Whats Wrong With Me

[gatorbait231]

Alright so im half black half white you know the people with caramel colored skin and brown not black hair. deep down im a white guy im adopted (at birth) but everyone thinks im black. im not weak but im 115lbs so i can easily get pushed around, so people take advantage of all that. But heres the problem: people hit me not in a fighting way but they wait for me to hit them back like in the arm, they dont say it, for me to hit them but you know how guys are. but my problem is that i dont do anything i just stand there and take it. everyone knows im athletic, strong, jock type but im shy and a bit of a nerd, people take that as a weakness. i dont know what to do because i cant make myself hit them back unless they literally say 'hit me hit me back do it' or something like that
and dont say tell and adult or avoid them
ive said dont hit me again or youll regret it what happend was he hit me in the soft spot :eek: and i elbowed the guy in the jaw dislocating it so......
what do i do???

[Lil Ill]

it sounds like to me that you holding back too much, sometimes the only way to make it stop is to hit back and hit back harder, I'm not saying to get in a fight the with the person, but to do nothing will encourage them to keep on hitting you.

I have a 13 yo buddy who is 6'6" and very quiet he use to take a lot until he started pushing back. whatever you do just stay safe and protect yourself

[jokoko]

Hey, I know where you are coming from. I am 5'6" 110lb and have a relatively athletic build and have been put in pretty much the exact same situations you are describing (except I hit him in the nose not the jaw). Some REAL advice that is harder to do but better for you in the long run is not to hit back (unless you are in some kind of severe situation) but learn to befriend people and when you do then you don't need a tough guy act to keep you from getting hit because your friends will actually care about how you feel. This can be very hard if you are young and not completely open and comfortable with who you are, but learn to be real and personal with people and they will naturally respond. If that is too much work on your part or you feel you aren't yet mature enough to do that then you are left with just avoiding people, because you will never run out of people who will mess with you and retaliating only sometimes gets the job done and sometimes just starts a never-ending fight for respect.

[Nevermore]

Tell an adult. Tell your parents or someone with authority. Don't fight back, unless you are defending yourself, because if you hit him without him hitting you first or it's not self defense you can get in trouble.

[Genghis Khan]

Your problem is psychological. It usually helps when you make a firm point on where you stand and at what point will you not take it anymore. Fight back, be firm, show them that you don't take bullshit like that. You do this once, and you won't have to do it again.

Wrote this in a rush, hope it helped.
Regards.

[sarah newman]

You don't deserve to be treated like this. You have got to tell someone. Someone you trust, anyone who has the strength to either stop this or to give you more confidence to stand up for yourself.
I know you have got a kind nature and because of this you don't want to hit back. But if it becomes this servere, you have got to fight back. For your sake. Try and tell them to stop, and see if that gets you anywhere, and if they don't you know they are not joking but if they do at least you have your freedom back.
If they don't, this is bullying. You could report them to the police for assault.
Try and stand up for yourself though hun, I am always here if you wanna talk. Any time.

[alluneedtoknow]

find this odd if you will but when guys play around like that its actually instinct. when you hit puberty you are full of testosterone and this will make you feel aggressive. boys hitting each other out of play is kinda like young deer play ramming each other. its to size you up. if you hold back you may develope anger and dislocate a boys jaw. in todays society i understand brains is more valued than brawn but we are still animalistic in some ways and thats how it is genetically. now if they hit you and are picking a fight....walk away...if he hits you again...knock him on his butt and show him whose boss. then they will leave you alone.