A dream of a friend.

[schrei jess]

Well I had a dream about my best friend. I kind of liked it too. In the dream we were kind of having a "secret" love/fling, whatever. And in parts I kissed her and we hugged and such. It felt...kind of right. Does that make any sense? I dont know if Im gay or not, and I suppose that it doesnt really matter right now as Im not too interested in dating at the moment. But if I think of myself with any girl other than my best friend, I dont feel the same, it's only when I imagine it with her. Ive had dreams where I was kissing other girls as well, and I didnt mind then either, but something just feels right when it is with her. How can I stop feeling this way? I know that she doesnt think of other girls this way, she would only use it to make more guys find her attractive, which is weird because every guy that she meets already is like in love with her, but still. And the more I think of this, it just makes me so much more confused, because Ive never really thought about whether Im straight, gay, anything. Id just always assumed straight. I know this question is asked a lot, but how can you tell? I know that no one can say for me, I have to know myself, but are there any signs?

And come to think of it, not sure if this even matters, but Ive always liked gay couples way better than straight couples. I love watching shows with gay couples, I just think it has more depth than a guy and a girl together, like for some reason it just means more. I also have an obsession with gay guys, I love yaoi, and write stories a lot that include sex.

[Glasgow]

Well. Think about this.. Do you have any feelings for guys? (Besides that bill guy :P) Im pretty sure you've never dated a guy before, so you cant really tell if you are attracted to guys like you are with your bestfriend.. Because a bestfriend is somewhat of a partner, you see them alot, and share anything with them. Its possible that you are lesbian, but you could be straight or bi aswell. But i'd say, whatever gender turns you on the most, thats your preferance. Hope i helped

[schrei jess]

Ive dated a guy before, for like a year, I really loved him. It was kind of a complicated thing though, it was when I had had my first serious depressive episode, I started cutting, I guess I was more absorbed with myself and my problems than him. But I know I loved him, I really did.

And I do like guys, Im attracted to them and everything but I couldnt see myself having sex with one, doesnt seem right to me, like at all.

[Trademarked]

well. a way you can tell is these dreams you have. not even ive had dreams like that and you know how gay i am! lol.

but i know, that right now, im not into girls. though i know that i shouldnt limit that. it depends on the person. not the gender.

[schrei jess]

You're right, and Ive always believed that. That love is not restricted to anything, not gender, race, or age (not saying that adult/child relationships are okay). I just feel like for some reason, that I need to catagorize myself into straight, bi, or gay.

[ScotsGirl]

I just feel like for some reason, that I need to catagorize myself into straight, bi, or gay.

I think that it is really sad that society has made you feel that way...
You shouldnt need to label/categorize yourself. :(
There are enough people in this world who are going to try and label you, you dont need to do it to yourself. Just be who you are.
:hug:

it depends on the person. not the gender.

I agree :)

xxx

[schrei jess]

I know, it is kind of ironic too. Ive been labeled a lot in my life already, you'd think Id be opposed to it. And I am in a sense, but when you think about it, a lot of things are labels. Names, ages, genders...a lot of things. But I guess I wont worry about what I am for now, Ill save it for when I need to know, Im content just doing what Im doing and liking the things I like, even if I do question my sexuality when I do them.

Thanks guys :)

[Trademarked]

idk...

before i really liked girls, but i was actually quite disgusted with girls and their (vagina... ewwwww)

but i hadnt yet been mentally attracted to guys yet.

nobody but you knows where you'll go from here.

[greenwise]

I agree with you riley; vaginasareeww ;]

but anyways;
this is how it went with me :
Untill like 6th grade i was straight; well; i thought thats how i should be. i wasnt blind to whether or not guys were cute though; in seventh grade i started to become emotionally intouch with guys, not just girls. and in 8th grade [now] i am not attracted to a girls body. doesnt mean that they dont have a nice physice; but im just not.. sexually attracted, i guess.

IDK why i told you that.
there was a point somewhere but i forgot what it was :]


I just feel like for some reason, that I need to catagorize myself into straight, bi, or gay.

Well; if you would have a relationship with a girl if you were inlove,
and you would also have a relationship with a guy and you were in love, then i suppose you are considered bi?
or maybe you have a stronger preference towards guys; you could consider yourself straight.

idk
:]
ily.