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Lieg
January 7th, 2007, 11:36 PM
I was adopted I don't know my real parents but my dad said my mother was a drug addict and didn't want me. In elementary I was diagnosed with ADHD and Bi Polar. My dad started ignoring me he never talked to me, hugged me, kissed me, etc. In my early days of Middle School I realized that I was different and event a freak. I grew less active and stopped caring about alot of things. My dad started focusing his aggression at me. He started yelling at me just for walking by him or getting a glass of water, and whenever we got into a argument he would hit me. My grades in 5th Where As and Bs, 6th Bs and Cs, 7th Ds and Es, 8th grade I hit an all time low I stopped everything I did nothing I was depressed almost all the time. Then I tried to kill myself, my best friend and only real friend was there though and my attempt failed. I started using drugs that year and though I made a few friends since then nothings changed. I just sort of drifted along since then, at the bottom of society barely passing. I've just sort of been taking my dads abuse I cant do anything about it, I'm not physically or mentally strong I've never been. And recently I've been thinking about suicide but then I'd just be caving in to him and I don't want to do that. I'd prove him and all my old teachers right. So really I don't know what I should do.
mRojas2000
January 8th, 2007, 07:21 AM
Well, have you tried telling the police??
Lieg
January 8th, 2007, 07:30 AM
No but its not like I can just call them and be like "Yeah my dad neglects me on a daily basis do something." I tried telling my friend but I never did and I almost told a therapist once, but I didn't.
mRojas2000
January 8th, 2007, 07:36 AM
Man, if you really want to do anything about this, yo have to tell someone... try making a letter if you just can't do it yourself... write a letter about what happens, and what your dad does.. also, don't forget to put your name!
But man, you HAVE to tell someone about this... I can understand its not easy, even if I can't relate, but someone has got to know!! Man, he won't stop abusing you until he has to go to jail, or get charged, when MAYBE he will understand what he did to you....
Tell someone now, a friend or something... I can bet that if you even ask them, they won't have any problems telling the police, since they can't relate to you, and they don't really know how it feels
serial-thrilla
January 8th, 2007, 03:55 PM
your dad may be an asshole but he couldnt be charged for what you said. just try to live with it till you get out of high school.
Lieg
January 8th, 2007, 04:13 PM
You sure? Miguelo said otherwise, but anyways back on topic. If I do tell someone how would it help I mean I heard that protective services just would come in and re locate me to a diffrent family.
mRojas2000
January 9th, 2007, 01:17 AM
your dad may be an asshole but he couldnt be charged for what you said. just try to live with it till you get out of high school.
So you say that getting hit for no reason its not abuse?? wtf is that!?
Lieg
January 9th, 2007, 04:08 PM
I'm sorry I'm just a waste of your time. So whatever.
Bobby
January 9th, 2007, 04:12 PM
No. Your not a waste of time. Your a human being and a person who doesn't deserve to be abused.
Do you have an adopted mother, if so what relationship do you have with her?
Lieg
January 9th, 2007, 08:41 PM
My mother is what you could call neutral she doesn't get involved with anything. And I know I came here for support but you don't even know me. Why do you care? Why do you care about all these people? You don't know them and you can't know what they've been through event with the most vivid descriptions. Event with a video you can't feel there pain, you can't feel the depression, anger, fear, hatred that others do. The feeling of fear when that person comes home and you wonder what new method of inflicting pain or whatever they do is, or if this will be the day when they take mercy and kill. You don't know it so why? Why do it?
Bobby
January 9th, 2007, 08:49 PM
This site was made to help people. We try are best to help. I think there have been many people who've been helped by this site. Just because we don't know you doesn't mean we can't help.
Lieg
January 9th, 2007, 08:57 PM
I'm gonna leave this place, it was wrong of me to come here. If there is a god then god speed.
Bobby
January 9th, 2007, 08:58 PM
I can't stop you. But we can try our best to help.
Good luck in everything you do.
Peace.
mRojas2000
January 10th, 2007, 07:34 AM
My mother is what you could call neutral she doesn't get involved with anything. And I know I came here for support but you don't even know me. Why do you care? Why do you care about all these people? You don't know them and you can't know what they've been through event with the most vivid descriptions. Event with a video you can't feel there pain, you can't feel the depression, anger, fear, hatred that others do. The feeling of fear when that person comes home and you wonder what new method of inflicting pain or whatever they do is, or if this will be the day when they take mercy and kill. You don't know it so why? Why do it?
People don't need to feel to understand!! Thats what makes this site different, we all have had different experiences, and we all share them.. this site is really cool if you need help, or just moral support, or just someone to tell you "you rock"! Here in VT people is united, and always support each other. Here you'll never see threads where everyone's flamming one person with no actual reason. Just look around, read old threads (don't bring them back) and you'll see that everyone's always nice!! There's some people tho, who don't always understand, and they will just say "Idiot, you shouldn't cut because of this" or "Idiot, you can't do anything about your dad!!" We might not know you, but we don't really need to! Many people have come here to ask questions, share stories, make suggestions, play, and have a nice time!! Even if its a depression thread I love to read them and try to help people on whatever they need! I'm sure many people on VT love doing so too, but I can just speak for myself in this case!!
Just stay bright, always smile (smiling its a good way to change your feelings if you feel bad... smiling will just brighten your day like never before, just do it for no reason and you will definately have a nice day!!) remember that someday all this chaos will finish and you will be happy, with someone you love, or care about!!
Keep it up!!
Miguel
angel'swillstayalive
January 22nd, 2007, 11:38 PM
we care cause if we help eachother get through things then we might be able 2 help our selfs as help you
Ethannnnnn
January 23rd, 2007, 04:33 AM
your dad may be an asshole but he couldnt be charged for what you said. just try to live with it till you get out of high school. actually he can be put into jail for hitting him it is illegal it would be counted under child abuse
serial-thrilla
January 23rd, 2007, 07:54 PM
So you say that getting hit for no reason its not abuse?? wtf is that!?well unless he has the bruises to prove it the cops cant do anything.
tomkapsalis
January 24th, 2007, 09:25 AM
Its a big help cycle:D
some1
January 24th, 2007, 12:13 PM
what your dad is doing is horrible, but listen, do well in school and live life with good friends. If you can't back at your dad in any way, then get good grades, so u can go to a good school and -in my opinion- this is the best way to get back at him, by doing well like this.
man, i sound like my mom
anyway, ur not a freak. dont call yourself that. u just feel depressed. listen, pm me if u want. id like to help more...
foof1
May 9th, 2008, 08:14 PM
you should start working hard to get your grades up and things usually get better when that happens
Nihilus
May 9th, 2008, 08:36 PM
Call the police if hes abusing you. Otherwise try and make your dad proud of you by doing good in school. At sometime he probaly going to stop.
darklight
May 10th, 2008, 11:31 AM
go to a therapist
and dogje your dad as much as possible
Medical Kid
May 10th, 2008, 12:04 PM
*cries* I admire you man.......that same thing happens to me all the time but I'm so afraid, now he had a seizure from alcohol and hes in rehab, when he comes back its going to be hell all over again *cries some more* I feel like such a coward.....
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