Help & Jealousy

[JaiBrazier]

Sorry for the long post

So there's this girl I really like and I think she is the world. Seriously I really love her, she has a great personality and she is extremely good looking but I know in myself that nothing will ever happen. She is way to good for me. I have tried asking to see if she wanted to go anywhere before and it pretty much was the whole "I don't want to ruin our friendship" thing. Every girl I've ever liked more than a friend has said this to me, pretty much the exact same words to. I've got the feeling into my head that I will never find anyone who loves me as much as I love them and well .. the feeling that i'll never be in a good relationship. I'm starting to hate myself because i'm always thinking i'm not good enough or i'm ugly etc. I don't know what to do :/

Also there's this lad who's in all of her classes and i'm extremely jealous of him. He's always around her. He rushes at school to be next to her, if i'm stood next to her he'll just simply barge straight in between me and her and totally block me out from talking to her. We're both really good friends, but when it comes to her and girls he's always up his own a*se. Making it out like he's the best and that I don't stand a chance with her or anyone, bringing my self esteem to dust (even though I have no self esteem anyways).

I don't know what to do or think :/

[randy.boii]

:( being a teenager sucks kids are mean and you always get hurt. I'm 15 and not popular what so ever and I was rejected from so many girls I liked nd it hurts. One day I met this girl Gina she's 3 years older them me and a model and skinny and a dancer and musician and she's beautiful and I fell in love with her. I asked her out and she said yes it was amazing my life changed that day. So the moral of my story is there's someone out there for everyone and if I could get someone as amazing as Gina looking the way I do you can get a beautiful girl to show to your friends and make everyone else jealous and be happy with

[Contra]

I'm sorry about it, dude.
I think maybe you only fall in love with close friends, so when you try to bring your friendship to the love field, they say no. Perhaps you should try not waiting too long before asking a girl out, or else you'll become too close.
That can be the problem, or maybe you only fall in love with girls who don't love you or have any attraction to you. Don't let it get you down! Keep fighting, I bet you'll find the right girl. :)

[JaiBrazier]

Yeah being a teenager sucks a lot and you do always get hurt. I've just been waiting to long, I've never been in a relationship in my whole life. Never. Never actually had someone liking me back and when you're surrounded by people who can get a relationship like that just puts me down even more.
I don't normally fall for close friends, the problem is that it takes me time to build up enough confidence to say something or ask them out and by the time I do we're already close friends and in 'the friend zone'. Like you said maybe I just fall for people with no attraction to me, but in my eyes that's pretty much everyone :/
I've been fighting for too long and it's really getting to me ... I hope I find the right girl soon :/
(sorry for the extremely depressing paragraphs)

[Contra]

I've never been in a relationship in my whole life. Never. Never actually had someone liking me back and when you're surrounded by people who can get a relationship like that just puts me down even more.

I have never been in a relationship either, well, at least a real one... I also haven't had anyone who liked me that way. But I don't let it affect me. There are other things in life than relationships, I know it's hard to accept, but it's so true. You can't let it get you down. Sometimes when you stop looking for something, you find it.

I don't normally fall for close friends, the problem is that it takes me time to build up enough confidence to say something or ask them out and by the time I do we're already close friends and in 'the friend zone'.

That's it, you should say something or ask them out before you get in the 'friend zone'. That's the best you can do before they can even think that a relationship would mess up your friendship.

Like you said maybe I just fall for people with no attraction to me, but in my eyes that's pretty much everyone :/

Perhaps someone likes you and you don't know it, perhaps someone has liked you in the past and you didn't know. Besides, just because a girl doesn't feel anything for you at this point, it doesn't mean she won't feel it later.

I've been fighting for too long and it's really getting to me ... I hope I find the right girl soon :/
(sorry for the extremely depressing paragraphs)

I hope you do. And you don't have to say sorry, you're feeling bad about all this, here we don't judge, we try to help, so say what you feel. :)

[JaiBrazier]

I know there are other things in life than relationships but i'm surrounded by 'perfect' people all the time, I can't help but not be happy sometimes. It's also annoys the hell out of me when girls fall for people who only want sex and are shocked when they get dumped.
I know but it's a confidence thing and I don't have enough confidence in myself to do it quick enough :(
I doubt it, i'm close to a lot of girls and they always talk to me about who they like and there relationships etc. (that also gets me depressed but since we're close friends and stuff I don't say anything) I hope something happens soon, i've been waiting my whole life for someone to come along.
Thank you a lot, it seriously means something :)

[Contra]

I know what you mean with 'perfect people', but you know what, I believe most of them are a lot more flawed than you, I'm sure, so don't mind other people who are 'seemingly perfect'.
You seem like a pretty neat guy, I'm sure some girl will figure it out and fall in love with you. From what I could tell from your display picture, you're not ugly, in fact you look really good-looking, so combining these two factors, there is no way you won't get a girl. And I know I've said this on the three posts I've written and I'm sorry about it, but just wait, be patient.

Oh, something I can advise you to do is talk to one of your female friends about your feelings, it did help me feeling better in the past. You'll feel understood.

You're welcome, that's what I'm here for! :)