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Loverboy2011
April 28th, 2011, 12:03 PM
how will you handle this situation:

your GF has MALE "BestFriends" and they invited your GF for a dinner or out. Your GF knew that her BestFriends like her. But she accepts their invitations. And your GF is in another place. Her homeplace....

Im from DAVAO CITY and she is from General Santos City, PHILIPPINES....
anonymous53
April 28th, 2011, 01:38 PM
As long as it's not a date I don't see a problem with it. If you trust her then you really shouldn't be worried. If her guy friends bother you that much try talking directly to her about it.
Loverboy2011
April 28th, 2011, 03:10 PM
yes, i do trust her, but she knows that i hate when she goes out with her Ex's and Bestfriends..
the thing is, she even dont like to see me going out with my Girl Friends and even txt with my Ex's, and i respect that, so i dont txt with my Ex's even if my Ex's has Boyfriends now..

and also, the negative side of me is, im not used in talking about it to her... Thats my weakest part, i cant tell her directly my problem about it...
anonymous53
April 28th, 2011, 03:15 PM
Well, if you have a problem with it just state it directly to her respectfully. Do not make her choose, maybe say.. "I'd feel a lot more comfortable if you didn't hang out with your ex's" etc.
Loverboy2011
April 28th, 2011, 03:18 PM
i already did that once, and she said "OK" but months later, again, she hang out with her Ex's and BestFriends.

BTW..

If we are having a fight, she will go to her BestFriend and go out with them, also with her Ex's..

Im really confused... HELP ME ! ! !
anonymous53
April 28th, 2011, 03:24 PM
Then ask her to stop is really all you can do. If you stop for her, how can she expect to not reciprocate the favor? If she won't stop then there is no reason you shouldn't be able to talk to your ex's. Seriously though, just talk to her again.
Loverboy2011
April 28th, 2011, 03:25 PM
ok, i'll try to talk to her about that.. but if she dont consider it, what shall i do next???
anonymous53
April 28th, 2011, 03:37 PM
If she doesn't considerate it doesn't seem like she's even paying attention to your feelings. Really though, play it safe. Why do these guys bother you that much, if I may ask? The distance? or the fact they're her ex's?
The Madness.
April 28th, 2011, 03:53 PM
You honestly can't have a relationship that will be successful without trust. Has your girlfriend ever cheated? If not, I wouldn't worry. I have guy friends, and nothing's ever happened. Your girlfriend most likely just views them as brothers, she just wants to go out and have fun. When you become the insecure, paranoid boyfriend, you're going to become the insecure, paranoid single guy.
anonymous53
April 28th, 2011, 04:01 PM
yes, i do trust her, but she knows that i hate when she goes out with her Ex's and Bestfriends..
the thing is, she even dont like to see me going out with my Girl Friends and even txt with my Ex's, and i respect that, so i dont txt with my Ex's even if my Ex's has Boyfriends now..

Madness, it seems like they both have trust issues and should try to work them out. Since she's doing the same thing to him :)
The Madness.
April 28th, 2011, 04:08 PM
Madness, it seems like they both have trust issues and should try to work them out. Since she's doing the same thing to him :)

Yeah. I'm just saying, he can't seem like the paranoid guy that can't trust his girlfriend. He can't ask her to stop hanging out with her friends :P
Loverboy2011
April 28th, 2011, 04:48 PM
If she doesn't considerate it doesn't seem like she's even paying attention to your feelings. Really though, play it safe. Why do these guys bother you that much, if I may ask? The distance? or the fact they're her ex's?

> Because i think they are still inlove with my Girlfriend and since my GF hangs out with them, they think my GF still has feelings with them, and also the distance... :mad:
Loverboy2011
April 28th, 2011, 04:51 PM
You honestly can't have a relationship that will be successful without trust. Has your girlfriend ever cheated? If not, I wouldn't worry. I have guy friends, and nothing's ever happened. Your girlfriend most likely just views them as brothers, she just wants to go out and have fun. When you become the insecure, paranoid boyfriend, you're going to become the insecure, paranoid single guy.

actually my GF cheats with her previous Boyfriends, she said that to me... and when we broke up last January, she even had a replacement for me a day after we broke up...
anonymous53
April 28th, 2011, 04:59 PM
actually my GF cheats with her previous Boyfriends, she said that to me... and when we broke up last January, she even had a replacement for me a day after we broke up...

....Why are you with this girl again? You can't trust eachother and she cheats on you. This doesn't seem right. I'd say dump her and go be happy single until you find a trustworthy girl.
Loverboy2011
April 28th, 2011, 05:21 PM
maybe i was deceived by her... and maybe because i love her very much to be numb..
anonymous53
April 28th, 2011, 05:24 PM
Well, good luck with this situation, but if I were in it. I'd break it off.
Loverboy2011
April 28th, 2011, 05:30 PM
tnx, but if this relationship will not work, i will break up with her.

help please....
Sage
April 28th, 2011, 10:50 PM
You're being played like a violin, kiddo. Good reason or not, you can't trust her, and she sounds prone to cheating.
Loverboy2011
April 29th, 2011, 07:07 AM
You're being played like a violin, kiddo. Good reason or not, you can't trust her, and she sounds prone to cheating.

YEAH, and she even did this to her Ex's, but she told me that she will not do same thing with me, and i gave her a chance. But really, im just afraid that she will do that to me...
ThatScience
April 30th, 2011, 10:07 AM
how will you handle this situation:

your GF has MALE "BestFriends" and they invited your GF for a dinner or out. Your GF knew that her BestFriends like her. But she accepts their invitations. And your GF is in another place. Her homeplace....

Im from DAVAO CITY and she is from General Santos City, PHILIPPINES....

It seems that your far too jealous.
Your girlfriend is independant. You can't stop her from doing what she wants... Just trust her.
Syvelocin
April 30th, 2011, 12:06 PM
Yeah, you'll just have to deal with it. You cannot and should not, EVER, tell her she can't hang out with her friends. That doesn't work. It is healthy to balance both, just because she's dating you, it does not mean, by any means, that she has to choose you over her friends. And she won't limit it to same sex friends, that's just unfair. I know how it feels sometimes. Well, I don't, but I get at what you mean, because my husband sometimes has that issue, when my exes aren't complete arses, I stay close friends with them. It's something you have to deal with. I've had friends with crushes on me, and nothing has ever happened, it's just something we cope with.

It is hypocritical that she won't do the same, and either she should allow you to do that or neither of you do that, really. As well, she doesn't sound like someone you should be dating. I vote for finding someone else as well.