is left unchanged. I feel like I somehow didn't make a big enough impact to get invited to things on a weekly basis. I still talk to them all during school and on facebook occasionally, but I don't know what to do. How can I fully assimilate into their clique? They all have their little dramas and past altercations that I feel out of the loop on. I'm not sure how to get myself invited to things more regularly. I can't invite myself and I don't want to sound too clingy. I just don't know what to do to make them myself a permanent member of this clique. I just, dont seem to remember how I did it before, and I really want to make this work. Should I be direct? Or coy? I like all of these people, and I'm pretty confident that they like me. Anyway, let me know, I could really use some help!
Thanks, Matt
I guess I'll just jump right into it then. A few months ago the clique I was (there were 5 of us) dissolved. There wasn't a dramatic parting of ways or a chaotic argument, we just began to slowly drift apart. Although I'm still friends with these people, we don't hang out outside of school often. So, that being said, around a month-or-so ago I began the search for a new group of friends. Initially, the search went very well. In fact, I was completely surprised. I found a small group of three other guys (I go to an all-boys school, just fyi). They invited me to go to prom with them, and I gratefully accepted. After I was invited to prom, I hung out with them a few times. It was nothing substantial. However, this is where the part of the story get's complicated. I set one of them up, Alex, with my friend Emma. Alex couldn't find a prom date, so I set him up. Well, they ended up falling for each other and Alex is going to ask her out soon. The second time I hung out with this group, it was with Emma, so she could meet Alex. Well we all went to prom and it was awesome, went off without a hitch. We all had a great time, and the guys spent the night at Alex's house. Now that Prom is over, I feel like I'ver serve my purpose. Alex has begun hanging out with Emma on her own and the group of friends is left unchanged. I feel like I somehow didn't make a big enough impact to get invited to things on a weekly basis. I still talk to them all during school and on facebook occasionally, but I don't know what to do. How can I fully assimilate into their clique? They all have their little dramas and past altercations that I feel out of the loop on. I'm not sure how to get myself invited to things more regularly. I can't invite myself and I don't want to sound too clingy. I just don't know what to do to make them myself a permanent member of this clique. I just, dont seem to remember how I did it before, and I really want to make this work. Should I be direct? Or coy? I like all of these people, and I'm pretty confident that they like me. Anyway, let me know, I could really use some help!
Thanks, Matt