I'm confused! -.-

[rockabye baby]

Ever since I was about 7 I've had this one dream over and over again.
All I can ever remember is being at my dad's house at the age of 5, I'm asleep in my bed then all of a sudden my dad's in my room he starts to do things that I don't ever want to say out loud and then I wake up in a cold sweat
The thing is I can actually remember waking up one night at my dads and seeing him in my room, he was laid on my bed and before I could ask what he was doing he left my room muttering something under his breath about how he 'shouldn't be doing this, but it was the closest he was going to get to my mum'
I've been so confused for a long time now my dad denies any of that happening, but I can remember it like it was yesterday!
I just needed to get this off my chest and wondered if anyone had anything they could say on the situation at all, any helpful comments are appreciated

[Fiction]

I won't pretend i'm an expert on this type of stuff but if you can actually remember your dad going out of your room saying those types of things then I guess the dreams have a high chance of being true.
Lots of people experience black outs of these types of things, so it is highly possible, but none of us can tell you if it true or not.
You say your dad denies these things? So you've spoken to your dad about it?

[HellHound]

What was your dad's reaction?

[MacMilker]

they say dreams are sometimes reflections of our past
you could be experiencing a flashback dream, but maybe in more vivid detail, or how it exactly happened which is unlikely, anyways.
I mean I would probably go to counseling, reoccurring dreams generally don't just poof go away..
Theres really no other solution, talking to him about it wouldn't really make them go away, it could just make the dreams worse.
If you wanna talk to me about it, I'm always here
Best of luck

[Syvelocin]

What I think with cases like these (people having dreams of abuse or little flashbacks, without knowing for sure if they actually happened) is that the person suppresses the memories of the abuse so much, that they themselves forget that it happened, but unconsciously they do know it did happen. And since dreams deal with the subconscious mind instead of the conscious mind, that can come through.

I had a bit of that myself, suppressing memories of abuse. My therapist wanted to bring it out again for healing purposes, and I remember it more than I used to. It's a tough and scary situation, and I just hope for the best for you. I don't really know what else to say.

[Spook]

I agree with fiction. If you vividly remember those facts and mutterings, then it is highly likely that your dreams are true. We may not realize it, but these things can replay in our mind and dreams, without us even knowing that we remembered them.

If it isn't continuing, I don't think there's much you can do because you don't have any proof that he did those things. :(

Anyhow, I wish you the best. ~Caitlin

[moon_lit_angel]

It sounds like it has happened hun, im sorry to say that, i know that i keep having some dreams about my abuse, i was about 10 when it happened first...

[rockabye baby]

thanks for the comments some are helpful
yes I have kind of spoken to my dad about it before, I didn't ask him straight out about abuse, but I did ask him questions like why he went into my room and why he would be laid next to me when I woke up, but my dad usually gets angry and says I'm being stupid and that no one will believe me if I say anything :/ I'm so confused at the moment and don't know what to do, I am considering counseling to see if they can help me remember some suppressed memory or what ever this dream is. At the moment my mum and family are helping me and believe that I have suppressed a memory so that I can't remember it happening, but that my mind can remember it when I am unconscious. So yeah thank you so much for your comments! You have made me realize that I'm not just being stupid like I always believed from my dad! x

[Lil Ill]

I think it's a bad sign if he says "no 1 will believe you if you tell" if you haven't done anything since then didn't get yourself checkout, either way I would definitely look into counseling. I hope it all works out is that it turns out to be just dreams

[Random3r]

heyya rockabye baby ,, sometimes you take note of things that happen in your sleep and you may remember them at a later date,, when i was younger my mum would shout at me to get up for school but i would just remember it as been part of my dream,, the point of my random rant is that whn you are sleeping you are still conscious to a point and may be taking note of what is going on around you mentally. i take it that your mum and dad are appart?? dont mind me askin,, But have you asked your mum why your dad would want to do anyhing at all to get at you or your mum?????? your dad is guilty if he has said he shouldent be doing something i would have said :(. mailz me if you need help or want to talk :D

[rockabye baby]

yeah random3r my parents have been split since I was about 5 which was when my dad started doing that or it's the earliest I can remember it happening :/ I've asked my mum before and she's just said that him and his family have been trying to get at my mum since they split and that they'd go through me if they had to
and I've been to a bit of counseling so far and am working on it to see, the dreams are still reoccurring as ever, but I don't think they'll ever go away tbh
and thanks (:

[Random3r]

Ahh its fine and all the best with look on that, I think at the age you are now he will find it hard to domminate you or use you to get to your mum as you will have a mind of your own and understand what is best in the situation :')

[Aubrie]

It sounds like a suppressed memory through a dream. Of course, I'm no expert. If you're positive you remember him muttering that and if he gets angry when you bring it up, I'm sorry to say, but it probably did happen. Also, the fact that he says no one will believe you is a major red flag. Maybe if you tried talking to a therapist or even your mom, it would help.

[senior.2013]

You probably have dreams about it because it happened, sorry. The fact that it has been 'blacked out' as some said, is most likely your brains way of repressing it, saying "It never happened, you didn't want it to happen, you don't remember it happening." But that part of your brain also keeps bringing it to your attention, in your dreams, saying "It happened, heres the proof!"

Im no dream expert or family councelor, this is my take on the given situation as provided by the OP and replies.
I put this on all my posts because I mean it with my heart: You have plenty of people on here who are more than happy to help you. If all you need is someone to listen, I'm here. My email is under my contact info and feel free to click it any time.