Need some Advice

[rachy]

Ok I need some advice. My boyfriend and I have been dating for seven months now and he goes above and beyond when it comes to pleasing me but I feel selfish! I want to please him also and keep him happy in our relationship but I just don't know how to. I'm sort of shy sometimes and the thought of giving him a blowjob or handjob is a bit intimidating. Were both craving more intimacy and I would love to go further with him I just need some tips on how to "sexually stimulate" him so that when were ready for sex, were ready. I want us to be equal and he definitely needs to be pleased.. I kinda want to surprise him ya know? Completely catch him off guard, so if anyone can help it would be MUCH appreciated! *blushes*

[justfailure]

I don't really know what to say, but I guess I could try to help.

So you wanna please him but your shy? I'd say get alone with him, a bedroom, anywhere like this. Take it slowly though. Kiss him, hold him, rub at his back, the lower back, this is a very sensitive place.

When you think your ready, lay him down, sit on him and tease him. He'll love it, go on with kissing until your completely sure your ready..

Hope this helped, mk, bye.

[retsea]

Well, many girls that are shy about sex are usually coaxed, for lack of better/smoother words, into by their boyfriends. With that being said, you should tell him how you feel and that you want to become sexually involved. Because you're shy also inform that you'll need some "help" going through the process. My friend for example walked his girlfriend through the entire process from touching, to handjobs, to blowjobs, to intercourse. However, be sure that this is something you want to do and not something you feel you need to do.

[Josiah7]

Whatever you feel comfortable with, dont force yourself into something you dont want to do. If he loves you, he will appriciate everything you do. Dont stress about it, sit and talk to him about it. No one knows what he wants more then himself :D

[rachy]

You guy's are so helpful! :) I'll take everything you all said into consideration and I'll definitely talk to him about it.. That should help a lot..

[Trickster]

Try differnt apporches. Try randomlly making out with him, or be more aggressive. Try to do a little strip tease and get him going. If he goes above and beyond to please you, he understands you enough to not push you to places your not ready for. If all else fails, try asking him what he would like.