Sex and Sadness?

[Ambrosia]

I feel weird posting in P101. I don't consider myself in puberty anymore but this IS sex related. But I doubt anyone will even answer. Worth a try.

When I have sex I refuse to reach climax mainly because of the horribly depressing feelings that wash over me only seconds after. Whether it be with a guy or not I end up with suicidal thoughts, unable to stop myself from crying, and just all together hating life. I need to make it clear I am NOT ashamed of sex or anything sex related so this doesn't happen because I feel ashamed of what i've just done. I've never regretted anything sexual I've ever done and hopefully never will. It's probably been over nine months since I've reached the end while having sex mainly because of this. I can do it alone but only because there's no guy there to think he did something wrong when I break down sobbing.

So does anyone else have this problem (Sex with a partner or without)? Or know what causes it?

[briannafrmhell]

i cried for 10 minutes the first time i had an orgasm its like a big release of emotions. i cant explain if it was sadness maybe a big releif of all of your stress coming out at once. so i can relate but never suicidal. i hope it becomes better for u =(

[RAWWR]

All the time. I never let myself reach orgasm because I just hate myself for it.
I think mine comes from the sexual abuse when I was younger, I feel guilty for getting enjoyment out of something that has caused me so much pain and therefore I should hate.
Has there been any abuse in your past that could be linked?

[Ambrosia]

No, never. Sex has never been anything people have put me down about I've never been sexually abused. That's why I find this so weird and annoying.

[solosarah]

At a time in my life Everytime I masturbated I became sad and really guilty for no real reason. It passed, but only after I talked to someone about it.

[Quick_Sylver]

:hug: Have you been witholding emotions lately? Pretending to be okay a lot, when you're really not? Orgasms are a tension releaser, stress reducer, and all around relief. It can break walls that are keeping the sadness from really "hitting" you. This could be a possible reason.

[Ambrosia]

^ Possibly. Could be...Well. Screw that. -.-

[swisss21]

when i had my first time, i held my bf tightly for almost 3-4 minutes. I couldn't see any light, the darkness was all around and i could feel lots of things of pleasure at the same time. The each and every muscle of my body was contracted and after 3-4 minutes a got relaxed and then i saw my bf on the top of me. I then felt bad and sad for next 2 hours. That day i didn't speak to my mom and dad and slept early, dreaming the sex only.

[Ambrosia]

I'm not talking about my first time though. I've been sexually active for a long time =P I wasn't sad or withdrawn in any way after my first time.

[Grayeyes]

It may be just your hormones. Having an orgasm can really make all your hormones go crazy.