Why is everyone so terrified of it?

[lightkun]

All the time in this section, I always hear "does that make me gay?" or "I'm str8, but..."

I just don't understand how being gay is so terrible. Like I understand if you want to keep it a secret. But when I admitted to myself that I was bisexual, it wasn't hard or anything.
"does that make me gay" well so what if it does. You had fun didn't you?

[HikaruTheHunter]

When I admitted that I was bi to my parents they were totally understanding and I felt really good. It's just that I don't know if I can tell my really close friends...I don't want to lose them. :)

[Infidelitas]

Puberty for Boys :arrow: Teen Sexuality

[lolimbrando]

Some people arw scared about the world not bein accepting of them. They should be though. They will tell complete strangers but they wont tell their best friend from like birth?

[HikaruTheHunter]

Some people arw scared about the world not bein accepting of them. They should be though. They will tell complete strangers but they wont tell their best friend from like birth?

Well I can tell anyone but one in particular it's super hard for me because he's my best friend and he really doesn't like to hang out with Gay people or Bi people that much (or at least I don't think he does from what I've heard) so I'm pretty much stuck in a corner.

[lightkun]

Well I can tell anyone but one in particular it's super hard for me because he's my best friend and he really doesn't like to hang out with Gay people or Bi people that much (or at least I don't think he does from what I've heard) so I'm pretty much stuck in a corner.

I'm in the same boat man. It sucks!

[HikaruTheHunter]

It's just really hard...you know? My only true best friend and I can't tell him because I'm just scared... I feel like crying right now honestly...and he's right next to me...So I can't.

[lightkun]

It's just really hard...you know? My only true best friend and I can't tell him because I'm just scared... I feel like crying right now honestly...and he's right next to me...So I can't.

It's total shit how people you love might not accept you if you where gay. My best friend is a homophobe. I wish I could tell her so bad! Then I would tell my parents and everyone else if I could just tell her. :'(

[Fruit_Tart.]

Yes people have fun, but I think it's the fear of having your personal life spread to people that might not accept being homosexual. :/ It sucks not having anyone there for you, but waiting all that time will eventually change for you. All that time waiting will be added on to the time you'll enjoy being gay/bi, whatever you are.

People come here to show their deepest secrets and how they feel because they can't in reality, just like I can't. It's sad knowing that there are people that won't even look at you because you're who you are. But... they can't hurt you unless you let them.

Friends come and go, and I've just completely given up on friends at the moment. If your friends can't accept you, then what's the point of having any at all? Making new friends doesn't hurt. Ditching your old friends may hurt, but in that process it'll make you a stronger person.

[ohsnap]

It's not that people think being gay is terrible.. not at all. They're just afraid of what it means - if they will get acceptance, how much harder it is to find love, being teased in school etc. Just making things complicated really.

[Matt Matoran]

I think that people here don't think being gay is wrong, they just don't like the social implications of what will happen because of their sexuality. A lot of people out there will change their views on a person completely just because they are gay or bisexual.

[Dunce]

It's scary because suddenly you realize something about yourself that's new and such a huge deal. Sexuality is such a huge deal, it comes into almost every aspect of your life and it can be terrifying to think you're gay if you've always thought you were straight.
Also, there's a fear of what people will say about you. A fear that your friends won't understand. And there's a huge fear of what parents will think. Questioning your sexuality can be terrifying because sexuality is something that affects almost everything, and suddenly you're questioning it. That's all really.

[Severus Snape]

Because western society has stigmatized homosexuality. Homosexual has become synonymous with the terms "idiot", "outcast", and "weird". Most teens don't want to be different, they want to fit in with the group. The majority of teens, indeed the human population, is straight.

[PAfarmerkid]

Well, for me, Im bi, but I really want to be straight. I want to be normal (straight..), and its just from the way people talk about gays that make me want to be straight. I personally feel like an outcast, and I cant be myself at school..

IMO, if every gay/bi person was open in the world it wouldnt be so bad, there are more gay/bi people than anyone knows about, and it wouldnt be such in un-normal or weird thing anymore.

[Apollo.]

I was terrified of being gay because now I have to think about coming out and that is alot more scary

[anonymous.john]

You have to understand that there are a lot of naive people out there. Just as you demand understanding of them, they require understanding of you. People can say they're straight simply because they might be. I'm straight, but I've watched porn with a male friend, does that make me gay? No. I know that, but some people might not understand that, so be calm, be courteous, and answer as many questions as possible because that's how knowledge is acquired in our world.

[Tagg]

People are terrified of not being accepted. I am gay and I accept it, but I haven't told anyone except my best friend; I'm afraid that if I did, I would lose friends and get made fun of. Middle school is hard enough without making yourself an outcast.

[Craig1995]

Being gay can cause massive problems in some peoples lifes and even ruin there relationship with there family.
So yeah like everyone else said it's not being gay that scares them it's others veiws towards them. And its a shame people still can't accept gay people.

[Aeroflux17]

When I admitted that I was bi to my parents they were totally understanding and I felt really good. It's just that I don't know if I can tell my really close friends...I don't want to lose them. :)

Im here .. you can count on. :K

[Lights]

Because western society has stigmatized homosexuality. Homosexual has become synonymous with the terms "idiot", "outcast", and "weird". Most teens don't want to be different, they want to fit in with the group. The majority of teens, indeed the human population, is straight.

Precisely what was said here.

It is far more difficult to lead a Homosexual life than a Heterosexual one, generally speaking. Everything becomes so much more of a challenge because as was said, Western Society has 'stigmatized' Homosexuality meaning that Homosexuals become outcasts who are looked at differently.

Accepting that you're gay is far from easy. Coming to terms with the fact that you're gay means coming to terms with the fact you will never have children the natural way; the fact that many will look at you differently and perhaps even reject you; the fact that your dating pool has become so much more limited. There are many troubles that arise when a Homosexual decides to 'come out'.

Bisexuality is far easier to come to terms with because at least then you're able to have an honest relationship with the opposite gender without it being any kind of lie. You can still live a Heterosexual life-path quite easily as an individual who classes themselves as Bisexual.

It takes maturity to come to terms with sexuality, especially when you have no one who you can relate with in real life.

[Syvelocin]

I make a bit of a deal about it not because I'm scared, as that's what I usually say, that it's really no big deal. My attraction to girls is something I relate to things like attraction to people of certain traits, like hair colour and eye colour. I'm not usually for blonds, just like a heterosexual person isn't for their same sex. But in terms of sexuality, it's exactly like that, just a taste in partners. Continuing on my example, I don't usually like blonds. But sometimes, I'm attracted to a blond girl. Sometimes, I have a crush on a guy.

Now, why I find it to be a big deal, is A. Discovering something about yourself that you, at one time, had no clue of, and B. Personally, it's an issue because I'm married. So... ahh... yeah. My sexuality crisis I'm having is a bit... crucial.

For other people, yeah, the big thing is that sexuality is the new race. While racism still occurs, sexuality is going down just like it did before. First stage, people aren't familiar with the fact that there are other races. Second stage, people discover other races. Third stage, people discriminate because they fear what they don't understand. Fourth stage, through new generations, we become more accepting until the issue is largely minimized. Lather, rinse, repeat. That's how sexuality is. We're just beginning the fourth stage I feel, but we're still well into the third stage.

It's that teens don't know who they are until they're well into their twenties at least, and realizing that little part of who they are is scary. Being different can be scary to people who aren't used to it. Not everyone has that mentality that some of us have, that sexuality and not following the herd isn't a big deal. And the people who don't, they're getting this wake-up call that they can't fully fit in like they wish they could, or did previously.

[smitty35]

The thing that makes it so hard for people to admit that they are gay is what others around them will think about it all. That is the number 1 reason that prevents some from "coming out". I have no problem with gay people. Gay people are people like you and me.

[Bkylblk]

All the time in this section, I always hear "does that make me gay?" or "I'm str8, but..."

I just don't understand how being gay is so terrible. Like I understand if you want to keep it a secret. But when I admitted to myself that I was bisexual, it wasn't hard or anything.
"does that make me gay" well so what if it does. You had fun didn't you?
I completely agree