Freak dancing at parties.

[itsjustme300]

Last night, Me and my girl went to this dance party and i told her not to dance on any boys because I didn't like it. She told me if i don't dance with her, she would dance on other boys but I'm still on the shy side and I told her she should try to get me to dance first. So then i told her if i dance with her, then she can't dance on other boys. We got to the party and at first I didn't dance because of that shy side I have but eventually I started dancing with her. When we stopped to go get some food, and came back I stopped dancing with her because she was in a circle with her friends so I thought she didn't want to dance like that anymore but be with her friends until I saw her dancing with another boy. I had to pull her away from him and it wasn't only that boy, it was 2 more. She told me that it's just dancing and she doesn't see why I'm taking it so seriously. I explained why I'm taking it seriously to her, and I told her that it doesn't make me feel right, It's a sexually suggestive dance, and I don't want boys putting they're stuff all up on her. My best friend (which is very close to her too) tells me that she was just having fun and she didn't try to have those boys behind her, they came up to her and i know she didn't, but she would've kept on dancing if I didn't interrupt.

Question, is it alright for her to dance on other boys like that? or am I just over exaggerating?

[AutumnDae]

Personally, dancing means nothing to me. It's not like "Oh I'm with this guy so I can't dance with others because it's suggestive." because I don't even think about it. It's just me having fun, and whoever happens to also be dancing with me.

I don't think it's that big of a deal, but our feelings about that might be different.

[itsjustme300]

But she's in a relationship, she could of grabbed me and danced with me if she wanted to do that but anyways, why would you need to get that close to another boy to have fun?

[AutumnDae]

I'm also in a relationship, and I dance with other boys.

Like you said before, you were shy and not into dancing, she probably would have just rather danced with someone who was into it. I wouldn't read too much into this, she was just dancing.

[anonymous53]

*Jealous guy opinion*

I'd feel the same way you would, but that's just me. It's how I am.

Next time be less shy and dance with her. I think it was inconsiderate of her to do something that you had already told her really bothered you.

[itsjustme300]

But thats the thing, i did dance with her

[Hunter Lily]

I have a boyfriend and he's shy, but I'd rather sit and talk to him than dance up on other guys. I think you should talk to her about it, because maybe it didn't mean anything to her, but for her to do so when you've told her it makes you uncomfortable is inconsiderate. Tell her that.

[rachy]

Personally I wouldn't have danced with other guys if my bf told me it made him uncomfortable. I think you should try to be a little more outgoing and she should be a little more considerate to you, especially if that bothered you so much. But anyway I wouldn't worry about it to much, as long as she doesn't pull any other antics like that with other guys.

[itsjustme300]

alright thanks guys :)

[Horse_girl]

I agree with the others. I have a boyfriend and personally I wouldn't dance with other boys, but I also know a lot of people like your girlfriend who believe that it's just dancing and don't see anything wrong with it. It really depends on the person.