Huge argument with my dad

[Sterling26]

so i was at dinner and we were talking about my job this summer as a camp counselor, and then my dad started talking about how he was "letting me" work there this summer, but in future summers i either have to "get a real job as a waiter to make money" or get a internship at a hospital. when i said that i may not want to intern at a hospital after my freshman year of college, he flipped out. he started saying that i had to try to get an internship (which is highly possible since my mom knows high up people in the field) and if i didnt get it then i could work at the camp, but i didn't have a choice in the matter. he is completely convinced that he has the decision over where i work, and that infuriates me since i love working at my camp. however, he was taking my saying that i may want to work there while in college as "hey so i'm gonna throw away all the money u plan on spending for college and work at mcdonalds after for the rest of my life". any thoughts on why he's acting like such a complete jerk?

[Josiah7]

May just be one of those days, my Dad is the same some days. My advice would be do whats right for you :) Do something that you will enjoy and make you happy - no point being depressed by doing a job that you are going to hate.

Talk it through with him if you get the chance, tell him your reasons for wanting/not wanting, to do that. Just remember - only you know what you really want. The sky is your limit.

Contact me if you need any help, or just someone to talk to.

[slappy]

He is living bicereusly through you

[Lil Ill]

okay and I'm gonna sound corny here but here it is anyway I'm in foster care my foster parent doesn't really care about what I do or what I want to do she said "when you and your sister turn 18 you each ate out of here". I I see it is because important to me talk with your dad and try to work it out some of us don't have any to talk to

[Sterling26]

awww lil ill yea i know i dont have it that bad, i guess ill just deal with it i just felt like venting. plus my dad's basically forgot about it already (as in he's choosing to just pretend the argument never happened, happens a lot in my family), so i guess ill just let it go for now.

[Josiah7]

Let me know if you need someone to vent or talk to in the future, just let me know :)

[Spook]

When you are 18, he doesn't have a choice over that anymore. You don't have to do what he wants you to do. Be patient, and on your 18th birthday, tell him that. :P

[Sterling26]

it's all good now he apologized. well he basically recanted his statement that i had to work as a waiter or hospital intern, and said he just wants me to graduate from college with as little debt as possible (that's how he apologizes lol). so everything's cool now, and hopefully i'll get to continue working at the camp for a few more years cause i love it there :)