Mom's considering it, I'm considering it, what's new?

[Alexithymia]

I don't know what to do! I'll try and explain myself as best as I can, but it might not work out.

So, we moved in with my father. He's great, normally; he can just be a bit passive-aggressive at times. It makes my mom feel like she's walking on eggshells all day long, and it makes me -way- too stressed. Except we have one problem. We can't move out. Only my mom can, and honestly I would just shut down if I lost her right now. I'm barely trying to convince myself to make it to the end of the year, and I -need- her. My dad wouldn't, and still doesn't, get it. So, tonight I got the mother of all bombshells. "I have to move out before I go crazy and kill myself." Honestly, I know she was serious. I'm in a dilemma. The ONLY other option is to change my dad, which basically has a near zero percent chance of happening.

If there's some chance that my mom can move out then we'd forget all about my dad. And that would be just as bad. I don't want to hurt him. I don't want to make him sad, mad, or annoyed with him. I just want him to be happy. Except his happiness, my mom's happiness, and my dad's happiness apparently can't coexist.

Did I mention I want to kill myself right now?

Basically... what do I do? Do I find -some- way to go with my mom? Do I stick with my dad? Do I just kill myself? Do I lock them in a room for a day and tell them do either suck it up or talk about their problems? Should I go to a psych ward? I just can't handle this right now.

[1_21Guns]

Killing yourself is obviously not the right way to go Mark, it's not really going to save anything, you'll end up hurting your parents an awful lot, they'll blame eachother and themselves, and yeah.. messy
It doesn't seem like you're ever going to win with this situation, but I think you need to forget about everyone else for a minute and do what's best for you. From what I can read, you seem to want to go with your mom, so maybe look into ways of doing that, if only temporary. Nothing says once you leave your dad you have to go forever
sometimes people have to lose things to come to their senses, but in all honesty, none of us can influence you as it's your decision
good luck :hug3:

[anonymous53]

Well killing yourself wouldn't make anyone happy...at all. Why can't you move out with your mother? Maybe suggest they try counseling before your mother leaves. As guns said, it doesn't have to be permanent. Do what's best for you

[Fiction]

As Rob said, you killing yourself will not make anyone happy, and it's a "permanent solution to a temporary problem".

Maybe you and your mum could get some form of councelling? Or maybe you could get family councelling?

None of us can tell you what to do mark, because none of us know the full situation you are in.

I hope it all goes well, good luck.

[canyon]

I've been going through the exact same situation that you're going through, except I never moved out. My mom and I have wanted to leave for a long time but we just don't know how to leave or where we'd go.
It's SO stressful at home, I've threatened to leave, she's threatened to leave, he just never changes. I honestly don't think I can handle another year here before I go off to college. I just don't know how to handle all of this.

A few weeks ago some stuff happened and I kinda lost it. I was freaking out to a friend on AIM and she was telling me that I need to get out. I've almost bought plane tickets a couple of times, I've almost run away, I just can't seem to leave once I have the option or the means to. I just don't know what to do..