Parents, privacy, and doors.

[JohnHoper]

What do you guys think about the topic? Should we be allowed to have privacy and be able to lock our doors, because I know some of us have this problem, especially with our parents.

[donkeymkong]

Yes, [privacy is very important. I know I have doors that lock and I often do lock them when necessary

[Joshua 93]

You gotta have your own space.

[kezyy]

I want a lock on my door, people do knock but usually dont wait for me to reply before they walk in :/

[Spook]

I also think privacy is important. As teens, it should be a right!

I have a lock on my door, as my parents are understanding of my need for privacy.

[SWMG]

Yeah we should, well my doors have a lock and I have no problem with them though

[Quietboy]

Privacy is important, and I do have a lock on my door, but I don't use it. If I close my door people would just knock before going in.

[Sogeking]

Puberty for Boys:arrow: Family and Friends

[Jess]

My door doesn't even have a lock. and even if I close it, my mom would get suspicious. she doesn't understand that I have the right to privacy. a lot of times in the past she checks my computer

[JohnHoper]

My door doesn't even have a lock. and even if I close it, my mom would get suspicious. she doesn't understand that I have the right to privacy. a lot of times in the past she checks my computer

That must suck... does she still get suspicious? I know how weird it might get to talk to moms about privacy... maybe your dad or older brother can help you convince your mom you need some space :)

[Ryunosuke]

Yeah We Should. I Mean I Have A Lock AND The ONLY Key To My Bedroom. :D

[FullyAlive]

Idk in theory that would be good although if I requested a lock my mum would have a lot less trust. So I just shut my door. Most of the time people knock before entering.

[Eagle63]

My parents let me lock my door, and I have a computer in my room. They set parental controls and are constantly knocking for me to open the door, just to peep in. It's annoying, but at least I get my privacy.

[randy.boii]

Ya kids need their privacy especially teens I would die if my mom made me keep my door open. Or just walk around naked till my mom let me shut it haha

[JohnHoper]

Ya kids need their privacy especially teens I would die if my mom made me keep my door open. Or just walk around naked till my mom let me shut it haha

Haha :) that's funny and a good idea! I'm just RofLing at the thought of actually doing that:D

[Soccerkix]

yeah my mom allows us to have our door closed and locked,,, privacy is important, she likes hers respected too and is cool about ours

[TheMatrix]

My parents let me lock my door, and I have a computer in my room. They set parental controls...
you can get rid of them, if you want
...and are constantly knocking for me to open the door, just to peep in. It's annoying, but at least I get my privacy.
wait a minute....

you get privacy, but you don't.
a paradox!!

[JohnHoper]

you can get rid of them, if you want

wait a minute....

you get privacy, but you don't.
a paradox!!

Paradoxes ftw :) contradiction rules :D

[Contra]

Of course we should, we have that right!

[PoseidonX43]

as my parents say "privacy is not a right, but a privilige" offtopic

but a child should hav privacy and be able to lock doors

[Charleigh]

I never had that problem with parents walking in. My mum only walked in if it was quiet in my room, she would think I was up to no good (drugs).
Apart from that, if she wanted me or something she would go downstairs and hit the ceiling or she would throw something at my door. OR if she is in a nice mood she knocks :)

[AutumnDae]

We don't have locks on any of our bedrooms in my house. When I was younger, I broke my doorknob, so if you close my door all the way, it gets stuck, and takes forever to get open. So in a sense, I have a lock.

I leave my door wide open, all the time pretty much, unless I have company, or I'm studying. I leave the door unlocked while I"m showering, because I honestly just don't care if people come in.

If I wanted privacy, I could have it. I just choose to not have it.

[Rayquaza]

My doors arent locked and I wish they were. I need my privacy

[Drake14]

I put a lock inside my door myself. I insist on it I dont care. You want to come in you knock. I always knock for them so they need to accept it.

[atomsmasher]

I have a door but not a lock. But my parents usually never open it if its closed.

[NomSan]

I have a lock, but I don't use it.
My mom always knocks or something before she comes in, so I don't really need one.

[Roses_Are_Yellow]

I have a lock, but I only use it when my friends suddenly come over, and I don't want them to see my room.... I learned how to lock and unlock my door from the outside :) :) :) :) :) but I never use them. I sometimes wish I do though, but I get too lazy to lock it in the first place. It would also make my parents really suspicious...

[FainAgain]

I have a lock too, but I rarely use it. My mom only ever comes in my room if She hears me on the phone. She has the insistent need to interrupt phone calls and i can Predict when she will come in. Other than that, I have privacy. If i didn't, I would not be happy.

[Austin1]

privacy is important. i lock my doors all the time ;)

[anonymous.john]

I think privacy is important. I have locks on my doors but I rarely use them at my dad's because we have established a sort of trust-privacy pact. He knocks, I'll tell him if he can come in, or if he needs to wait, and I rarely lock my doors.

My mom is a different story (of the opposite pole), she'll just waltz right in without knocking, hates when I lock my door, and goes through my computer history every once in a while.

[starlit dreams]

i havent got a lock on my door.......and ive got a mother who knocks once and doesnt wait for me to answer ...........its not fun :(

[Advanced A]

I dont think its locks we need.

Its respect.. and i know its missing everywhere :(

We have never had locks.. even in the bathroom, while showering it was just mum saying eyes closed as she came in for washing and whatnot..

In a way locks are bad, you are all talking from a no knocking point of view.. my parents have always knocked and waited for a reply, unless its like early in the am and they are bringin in breakfast (which is once a year kinda thing)

Respect is better than locks.

[NomSan]

I get totally freaked out if we go to a hotel and there's no lock on the bathroom door!
Wth are they thinking? It's not like everyone is comfortable without having locks in the bathroom.

I have lock on my bedroom door, but i rarely use it. My mom always knocks first, unless it's when she wakes me up for school.

[Jennifer's Ashes]

Whenever someone in our house either locks or slams a door, their door gets taken away. No joke. Dad literally removes the door and youre left with just a hole.

So fuck yeah privacy is important.

[JunkBondTrader]

Whenever someone in our house either locks or slams a door, their door gets taken away. No joke. Dad literally removes the door and youre left with just a hole.

So fuck yeah privacy is important.

Wow. Does he... put them back?

I have a lock on my door but I very rarely use it. I'm lucky enough to come from a family who literally couldn't give a crap about what I'm doing in here as long as they're positive I'm not dead or shooting heroin or anything.

The downside to this is that when I do use the lock, people automatically get suspicious. It comes in handy from time to time though.

[Immortal Love]

Yes, I think we, as Teenagers, should have our own privacy. I personally, havn't had a door on my room since I was 7. My mother says "Privacy is a privledge." It's not like I do anything bad!

And besides, It's a bit annoying when you mother walks past you when your getting dressed... :P

[Hypergurl]

I don't have a lock on my door so I just close it. I don't get bothered usually if it's closed, or least people knock.

[Unlucky_Leprechaun]

My parents were pretty cool.. had to earn the right for "privileges". I never had any issues with locking my door on certain occasions, they understood..but they also expected me to act like a young adult... its a give n take with some parents. I have a few friends that they had strict parents and got very few privileges..while others let their kids stay out all night and not care... I am sure some parent are torn.... open communications I think helps

[Mewp]

Well, here's the international perspective:


ICCPR (http://www2.ohchr.org/english/law/ccpr.htm), 1966

Article 17

1. No one shall be subjected to arbitrary or unlawful interference with his privacy, family, home or correspondence, nor to unlawful attacks on his honour and reputation.

2. Everyone has the right to the protection of the law against such interference or attacks

ECHR (http://www.hri.org/docs/ECHR50.html)

Article 8

1. Everyone has the right to respect for his private and family life, his home and his correspondence.

2. There shall be no interference by a public authority with the exercise of this right except such as is in accordance with the law and is necessary in a democratic society in the interests of national security, public safety or the economic well-being of the country, for the prevention of disorder or crime, for the protection of health or morals, or for the protection of the rights and freedoms of others.


So, yes. Also, from a legal point of view you have the right expectation of privacy vis a vis the plain sight rule, locked doors to bedrooms and not consenting to other's consensual property searches and the like.

[Mags123]

Yeah, i have no lock on my door, but i wish i did, i basically have no door now because a few months ago my stepfather rammed it when he was mad at me, and now its broken in half and doesn't close properly.

[Michael Anthony]

there's no lock on my room door. my mom is really good about privacy, she never just barges in. my dad is another story. he never knocks and just walks right in. lets just say there were some embarrassing situations when he did that LOL

[foof1]

In the Constitution there is an implied right to privacy.

[prob1996]

Privacy is important. My brother and I aren't allowed locks on our doors but our parents don't make such a big deal if the door is closed.

[DerBear]

my parents are good they respect my privacy and in turn i respect theirs

if they need to speak to me they knock first and on the rare oacsion i need to go in their room for whatever reason i knock

so my family is pretty good with privacy and respect

[jsaaknta]

My parents don't let me have privacy. It annoys the hell outta me, I don't have the key to my room and whenever my door's closed my dad will come and open it. He says, like, "you're too young to really need any privacy, when you're about 20, maybe 19, I'll let you have your key back".

[Nicci]

Everyone needs his or her own space but...they DO own the room, door, ....bed....etc. So, it's a hard decision.

[Shenron]

Everyone needs his or her own space but...they DO own the room, door, ....bed....etc. So, it's a hard decision.

That is being a little too literal. I mean yes, it is true, however a stretch of ethics at the least.

The following is my story on how I got my privacy. It is rather long, for the short version, skip to the end of the post.

I have always had privacy at my parents house. I have mostly been treated as an adult while I lived with them. When I moved in with my Grandma (long story) all of my rights were stripped from me and I was treated as a child. I was about 12 when I noticed I had no lock on the door to my room. She always had a problem with me shutting the doors to my room when I slept. I asked her if I could have a lock and she said "you don't have any reason to have a lock, you shouldn't need to lock your door in the first place, if you are changing then just tell me before you do so" to this I responded "I am a teenager and I deserve my privacy" ......2 years later at 14 I decided it was time to take things into my own hands. Called my parents, got some money, went to home depot, bought a door lock set, installed it on the door and threw away the keys (literally). That solved that problem. She knew I was serious.

Basically I just had to have privacy so I bought a lock and put it on myself. (short version lol)

[Running]

Whenever I lock my door, my parents ask me why, why, what are you hiding...and something like that...

[Tonebone88]

My parents always walk in on me in the bathroom and I hate it! I just want some privacy!

[Byrdman10]

well my friend broke my door so as of now i dont have one............... :/

[Carlyle]

The idea of privacy is really nice. I have a lock on my door and its nice to not have people barge in.

[cpr97]

privacy is very important as we are growin up we all need privacy n time to ourselfs. however i think most people our age dont realize parents wont just wake up 1 day n be like oh our son or daughter needs privacy now they are at that age... i think its somethin we need to talk to our parents bout cuz they dont n have no way of knowin when we are at that age of wantin more privacy only we know that n i would be willin to bet that all good understandin parents will respect thiers kids wishes of havin privacy they will most likely know why we want or feel we need it n im sure they dont want to barge in n see us in the middle of doin certain things. i think as long as you dont abuse the privacy n use it to do things that could hurt yourself or anythin like that your parents would agree i asked my parents for more privacy over a year ago n they were cool with it i didnt have a lock then but they started off by knockin n then comin in within a few seconds of knockin but atleast i had some warnin then they would knock n wait until i said come in or opened the door myself but bout 6 months ago my dad did get me a new door for my bedroom with a lock on it so all is pretty good now... long as i dont lock myself in there for a whole day at a time my parents are fine with givin me my personal time :D