gay parents

[boysboysboys]

ok im not really sure if this goes here so please move if you need to!

you need to know im gay for this! lol

right,
well lately ive been thinking about my future a lot, cos im in my final year at school and ive only got a couple of months left. and i thought about dating and guys and stuff, but one thing i thought about was the distant future. so when i settle down with a guy.

one thing that i have always wanted in my life, is to have my own children. ive always wanted to be a dad. idk why? i just have!

ive come to terms that i would be using an egg donor and a surrogate and i understand how big the responsibility is to have a child. and i wouldnt bring the baby up alone id have my partner!

but what i really want to know is, what do people think about gay couples having their own kids? do you think its healthy? normal? do you think the kid would get confused having 2 dads and no mum? wat about at school- any thoughts about that?

ive only really discussed with one of my best friends so this is quite personal! haha sorry if this was long to read! thx :)

[lenny774]

me being gay,and thinking about this a lot myself i believe that if you love the child with the same amount of love as any other parent would love there kid then your doing a good job as a parent.

[Syvelocin]

Other people will think a lot of shit. But I promise you, for the kids, which is all that matters, it will be incredibly normal. If you raise them with two dads, they won't know the difference. You teach them that all families are different, that some have two dads, some have two mums, and some are a mum and a dad. They won't know the difference. You should research the studies they've done there. They've done studies on pretty much everything regarding kids raised in a household with gay parents. For the kids, it's just the norm. If anything, they're more proud, more sensible, and any way else, it doesn't affect them.

[Sosaku]

I heard, that kids raised with gay parents are more accepting, more intelligent, less aggravated, more likely to make friends, and just be more sociable.

[clr9823]

I believe the statistics show there is no difference in the sexuality of kids brought up by gay parents compared to straight ones, and as Sosaku said the kids are more accepting, intelligent and liberal. And as gay couples need to try harder I believe they will have thought more about the kid and be more ready for that. BUT... these kids are going to experience some bullying in school as a result and, being bi myself, I'd have to weigh that up to see if I think it is acceptable to put my kid through that for my own desires... although the only way to cure society of it's bigotry in general is simply to expose them to more of it and disarm their qualms.

Oh, and PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE adopt rather than surrogate etc... we have enough kids needing a home, and being gay without a natural way to have children presents you with a wonderful opportunity to help these kids so don't waste it. My two cents.

[smitty35]

Ya, your kids will get some taunting at school. I think it is perfectly healthy AND normal to have gay parents. This is the way to go if you want your own kid. And maybe you can have 2 kids as a couple. Your partner can have his own biological kid and you can have one of your own. So it will be a family and they can be brothers :-)


P.S or sisters, lol

[Tristin.]

im gay and i want kids, always have. i like you have thought of surrogates etc and i think its perfectaly normal. as others have said, if the child is brought up well informed, the child will know no different. The child will become more tollerant, accepting and freed from the bigotry and narrow view of society if anything.

So, if you want to have kids, have them, but treat it well, give it alll the love you have, even if it annoys the child, tell it you love it everyday, sit down and have family meal every night, i suspect you would do this anyway, but whenever people mention kids etc, i always put this.