Questioning

[Nevermore]

So it's been a few years and I've been questioning my sexuality. I love guys, but I think, at least I'm pretty sure, I love girls too. I've been attracted to them in the past. Maybe I'm a little young to have a distinct sexuality? I don't want sex though. It's weird, like I have no desire. Is it possible to have no desire for anything and still be extremely attracted to both sexes? Is this odd? Now to make it clear I'm dating a guy currently, and I love him with all my heart, and am not attracted to anyone else since I've been with him. Before I liked him, I was attracted to this girl named Sammy, also another girl named Zoe. Zoe was straight, and Sammy and I weren't friends.

[grstl]

I'll try something new....I have never commented to a girl's question before.....so here goes.

I am an almost totally gay guy pretty much done with puberty and exploring. I still have a girlfriend who knows and stays. We also have a kid. So I guess you could say I've tried it all so far.

I would say that if you are ok with no actual sex it is totally ok and lets you concentrate more on the froendship and emotional sides of relationships....lucky you....for me sex is always in my head. However, like I have to do sometimes to do the right thing for my girlfriend, sometimes I have to overcome my lack of desire and focus on giving them the gift of really saisfying sex. I have learned that I can if I really try, and the relatioship rewards are worth it.

Also, explore as you go along what you feel about parenting......you might just be a really good parent. Sex isn't always necessary for that and there are many kids who really need a loving friend and parent.

Good luck and don't get into a big hurry to say your sexuality is completely decided.

[smitty35]

I'd say you are str8 curious. You want guys, but you also like girls, BUT, you dont want to have sex right now. So either that or bi.

[Nevermore]

Well I don't want sex period. I know that sounds odd, but ever since I've been sexually abused I just don't want it at all. Thanks guys for helping me. However, it's not just exploring I have emotional feelings for girls in the past, not the I just want to kiss you to see how it feels, but have become infatuated with a few girls in the past.

[anonymous53]

So it's been a few years and I've been questioning my sexuality. I love guys, but I think, at least I'm pretty sure, I love girls too. I've been attracted to them in the past. Maybe I'm a little young to have a distinct sexuality? I don't want sex though. It's weird, like I have no desire. Is it possible to have no desire for anything and still be extremely attracted to both sexes? Is this odd? Now to make it clear I'm dating a guy currently, and I love him with all my heart, and am not attracted to anyone else since I've been with him. Before I liked him, I was attracted to this girl named Sammy, also another girl named Zoe. Zoe was straight, and Sammy and I weren't friends.



It is possible to have no sexual desire for anything but still be attracted to either sex. I'm the same way in that sort. Most I really ever want to do is cuddle.

[Nevermore]

Sounds exactly like me Rob. :) I'm glad I'm not alone.

[anonymous53]

Cuddling > Sex XD
Bad experiences in the past for me are a big no for sex... every time I do anything I break down. So yeah..

[Nevermore]

I can relate to you there. Anything further then kissing is really hard for me not to breakdown. Cuz it just rushes back the feeling.

[anonymous53]

Yeah :( :hug:
Well Kissing and Cuddling is plenty for this age XP. If they don't understand then that's their problem.

[SWMG]

It think you might just be curious and maybe you just feel really comfortable with someone and that might give you a sense of attraction maybe

[Nevermore]

Maybe, but I'm so confused on how I feel. I just know I like guys and girls, and feel attracted to both almost equally. I think I like guys a little more. But I could see myself in the end with either.