Arranged Marriages

[Sogeking]

Would you let the people who love and know you the best select a potential partner for you to marry?

One main advantage to this is that you don't need to worry about dating because you will have a person chosen for you by the people who know you best. Of course you will have the final say if you want the person to marry you or not. Another benefit is that divorce rates for arranged marriages is considerably lower than marriages made out of choice.It's sort of like online matchmaking but it's made IRL and by the people who know you best.:D

This question is mostly aimed at girls since they are usually have their love ones choose their spouses for them. But guys can comment too.

[Sage]

Would you let the people who love and know you the best select a potential partner for you to marry?
If you're referring to parents I can safely say that most peoples' parents are far from knowing them at all.

One main advantage to this is that you don't need to worry about dating because you will have a person chosen for you by the people who know you best.
Why on earth would anyone desire to go through life having never experienced the thrill of pursuit and the pain of rejection? There are countless experiences in finding someone you can relate to that I think should not be missed out.

Of course you will have the final say if you want the person to marry you or not.
Not always.

Another benefit is that divorce rates for arranged marriages is considerably lower than marriages made out of choice.
This doesn't mean very much considering societies that still largely practice arranged marriage have all sorts of cultural differences that that statistic does not take into account, or at least, does not reference.

It's sort of like online matchmaking but it's made IRL and by the people who know you best.:D
I still can't stress enough that parents almost never know their children best. I wouldn't let my best friend arrange a marriage for me, much less my parents.

[Sogeking]

If you're referring to parents I can safely say that most peoples' parents are far from knowing them at all.
Not just parents, but anyone who knows you extremely well


Why on earth would anyone desire to go through life having never experienced the thrill of pursuit and the pain of rejection? Probably because they are afraid of being rejected.

There are countless experiences in finding someone you can relate to that I think should not be missed out.
Such as?

Not always.
True, but in most cases you do.

This doesn't mean very much considering societies that still largely practice arranged marriage have all sorts of cultural differences that that statistic does not take into account, or at least, does not reference.
True, but it is generally understood that divorce rates are still lower than marriages made from choice. (Putting aside the cultures who don't allow divorce)

I still can't stress enough that parents almost never know their children best. I wouldn't let my best friend arrange a marriage for me, much less my parents.
see point 1

[Sage]

Not just parents, but anyone who knows you extremely well
You've been here long enough to know what people think of my ego, but not even I would ever be so bold as to claim I can pick someone's ideal life partner for them.


Probably because they are afraid of being rejected.
You're right, and I personally find it pathetic to live your life through fear.


Such as?
I just said. Trial and error, rejection and heartbreak. Sheltering yourself from these things isn't healthy. No, I would think sheltering yourself from these things is one of the least healthy things you can ever do.

True, but in most cases you do.
You can't speak for millions of people. Behind closed doors, pressure from strict and/or very traditional parents may shatter the illusion of a choice in the matter. Most people, as well, wish to please their parents, and so the decision is hardly without pressure.

True, but it is generally understood that divorce rates are still lower than marriages made from choice.
If you can't understand the point I just raised on cultures and unaccounted factors, I'm not going to waste my time explaining it in even simpler words.

see point 1
See case-in-point: No one will ever know you better than you know yourself, and if you happen to run across someone who does, somewhere down the line you have done a great disservice and failure to yourself. The unexamined life is not worth living.

[lenny774]

No because my parents would prob set me up with A girl And considering im gay...no jst nO

[anonymous.john]

Sage is way right here.

[justmehere]

Would you let the people who love and know you the best select a potential partner for you to marry?

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yes. i would. because it seems like i would have a better chance of staying married until one of us passes away.