I'm different

[Less]

I feel so different from other teenagers. Unlike the rest of my peers, paying interest in the opposite (or the same) sex is something I don't. Everyone but me has at least had one relationship, and most are currently in one. I've never been in love, had a girl/boyfriend, never had a first kiss, never understood the purpose of having a relationship.
I can't see what's so fun about going to a party, thus I have never been to one, I'd rather stay home reading manga, play videogames and doing homework.
I'm not part of any social website or community.
I've never had alcohol, tobacco or drugs.
I didn't go to prom.
I spend nearly all of my time at home or in school.
My friends all have girl/boyfriends respectively and they often tell me how great it is and try to convince me of having one as well.
I very rarely feel genuine emotions.
All I care about is getting good grades, something I do get.

Am I missing out on things?

[Sterling26]

wow u just basically like described my life up until this year. all i can say is things definitely do get better, and the first step to getting more of a social life is to talk to people. I remember even last year being afraid to pipe in on conversations because i was afraid that people would be like why is he talking, but honestly people are not nearly as cruel as they seem. luckily i met a fantastic girl who help pull me out of my comfort zone and eventually became my girlfriend, and the great thing is once you're more sociable you rarely go back to being shy. and honestly as far as relationships go i say put seeking one on hold and build up friends more, relationships will naturally occur. hope this helps :)

[donkeymkong]

I personally think you are, I'm basically the opposite of you, I feel sad and lonely even if I don't have plans on one weekend. You don't necessarily have to go to parties, do drugs or take alcohol or tobacco to have a good time, there's SOO many different, even more fun, safe things to do out there. I think you should try just hanging out with someone, a friend maybe, not a girlfriend/boyfriend. There's just something about being with another person, knowing you're accepted and loved, that makes life so much better

[MadManWithaBox]

I think its up to your perspective if you're missing things or not? Do you enjoy playing video games and reading manga, or do you really want to go to one of these parties and get a facebook and get a nice girlfriend? Why not give it a go, and see what you think? You might enjoy it, you might hate it. Either way, you'll know right?

[bleedoutlove]

It sounds like the symptoms of Asperger's disorder.
It's a mild form of autism.

[Syvelocin]

Like Matt said, do you even want to do all that?
I'm an introvert. I am perfectly happy to stay home and play some video games, practice piano, read, etc. The only parties I go to are my own birthday parties (which are barely parties anyway), I don't even go to my friends' birthday parties, I just take them out to lunch, but that's because I don't find them fun and also that my social anxiety doesn't mix well with being around the friends of my friends, people I don't know.

[PetaByte]

What you're describing is partially the same as for me. I've never gone to any parties, drunk alcohol or done drugs. I've had one girlfriend, and I lost her to cancer before we even had the time to sleep together. Although I'm a little different than you since I pay a lot of attention to girls, I'm not exactly a social piranha. Tho I am registered on Facebook, I rarely go there, mostly because I'm friends with people I rarely know or care about, and sharing my life openly with them could come back to haunt me. In that matter, I'm not part of (many) social websites (I am on a few forums online, like this place). However, the main subject separating us two, is that instead of sitting at home and doing my homework, I usually go out. I have a single friend whom I go out with as much as possible; and when he's unavailable, I am a crew member of a few local clubs like the theater.

I think it would be good for you to get out a little more; the more time you spend at home, the more secluded you get and people will think you want privacy. When you one day really want to go out, you might not have that chance available anymore with your closest friends. I'm not saying you won't be able to get out, because there are always clubs to join or places to go like shopping, but the action of going out with a friend and just randomly walking to places becomes more difficult if all your friends still think you want privacy in your own home.

I wouldn't worry about girlfriends tho... the girlfriends you have during the teen years aren't going to be your wives... tho most people might not lose them the way I did...

[Less]

I think it would be good for you to get out a little more; the more time you spend at home, the more secluded you get and people will think you want privacy. When you one day really want to go out, you might not have that chance available anymore with your closest friends. I'm not saying you won't be able to get out, because there are always clubs to join or places to go like shopping, but the action of going out with a friend and just randomly walking to places doesn't last forever.

Why wouldn't I be able to spontaniously go out to some random place with my friends?

[PetaByte]

Why wouldn't I be able to spontaniously go out to some random place with my friends?

That wasn't what I meant, I apologize. From my angle, some of the friends I had years ago aren't interested in being my friend anymore since I wasn't into going out when I was friends with them. They basically lost interest in our friendship. I often go out with the friends I have today.

However, if you never go out with your friends, they might do the same thing my former friends did; lose interest. Since they go out, have fun and experience things you don't, it might be odd for you to spontaneously want to go out with them, since you would've missed out on their previous adventures. However, that's the time when you should get some new friends you can go out with, so the door for spontaneously going out never really "closes". This is what I meant in my original post.

[Spook]

I'll just write next to the list what (if any) you are missing out on. xD

I feel so different from other teenagers. Unlike the rest of my peers, paying interest in the opposite (or the same) sex is something I don't. Everyone but me has at least had one relationship, and most are currently in one. I've never been in love, had a girl/boyfriend, never had a first kiss, never understood the purpose of having a relationship. Trust me, you don't want one yet.
I can't see what's so fun about going to a party, thus I have never been to one, I'd rather stay home reading manga, play videogames and doing homework. They aren't that glamorous. Eat pizza, talk, go home. Oh, and crappy goody bags. Unless you're talking about teen parties which is get drunk and get an awful hangover the next day, or be raped.
I'm not part of any social website or community. You're part of VT!
I've never had alcohol, tobacco or drugs. That's a GOOD thing. Neither have I. :)

I didn't go to prom. Ah, you can wear a nice dress and dance anywhere.
I spend nearly all of my time at home or in school. Same here, except it's at home because I am homeschooled.
My friends all have girl/boyfriends respectively and they often tell me how great it is and try to convince me of having one as well. It isn't amazingly great. Heartbreak can explain it.
I very rarely feel genuine emotions. Hm...
All I care about is getting good grades, something I do get. That is also a very good thing.
Am I missing out on things? NOPE. :D

You can get through all this crap once you graduate with straight A's and start a happy, employed life. :)