Did these two girls at least show some interest in me

[theoburray]

Bascially at the moment there are two girls I'm interested in a lot, now I know people will probably say pick one and go full out but circumstances change. Now both of these girls are very attractive and both have personalities to match their looks because I know girls who are probably 'hotter' in a generally physical way but their personalities are poor or they have attitude or they are sluts etc.

Girl #1=Met her at work in a shift, shes always happy to see me and smiles a lot when I'm around but I know it isn't just because she is a 'very nice' person, she has told me of two people she does not like at work so she isn't one of those people who loves everyone. I remember when I was at a nightclub once and I was walking in the outside area, I walked past her unknowingly and she grabbed my arm, looked at me and kissed my cheek and started the conversation with me. Most girls I know would wait before we both made eye contact with each other before greeting with a kiss or whatever. I asked for her number and she gave it to me although when I asked for it I was a little nervous and just said to 'hang out'. Now she agreed to go out with me and seemed happy about it but she never committed however she is still the same person around me and it hasn't got awkward.

Girl #2=I met her at a club and she gave me her number and she played a couple of games with me I think but I didn't really do enough to pursue her then (this was in December) but recently I have gotten back into contact with her with a few text messages and fb convos and whatnot. She texted and called me last Saturday but I didn't get it till later because of having no reception. She saw my friend there and my friend said to me a day later when they were there that night she said to him that she was going to text me so I'm guessing I was in her head at least :) She's busy the next couple of weekends but I'm ready to ask her out.

I see Girl #1 at work for the first time in a month on Sunday and will probably see her at a club on Monday so circumstances could change again. I'm not asking do they like me a lot or do they want to be my girlfriend but do you think they have or have ever had some interest in me? I'd love to have a girlfriend with looks and personality and I feel these two are the best of both worlds.

[Eagle63]

I'm kind of caught in the middle of which girl to go for, too. Before making a decision, get to know them... which it seems you already have. Now you have to judge which one is more open to you.
Both of them seem to show significant interest, but you never know if one of them is rag-dolling you. I'm only throwing that in there because it happened to me not too long ago.
So, to answer your question, yes they do seem somewhat interested in you, both of them. Your chances are honestly better with girl #1.

[VLTOR]

#1 sounds like a better choice, but we don't know as much about girl #2. Also, it could get awkward at work if it doesn't work out with girl #1.

I would still go with what eagle said though.

[theoburray]

Yeah I know a lot more about girl #1 except she seems less likely to want to be in a committed relationship from what I know, I know enough about girl #2 to know she isn't a slut or anything which is good.

I doubt it's all over with girl #1 because she never committed at that time. At the moment I'm just going on the basis of the one who seems more interested at the point of time, I just want to go out with either one (as in a date) somewhere and then go from there instead of being stuck in limbo like I have been now for a few months.

[JohnHoper]

Whatever you choose is your choice, but my options is the one who had physical contact (ie. a kiss) first because that shows they are comfortable being around you. And will be less likely to be heartbroken.

[theoburray]

Whatever you choose is your choice, but my options is the one who had physical contact (ie. a kiss) first because that shows they are comfortable being around you. And will be less likely to be heartbroken.

Well that was the one I work with but it'd be the same with the other girl if I see her again, she'd do the same thing too. And everyone saying about don't go for the one I work with, it's really not a factor to me. It's a casual job which I will be quitting after my degree is finished (November 2012) so it's not major.

I actually saw her today for the first time in a month, at the moment I'm not using every opportunity to talk to her (not that I did a couple months ago but every so often I'd go up her section to talk to her), I'm keeping my distance now and just talking to her when we are both at the same place. And for the past month we haven't worked on the same days/times and I haven't been to work when she has been working (it's a department store like Wal-Mart), that being said we exchanged 'hello/bye' when her shift was over and she walked past me, she still has a cute smile :)

My mate told me that all the feelings for her would come back when I saw her again and I assured them they wouldn't because when she didn't commit to a date, I made sure I didn't see her again (not forever obviously, just didn't go directly to her) and I managed to sort of block her out of my head with the other girl taking her spot so to speak on my mind, but tommorow I will probably be talking to her a bit since I'll be doing her breaks in her department and we're probably going to the same nightclub monday night too so tommorow will be the day where I find out if my feelings for her come back, even I doubt that they won't come back.

I know it sounds like I clearly have my mind made up with this girl but the other girl is just as suitable for me, I want either one. I know if I went out with one, I wouldn't regret not choosing the other one because I have strong feelings for both. Time will tell I guess, it's just if I don't get either one of these girls I think I'm going to be single for a while, these two have set a very high standard.

I've known Girl #1 since the start of November and the only time I met Girl #2 (in person) was December so it's been 4+ months of this on my mind. Though Not Constantly, circumstances and things have arisen and whatever. I'll just see what happens with the first girl tommorow and if I see her on Monday too at the club then go from there.

[theoburray]

I actually saw her today for the first time in a month, at the moment I'm not using every opportunity to talk to her (not that I did a couple months ago but every so often I'd go up her section to talk to her), I'm keeping my distance now and just talking to her when we are both at the same place. And for the past month we haven't worked on the same days/times and I haven't been to work when she has been working (it's a department store like Wal-Mart), that being said we exchanged 'hello/bye' when her shift was over and she walked past me, she still has a cute smile :)

My mate told me that all the feelings for her would come back when I saw her again and I assured them they wouldn't because when she didn't commit to a date, I made sure I didn't see her again (not forever obviously, just didn't go directly to her) and I managed to sort of block her out of my head with the other girl taking her spot so to speak on my mind, but tommorow I will probably be talking to her a bit since I'll be doing her breaks in her department and we're probably going to the same nightclub monday night too so tommorow will be the day where I find out if my feelings for her come back, even I doubt that they won't come back.




Well I did do one of her breaks today and talked to her a bit but it seemed like a serious day (not confrontational serious just I can't be bothered working serious which I couldn't either on Easter Sunday, both our departments had barely any people and it was pretty boring) so we only really talked about work. I did a few favours for her when she asked me like fill up her water bottle and get her some stuff she needed, maybe I shouldn't have cos then I'd be a jerk and girls like jerks? jokes. But yeah when she came back from her break into her department I didn't really want to leave to be honest, I hung around a couple more minutes but the other person in my department needed a break so I had to leave.

She is very comfortable around me it seems, like she'll walk over to get closer to me and look me directly in the eyes when we're speaking. A very close distance as if we were about to kiss lol (if only I could do that but it wouldn't work for many reasons obviously :(). But she seems to trust me probably more than anyone else at work. I don't come off as a desperate stalker or anything, I'm laidback and casual even though she must know I like (or liked) her. It's still a warm atmosphere around her.

But yeah the feelings I got were of regret, dissapointment, sadness etc that it didn't work out. I don't want to ask her out a third/fourth time and whilst I still have an avenue with the other girl, I don't know what I want. When I don't see this girl I want the other one, but when I see her I want her. I'm not at the stage I was when she said yes though, my feelings have decreased a bit for her but they're still there. Plus she is a great height for me, it's just cute because she's quite a bit shorter than me (I'm around 6', if I was to guess she is around 5'4) I don't know why I feel that way about height. I guess I'd rather date a shorter girl than a taller one.

But yeah that's the update, not sure about the club tommorow. I assume she is going and if I'm going then we'll see what happens then.

But overall...this sucks :(

[theoburray]

Well today I texted both of them asking if they were going out tonight, first girl replied asking who was it (think she got a new phone now) but I couldn't respond till an hour after she texted and the second girl replied back. Hopefully the first girl at least replies back, she knows it's me now so it's not making me at ease now lol.

[Tristin.]

good luck :)

[theoburray]

Didn't get a text back after the one saying 'who is this???' :(. She has my number now but it sucks I didn't get a yes or no response after, I know she could be busy or whatever but she is doing my head in :(

I definetly texted her back after it because she is about 4th in some recent contacts thing when I type in a message and I texted around 15-20 people today. I don't want to text her again tonight cos she probably is at the club (thats what I was asking) but I'm not going anymore.

I don't know what to do even more now :( If she had responded I would have just said a couple of lines but still it would have felt better than I feel now.

Maybe I'm overreacting though, next time I'll see her I'll bring it up casually and say something about I was finding out who was going and sorry for not putting my name at the bottom of the message. (I couldn't because I was sending it to multiple people and all but her refer to me as my nickname but she calls me by my first name).

[theoburray]

I've pretty much gave up on the first girl now, went for a walk and I actually cried for about 10 minutes of it (it was dark and noone was around though I didn't make any noises) but it sucks. Don't know what I'm gonna do now lol.

[theoburray]

Now I know I need to get over her but I don't want to do it in a way where there is 0% possible chance of us going out in the future. So if I see her should I :

(a) ignore her and walk past her section (I wouldn't be ignoring her at a face to face distance, it'd just be a case of me not walking to her section to talk to her at all)
(b) Just say hello and a little (not much) small talk
(c) Continue having conversations with her

I need to get over the idea that I will go out with her soon but like I said I don't want to ruin our friendly relationship and possibly potentially ruin something in the future but I know if I have conversations like usual with her, the feelings won't go away and I'll just get hurt even more.

The main thing is I need to get over her, if she does respond to it positively and tries to set something up (Which even i think is unlikely) that'll just be a bonus.

[theoburray]

I'm guessing (b) does everyone else agree?