Strict parents

[Ben Michael]

Jusr wanted to ask if i'm the only person out there ok lets stop when i meen strict i meen.

won't let me have a email

no facebook social networking ect.

if they caught me on here they would kill me

no gf or any friends that are girls do it any ways XD

can't go to public school have to go to private

no ''worldly music'' country ect listen to it any ways :p

I know im lucky to not have divorced parents and i know they want to protect me but don't you think this is a little overboard.

P.S. NO CELLPHONE I COULD KILL MYSELF

ok im gunna stop rambelin' :|

[NomSan]

Wow, I don't think I could have coped living with such restrictions.
I think your parents are way too over protective, they should cut you some slack =/

[Sage]

How old are you?

[Patchy]

My parents can be strict about some things like bringing people home and they always want me to check in and let them know I'm "safe" etc. if I'm out with mates etc.

But everything else, tbh they're great for. Yeah technically I'm an adult now and can do whatever I want as my parents aren't responsible for me anymore, however I live in my mums house therefore I need to go by her rules if I wanna stay and I do want to stay, though I doubt she'd ever kick me out unless she knew I was moving to somewhere decent.

[Ben Michael]

@ Sage- I'll be 14 next month

@ MystT --I've tried to ask them for some slack but then you might as well have told them to yell at you for fun. -sigh-

Don't double post please - Kaius

[Racedude]

Wow my parents aren't that bad now. After reading that I'm fine with them not letting me hang out with my friend tomorrow.

[Ben Michael]

I wasn't posting this for self pitty but just to ask if anyone had a similar situation.

[Unknown.]

Actually thats waaaaaaaaaayyyyyy much protection for me, I've never heard of parents like that but maybe there's a way i can help you.

First off, ask them calmly about why they put up such restrictions to you.

If the answer is something like to protect you or we want you to be better off tell them that if their intention is that they're doing it the wrong way.

You can't be guided all the way through life, you need to suffer, to make mistakes otherwise there'd be no way you could learn to live.

And about the technology (facebook, email, cellphone) tell them that you understand the dangers of it (Blackmailing, Theft, Bullying?, I really don't know many dangers) but that they are far less likely to happen than in real life.

Hope i helped, post feedback.

I'm a liberty advocate!

[LiekOmgz]

That's WAY too much protection but I honestly have the same problem. my parent's won't let me do just anything. most of the things you listed, is what my parent's are strict on me about. but, after awhile, there's no use of getting mad and just cope with it (but, I do stuff on the side that they don't know)

[Ben Michael]

Thanks ppl, so I should talk to them abt it and cope and not get mad.

Thank you all so much.

P.S. just because I wrote this doesn't meenn you have to stop posting, keep 'em commin'

[Blue63]

So I had a similar problem a few years ago. I won't exaggerate, it wasn't nearly as bad. However, I found practical ways to get what I wanted. I wanted a data plan for my cell phone, so I wrote a three page petition explaining why it would be beneficial. The next week my dad took me to the sprint store. Whenever I would hang out with girls, my mother would grill me about it. It got to the point where I would simply just lie about who I was. When the questioning didn't stop, I ended up just talking (which soon turned into argument) about trust and how she was stifling me.

The best thing to do is to talk about it. Talk in practical terms, don't just make it sound like you're a whiny teenager. Don't be afraid to fight for it. Go in calm ready to talk rationally. However, if you an tell they're being irrational, go ahead and show some passion. If that still doesn't work, maybe bring in the opinion of someone your parents trust. Your parents rules are clearly suffocating, and I'm sure someone like a trusted aunt would probably agree with you. See if maybe they can talk to your parents and try to convince them to let go a little. Anyway, good luck!

[Ben Michael]

Thanks

[PetaByte]

Wow... My parents are completely opposite. They were the ones that told me I should get a Facebook, they don't mind me having girls over (although it's never actually wound up in us doing anything :/), they say I can pick what school I want to attend, they pay for my Spotify (music program) account, and they get angry if I don't have my cellphone on. I think your parents are waaaay too overprotective. I know this is the "regular" thing to say, but try to talk with them. Tell them how you feel, that you don't get to run your own life ('cause honestly it doesn't sound like you can). If they don't listen, go talk to the school psychiatrist or another grown-up about the matter.

[Jess]

my parents are strict but I still have an email and particpate on forums and stuff. at least behind their backs. they aren't as strict as yours...but they blocked this place a few months back when they saw me on it. you should ask them why you get these restrictions. maybe it's your age, but I don't know

[Indecision]

Wow, that must be quite hard in teenage years. Don't you ever get pressurized to have facebook or anything? :s.

My Mother won't let me go to sleepovers, boy's houses are complete nono's.
Everything I eat etc, she HAS to know, 'cause it's totally illegal if I eat too little/too much. Obvs.
I'm not allowed to buy any clothes without her acceptance, which of course, is rare.

But we live on, eh?

[Ambrosia]

My parents were never like that. When I was younger I had parental restrictions on my computer and television, still to this day my food intake AT HOME is restricted, I wasn't allowed to date until I was 16(Actually go out on dates), Blah blah. Just the normal stuff.

You should honestly talk to them...

[Dimitar223]

I never had that problem before.

[predatorsfan21]

Not to be "that guy" but you're not really missing out on anything by not having a facebook. I hate facebook. TWITTER ALL THE WAY!

[Natedoggsr71]

Yea sounds a bit overboard...

[WoShiDavid95]

Yeah, definitely overboard ._.
My parents pale in comparison. They should really let you have some more freedom, go and talk to them, if they keep this up it won't be good for you as you won't get to socialise much, if any.

[judahtics]

my fosters are strict, but not that strict, but they have friends who are that strict with their kids. some are even more strict. like, they monitor their kids cellphones, friends, and search their rooms. luckily since i'm a foster, i have certain "rights" lets call them that allow me certain things and certain privacy's. my foster siblings have it pretty tough. they also can't use social network sites or be alone with the opposite sex.

[Abigballofdust]

I don't understand those limitations. I mean, everything should have a limit but this is just too much...
It's clear you can't stay out 'till 6am if you're 14, but why not letting you go out with a girl?!
Also, parent control is just over rated, everybody knows the forbidden stuff is sweeter... My brother is 10 and has a facebook account, opened with permission of my parents, I started browsing when I was 12 and they never limited it and I'm completely normal.
You should speak with them, confront them openly, because that's not good, you'll crack once you'll be on yourself.

[Cybercode]

Jusr wanted to ask if i'm the only person out there ok lets stop when i meen strict i meen.

won't let me have a email

no facebook social networking ect.

if they caught me on here they would kill me

no gf or any friends that are girls do it any ways XD

can't go to public school have to go to private

no ''worldly music'' country ect listen to it any ways :p

I know im lucky to not have divorced parents and i know they want to protect me but don't you think this is a little overboard.

P.S. NO CELLPHONE I COULD KILL MYSELF

ok im gunna stop rambelin' :|

wow and i seriously thought my parents were the worst in the world cause just today they came, inspected my room, computer, iphone, and evetually me just because last night I masturbated. they said i have no right to hide stuff and when i told them they can't look at my area, they said I have no right to protest.

but i think our parents are equally strict.

[Kayden]

My parents are the complete opposite

[Spock]

my parents are loose they dont care if iam social networking or have cell phones they dont care who iam friends with as long as they r respectful

[Jess]

I posted here already, but I'm starting to think my parents are more "stupid" than strict. they don't understand forums and posts and files. and they also think keeping a journal is bad. -_-

[Donkey]

Please don't bump old threads. :locked: